From Wu Xie Yu s self digging grave, reflect on the original intention of parenting education

Mondo Education Updated on 2024-02-04

January 31, 2024, for Wu Xieyu, is the day he hits the road. This day ended Wu Xieyu's short life of less than 30 years.

The crime committed by Wu Xie Yu is heinous, what he did is heinous, and the end is also deserved. watched this young face finish the last journey of his life, and the reason turned out to be that he killed his biological mother who had worked hard to raise himself. Shouldn't we reflect on the roots of this human tragedy?

At the beginning of man, nature is good. Some people say that Wu Xie Yu was born a demon, and his family and growth environment cannot be the reason for him to destroy himself. In fact, finding the cause of the crime and exonerating him are completely different things, and the crimes committed by Wu Xie Yu cannot be forgiven for any reason. But is it really because of his human nature that he is evil? I think it is up for discussion, so let's analyze it from Wu Xieyu's growth experience. When Wu Xie Yu's mother Xie Tianqin was a child, when the *** family was beaten as a rightist, Xie Tianqin's father, that is, Wu Xie Yu's grandfather, was blind for some reason. Among Xie Tianqin's three siblings, she is the eldest daughter, and according to Xie Tianqin's sister, since she was a child, she has not allowed them to interact with outsiders, "Rightist families like ours are still blind, so don't go out to show jokes to others," Xie Tianqin said. The door of the Xie family was always closed, occasionally open, and if a neighbor passed by, Xie Tianqin would close the door. At that time, they basically lived in bungalows, and their homes had a small courtyard, and the courtyard gate was usually open. Xie Tianqin's younger brother also mentioned that his sister does have a bad personality, she doesn't do anything except read, and she can't integrate with the people around her. It can be seen that Xie Tianqin's personality became more withdrawn and even a little autistic due to his family's experiences in his childhood.

After graduating from university, Xie Tianqin had a good formal job, but she refused to get married and wanted to be single for the rest of her life. But Xie Tianqin's father used a hunger strike to force each other to die, and forced Xie Tianqin to marry Wu Zhijian, who had poor family conditions, the Wu family was a peasant family, his father died early, five sisters, one sister, three sisters, and one sister still has mental problems. Wu Zhijian is the only male in the family, and all the burdens naturally fall on his shoulders.

It can be said that Xie Tianqin's fate is sadistic. After marriage, the family was already in difficulty, and Wu Zhijian still needed to constantly subsidize the Wu sisters, especially the younger sister with mental problems, Wu Zhijian not only found a rich brother-in-law for her bride price, but also helped them raise two children. It can be seen from this that Xie Tianqin basically did not have a good life after marriage, and lived in hardships, they fulfilled the happiness of the Wu family sisters, but left the pain to themselves.

Later, Wu Zhijian died of liver cancer, and his father and grandfather also died of liver cancer. Is this just a trick of fate? It is not easy for Wu Xie Yu, who grew up in such a family environment, to be admitted to Peking University. Peking University is not a gimmick here, but a mark, Tsinghua University and Peking University can not be admitted by hard work alone, because these schools need to maintain the authority of the university, and they are extremely harsh on talent selection. While working diligently, you need to have certain natural qualifications to be admitted to such a first-class university. Xie Tianqin must have put a lot of effort into his son's studies, and while bearing huge family economic pressure, he was able to train his child to become a Peking University student, Xie Tianqin paid unimaginable hard work.

In Wu Xieyu's study, Xie Tianqin got her wish, but she never expected that Wu Xieyu's thoughts went astray, and her three views were distorted to the extreme, not only killing her mother with her own hands, but also carefully planning a ** to defraud relatives and friends of huge amounts of money, and plan how to escape responsibility. The French Open was restored, and Wu Xie Yu got the end he deserved.

Once, on September 11, 2009, Qi Pingping, an 18-year-old girl in Zhongshan, killed her father and mother and split her body. On March 20, 2013, 26-year-old Luo Xiaomin in Chengdu killed his mother and dismembered the body.

