The bell of the New Year has just rang, and in the blink of an eye, the first day of the Lunar New Year has become a memory, and we ushered in the second day of the Lunar New Year. On this day, according to tradition, married daughters return to their parents' homes with their husbands and children for the annual New Year's greeting ceremony. So, how should we choose gifts on this special day, and how to behave appropriately?
Chinese New Year is an important time of year for family reunions. On such days, the performance of every son-in-law will be carefully observed by the mother-in-law and father-in-law. Therefore, understand".Don't give two things, don't do four thingsThe importance of this is particularly crucial.
1. Two items will not be sent
1.Heartless and undignified "gift:
When returning to your parents' home to pay New Year's greetings, choosing a gift is a very important thing. The gift not only represents the blessing and filial piety to the elders, but also reflects the son-in-law's taste and emotional intelligence. Therefore, when choosing a gift, care should be taken to avoid the following "unintentional and unseemly" gifts:
Household items that are too rudimentary: A few dollars of toothbrushes, towels, soap, etc., such gifts are too cheap, do not seem to be attentive enough, and do not reflect respect for the elders.
Inappropriate food: Some foods that are easy to cause allergies or gastrointestinal discomfort, as well as some foods with bad meanings, such as pork head, plain water, etc.
Items with poor meanings: Items with a ferocious aura, such as Zhong Kui, Guan Gong, etc.; and some items with bad meanings, such as broken items, items with black or white color, etc.
Gifts that are too small: Giving only one gift, or only a few small things, does not seem generous enough, and cannot express enough sincerity.
Gifts that are too expensive: Jewelry worth tens of thousands of yuan, brand-name bags, etc., although such gifts seem expensive, they are also easy to cause pressure on the elders and make them feel unbearable.
When choosing gifts, you should choose some decent, practical, and auspicious items according to the actual needs and preferences of the elders. For example: health care products, massagers, blood pressure monitors, etc.; Practical category: household appliances, electronic products, daily necessities, etc.; Auspicious categories: jade, calligraphy and painting, ornaments, etc.
2.Gifts that are too small
When returning to your parents' home to pay New Year's greetings, the number of gifts is also a detail that needs to be paid attention to. If the number of gifts is too small, it is easy to appear not generous enough, and it is impossible to express enough sincerity. As an outsider's son-in-law, you can't just want to send your parents-in-law away with just a few apples. The number of gifts should be moderate, and it is best to choose "four, six, eight" pieces, which means "four flat and eight stable, six and six shun". Octagonal items such as safety buckles are very suitable, representing the safety of family reunions and the health of the elderly. You should also prepare some small red envelopes to distribute to your mother's children and younger generations.
It is best to actively help with household chores and show a diligent side. Chat more with your mother's family to enhance your relationship with each other. Be careful to choose the right gift based on your own financial situation to avoid financial burden.
Returning to your parents' home to pay New Year's greetings is not only an opportunity to express filial piety and gratitude, but also an important moment to show your emotional intelligence and cultivation. When choosing gifts, you should pay attention to the appropriate number and choose according to the preferences and needs of the elders, so as to make this return to your parents' home to pay a more complete and pleasant New Year's greeting.
2. Don't do four things
1.Too ostentatious to show off:
During the Spring Festival, when family and friends reunite and everyone gathers together, if the son-in-law is too flamboyant to show off his achievements, wealth or status when he returns to his parents' home, it will give people the impression that no one is in sight and arrogant, which makes the mother's family feel uncomfortable, and it seems that you are too lacking in emotional intelligence and behavior.
Too flamboyant and ostentatious behavior is also easy to attract jealousy and criticism. During the Spring Festival, it is inevitable that there will be some comparisons between relatives and friends. If a son-in-law shows off too much, it may cause jealousy and even criticism from others.
When greeting the New Year at your mother's house, you should pay attention to your words and deeds: when you speak and do things, you should pay attention to proportion, and avoid exaggerating and exaggerating your behavior.
It is also necessary to maintain a modest and cautious attitude, treat others politely in front of the mother's family, respect the elders, and talk more about family matters or work and life matters with the elders, so as to enhance the relationship between family members.
2.Too much involvement in the family affairs of relatives:
Some sons-in-law may commit crimes because they are warm-hearted or good teachers."Too much involvement in the family affairs of relatives:Wrong. As everyone knows, this will not only cause trouble for yourself, but also affect the relationship between relatives.
If you don't know how to respect the privacy of your relatives and intervene in their conflicts without permission, you may add fuel to the fire and make things more complicated. Too much involvement in the family affairs of relatives will also put the son-in-law in a dilemma. If you take sides, you may offend the other; If you remain neutral, you may be seen as not caring about your mother's family.
As "outsiders", we should not talk about their household affairs in front of our relatives, and we should not point fingers at their family life. Don't inquire about your relatives' private affairs either, and don't comment on your relatives' family life at will.
3.A pair of "shopkeeper" shelves:
When families are reunited, it is everyone's responsibility to add joy and comfort to this reunion. If you just sit there and let someone else serve you tea, pour water, and clean up, it will not only make people feel uncomfortable, but it may also be seen as disrespectful to the family. Instead, being actively involved in household chores, such as helping with dishes, cleaning the room, preparing food, etc., can make the family feel cared for and respected.
Treat your mother's home as your own and respect your family's opinions and feelings. Don't wait for the arrangement of your mother's family, take the initiative to help with housework and reduce the burden on your mother's family. This is not only a courtesy, but also a sign of respect and love for the family. Doing so will make everyone feel more pleasant and comfortable, and deepen the bond between family members.
Try your best to avoid putting up a "shopkeeper" shelf, so as not to make others think that you are just here to enjoy and not willing to give. During the time of family reunion, it is very important to participate in household chores in moderation. Don't make yourself look like you're "throwing your hands off", but try your best to share the chores of the family.
4.Received red envelopes and gifts do not return gifts:
When you receive a red envelope or gift, always remember to return the gift in time to express your gratitude. This is not only a form of politeness, but also shows your emotional intelligence and upbringing. After receiving a gift or red envelope, if you don't return the gift in time, it will make people think that you don't know how to be grateful and don't know how to exchange gifts.
Whether it is a small gift or a red envelope, it carries the love and blessings for you. Therefore, by giving back, you are able to pass on the same warmth and blessings to the other person, deepening the emotional connection between each other.
When choosing a return gift, you can consider the other person's interests and needs, and strive to make the gift intimate and practical. It doesn't have to be expensive, it's all about showing your heart and gratitude. Whether it's a thank you letter, a thoughtful card, a small gift or a sincere blessing, it can convey your sincere gratitude.
Therefore, when the sons-in-law go back to their parents' homes, don't just care about their own happiness. It is the king to make the elderly happy, so that they can win their hearts, and only when there is respect will they be respected. In the final analysis, the Chinese New Year is a day when the family gets together, and only when everyone is happy, the Spring Festival will be more meaningful, and there will be good luck one after another.