In the original work of "Do You Know", the daughters-in-law of the Sheng family have their own characteristics, and each of them has its own extraordinary. The eldest daughter-in-law, Hai, was born in the prominent Hai family, her father and brother are both civil officials, and the family background is strong. Hai is not only knowledgeable, good at poetry and books, but also has a good family, and treats people and things more decently and thoughtfully, and is a good hand of the Sheng family.
The third daughter-in-law, Liu, is also a beautiful girl, she is erudite and talented, has a long-term vision and correct values. Although her face is not bright and moving, her temperament is extraordinary and admirable. She successfully led the third young master Chang Feng, who was originally a gentleman, back to the right path, and finally helped him to win the title of the gold list.
As for Shen Xiuqiao, the daughter-in-law of the fourth young master, she was born in an ordinary family, and compared with the two sisters-in-law, whether it is family background or treatment of people, she is very different. However, when she was mentioned, everyone was full of praise for her, and even compared her to two wonderful sisters-in-law. Why is that?
There are three reasons for this. First of all, Xiuqiao is well aware of her own shortcomings and never blindly compares with others. She witnessed first-hand how her sister-in-law properly handled the 50 or 60 families who came to pay their respects. For the origin of each family, the seniority, title, and seat order of the ladies who came to the door, the sister-in-law handled it in an orderly manner, without a trace of sideburns or sweat. She always maintained a proper smile, and easily controlled internal and external affairs, while ordering a dozen servants to work in a disorderly manner outside the door, and at the same time being able to go to the banquet to prepare dishes and joke for the elders. How many old ladies are full of praise for the sister-in-law. Xiuqiao was dumbfounded.
In addition, the third sister-in-law was pregnant when she held the Mid-Autumn Festival banquet, and she didn't know anything about it when she just entered the door. However, the third sister-in-law arranged everything lightly. She held her big belly, shook her head with a smile and sighed, then picked up her chopsticks and sat down at the table to eat. This kind of calmness and wisdom made Xiuqiao deeply admired.
Moreover, Xiuqiao's best friend Zhong family's sister married into the Zhou family, a big family of four generations. Sister Zhong cried to her more than once, complaining that she was very busy every day. Xiuqiao thinks that this is not to blame the Zhou family, because people are that kind of family, and they should marry a daughter-in-law who has been trained since childhood like the eldest sister-in-law and the third sister-in-law. And she herself does not have such a blessing, she can marry Changdong and live a stable life. Therefore, she does not envy Sister Zhong's busy life, but feels satisfied and glad that she can have a peaceful family. In that turbulent era, some families, such as the Hai family and the Liu family, had accumulated endless wealth and prestige, and compared to them, halfway pioneers like the family and the Zhong family were indeed difficult to match. However, she did not feel inferior or anxious because of this. She knew that her home was different from those of the world's houses, so she didn't compete with them blindly. She is not an aggressive person by nature and has a clear self-awareness, which allows her to get along happily with her two sisters-in-law.
Her skills are outstanding, especially her embroidery, which is superb. Since stepping into the family, she has often made clothes and accessories for her sisters-in-law, nephews and nieces, and even distant elders, earning praise from everyone. There is a mother-in-law in the family, that is, Aunt Xiang, the husband's biological mother. Aunt Xiang treats her and her third sister-in-law equally, and never interferes in the affairs of her son's room. She heard that before getting married, Aunt Xiang had persuaded her father-in-law to send away her husband's two rooms, which made her grateful to Aunt Xiang.
Seeing that Aunt Xiang was old and often waited in front of the public house, she couldn't help but feel sad. So, she carefully observed Aunt Xiang's figure, and then secretly made a set of close-fitting clothes for her. The outfit was made of soft cotton with fine stitches, just like the clothes she made for her mother. With a heart full of gratitude, she sews every detail with care. After she was done, she asked the little maid to secretly give the clothes to Aunt Xiang. Aunt Xiang didn't say anything, but her eyes showed more tenderness and a little touch.
When Aunt Xiang is sick, she will visit her when no one is there to comfort her in the future. After the separation, she hoped that her aunt could live a comfortable life. She also secretly told Aunt Xiang that because of this, Aunt Xiang's condition recovered very quickly. When the husband found out about this, his attitude towards her became more and more cordial.
Her embroidery skills were excellent, and she made a large number of clothes for her family, which made her sisters-in-law quite fond of her. And her behavior of secretly filial piety to Aunt Xiang also made her husband and aunt more caring for her. In that era of attaching importance to children, she did not give birth for two years, and wanted to find a suitable concubine for her husband, but was stopped by the kind mother-in-law Aunt Xiang. She comforted her and said that many people only got pregnant after three or four years, and Xiuqiao had only been married for two years, so there was no need to worry. And told her that the Sheng family is prosperous and has no need to worry about inheritance. These words moved Xiuqiao to tears. Seeing her anxiety, the husband wrote to her grandmother asking for help and advice. I'll help you call Mrs. He, and she will surely bring you comfort. Seeing that your husband and aunt care so much about you naturally relax, and it will not be long before you bring good news that you are pregnant. With a skill, can bring convenience to the family, and is filial and sensible, won't such a person be valued by his in-laws?
Another key point is "not much mouth". "It's not your business" here does not mean "seeing death and not saving yourself", but it means not to meddle in things, not to stir up trouble, and not to probe into other people's privacy. Xiuqiao's mother-in-law prayed for the blessing of the frail old lady in the temple of her old family in Youyang, which sounded a little strange. But Xiuqiao is timid by nature and won't ask too much.
Once Xiuqiao went out to visit a sick nurse, and after the third sister-in-law stopped by to see Aunt Lin, the two went home together. At that time, the mother-in-law and the mother-in-law and sister-in-law were not at home, and the third sister-in-law was the housekeeper, and Aunt Lin often made trouble for her. The third sister-in-law knew about this situation and was unwilling to let the third brother go to see Aunt Lin, so she had to deal with it herself. Xiuqiao also understood this situation, and she was about to take the initiative to part ways with her third sister-in-law, but she accidentally fainted from heat stroke.
Between her half-dreaming and half-awake, she heard the conversation between the third sister-in-law and Aunt Lin. Aunt Lin said bitterly that she would clean up the third sister-in-law in the future. The third sister-in-law is not afraid, directly indicating that the third brother will not offend the Liu family for a foul mother, let alone the poet friend he cares about the most. Xiuqiao never said these words to others, only told her mother. The mother said that the third sister-in-law is not easy, and the surname Lin is retribution.
Woe comes from the mouth", this sentence is true. A lot of people get into trouble because they talk too much. If you shouldn't know about it, don't say more. Although Xiuqiao's qualifications are mediocre, she has firmly established herself in this mansion full of scholars.