In the process of growing up, they also have different hardships and hardships in life or tribulations. It's all about the outlook on life. This shocking human tragedy has to make us reflect on what is the purpose of parenting, is it just for Tsinghua University and Peking University? There may be many parents who think so, thinking that as long as their children can be admitted to the ideal university, everything will be solved. Even almost all schools believe that as long as the child's grades go up, nothing matters. But the essence of education, I think, should be to cultivate how to behave in the first place! In particular, preschool education, elementary school, and junior high school are the stages of personality development, which are extremely important, and it is necessary to establish a correct and upward outlook on life and values.

In recent years, the education department also seems to be aware of this, and what ** rules and three character scripture have been introduced into teaching. But it didn't work very well because these things are out of place in today's time. For example, the cartoon "Rainbow Cat and Blue Rabbit Three Thousand Questions" is far less effective than the former children's program "Between Heaven and Earth" for popular science. It can be said that it is somewhat superficial, even quick success. Whether it is popular science or establishing a correct outlook on life, it requires a kind of moisturizing and silent skills, a deep foundation, and hard work. Don't put up empty shelves, rush for quick success, and be opportunistic. Reality can't deceive people.

I don't know when the original pure public preschool education was thrown out like a burden, except for a few aristocratic public kindergartens, the rest are basically private kindergartens, the teachers of these kindergartens are uneven, completely commercialized, so that the children of the bottom families can not get formal preschool education. The shadow of many children's childhood starts here, because since it is a purely commercial operation, those with poor family conditions will definitely look for the best cheap kindergartens, and these kindergartens must run at a low cost, because they also have to make profits to maintain, and the quality of childcare is not guaranteed. Incidentally, the so-called famous schools in primary and secondary schools gather the children of wealthy elites in addition to academic tyrants, resulting in excessive concentration of educational resources. As a result of the monopoly of educational resources, many children from poor families can only go to schools that do not enter the stream. Before they started, they lost their lives and lost their future, at least in their hearts, they know very well that they are at the bottom of the school, and the surrounding classmates and families are the bottom, and even many of them are still problem teenagers, they become lack self-confidence, lose confidence in the future, and begin to be world-weary. As I mentioned in a previous article, education reform requires the courage of a strong man to break his wrist, and one of them is to balance educational resources. Primary and junior high schools, do not set up famous schools or model schools, financial allocation should be equal to all schools, teachers should be evenly shared, whether you are a billionaire or a child from a poor family, you must have the same educational resources. This is an effective way to prevent children from developing psychological distortions in the process of growing up in childhood.

There is still a hurdle for a strong man to break his wrist, that is, to change the first grade to the second grade, and to raise the sub-course in the sub-course: ideology and morality to the height of the main course, and not to be a mere formality, and make it written and verbal. If it comes down to behavior, such as fighting, scolding, and disrespecting the teacher, you will be judged to fail, and you will not be able to go on to higher education or graduate if you fail your ideological and moral character. For the behavior of helping others and doing good deeds, high marks should be given, and priority should be given in further studies. It is necessary to find ways to improve students' communication skills, ability to work under pressure, and improve emotional intelligence. Teach students how to deal with setbacks. What I have mentioned so far, probably almost all schools will scoff at it, thinking that it is nonsense, crazy talk, and playing the piano indiscriminately. Indeed, schools that now regard the promotion rate as their life and students' scores as their lifeblood, if they regard the secondary subjects in the secondary courses as the main subjects, they will definitely go crazy. In fact, there is another layer of selfishness in this, that is, through high-quality students, the school ranking can be improved, and the higher the school ranking, the higher the financial subsidy. It is very dangerous for the primary and junior high school stages to establish children's outlook on life and values. Grades are only the back zero, and ideology and morality are the first 1, this truth, almost all schools have not figured out.

Wu Xie Yu is a typical example, a Peking University student, just like this.

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