When Qin Hao didn't have the opportunity to perform, it was his parents who were silently bearing the pressure and moving forward for him.
In the 3 years before graduating from Chinese opera, Qin Hao was either pushing scripts or constantly running for his own scripts.
At that time, Qin Hao had no opportunity to film, but he had friendships with many friends in the circle, so he still spent a lot of money. Once, a group of friends came to him from Singapore, and Qin Hao naturally wanted to be hospitable.
When his parents learned that Qin Hao was going to entertain friends, they remitted 30,000 yuan to his bank account.
Qin Hao booked a private room that night and invited friends to sing and dine together. To his surprise, however, his friends gathered each other, and in the end nearly thirty or forty people gathered. When checking out, Qin Hao was surprised to find that he had spent more than 10,000 yuan.
After his friend left, Qin Hao's mood became heavier and heavier.
He knew in his heart that his parents were not rich people, but they supported him to pursue his "acting dream" at any cost.
He remembered his mother's frugality, and he would definitely not choose to take the bus for 1 yuan, but would choose 5 cents.
He realized that he was 30 years old, but he had no achievements, no opportunities to act, and he had to rely on his parents to live.
Qin Hao finally scolded himself bitterly: "I'm so unreasonable, I can't let this situation continue!" ”
Qin Hao finally couldn't persevere, because he saw that he was hopeless in filming.
He told his parents: "Maybe I can consider a different career, I feel that I have no future as an actor." ”
I thought that my parents would be relieved because of my abandonment, but I didn't expect them to start opposing, especially the mother Zhang Hong, who strongly supported her son not to give up.
Mother Zhang Hong told Qin Hao: "Look, you originally wanted to be an actor in the Chinese drama, but in the end you succeeded." Eighteen generations of our ancestors did not practice this profession, but now you can do it, and we will go to see your show every year in the future. When I saw you on stage, I was so proud. I can't believe my son is so good at acting! It's amazing! ”
With the support of his mother, Qin Hao persevered for four years, and finally ushered in directors Wang Xiaoshuai and Lou Ye.
The film directed by this pair of directors is satirical in Qin Hao's words: "They are all gray literary and artistic".
Most of Qin Hao's roles in the film are informal, or unshaven, or sloppy, and most importantly, they are all "scumbags".
Although Qin Hao won the title of best actor with these films and traveled to Cannes, his career is still a tricky topic in the eyes of friends and family.
His mother Zhang Hong complained that in those years, Qin Hao had been playing these "scumbag" roles, which made relatives and friends worry that he would be badly influenced.
Qin Hao later realized that although his parents were proud of him in those years, he was also criticized by the people around him. In the social circle of parents, having children play such a "role" is not honorable for parents.
However, his parents never mentioned these doubts and pressures in front of Qin Hao.
Mom not only kept silent about doubts, but also collected all the newspapers and magazines about Qin Hao.
Whether it is good news or bad news for Qin Hao, every time my mother will clip the newspaper and collect it into the book.
How many years my mother has collected newspapers is because of how many years Qin Hao has acted.
When her mother took out her collection, even Yi Nengjing, who was careful and self-conscious, was shocked, and exclaimed, "Qin Hao is really lucky to have such a mother." "It's surprising.
Mom not only supported Qin Hao's career, but also taught him the truth of being a man.
In Zhang Hong's concept, children should understand such a truth from an early age:
Be an upright person, don't go crooked, be independent and assertive, and know how to be grateful.
Qin Hao once emphasized that his mother had always taught him to remember the people who helped him and know how to repay the kindness of others, whether before or after becoming famous.
Qin Hao has been frank in the circle, and the road is getting wider and wider, probably because of his mother's education.
Qin Hao's mother also showed an admirable vision and pattern.
She really showed her wisdom and foolishness in her son's marriage.
Even by current standards, ordinary mothers-in-law can't be as open-minded and open-minded as Qin Hao's mother.
First of all, Qin Hao's mother will always respect his choice.
Supporting your child's choice sounds simple, but it is quite difficult to implement.
Especially in Qin Hao's case, this matter is even more difficult.
There is a phenomenon between Qin Hao and Yi Nengjing that "the door is not the right one".
Qin Hao is a typical Northeast man from Shenyang, his family is well-off, and he adheres to the traditional family style.
Yi Nengjing grew up in Taipei, and due to her original family, she has experienced a life of displacement since she was a child, and she has seen the warmth and coldness of people.
As an ordinary elder, if the "difference between the north and the south" is not considered, Yi Nengjing, a "single-parent family", may cause many men's mothers to have doubts.
Secondly, the emotional journeys of the two do not match.
When Qin Hao met Yi Nengjing, he was already 35 years old and still single.
Yi Nengjing, 45 years old, is not only 10 years older than Qin Hao, but also divorced and has a son.
The most important thing is that the emotional experience of Yi Nengjing and Yu Chengqing has already caused a sensation, which can be called the most eye-catching event in the entertainment industry at that time.
With such a big age difference between the two, coupled with Yi Nengjing's emotional experience, even in an ordinary family, many men's mothers may not agree.
The relationship between Qin Hao and Yi Nengjing has developed rapidly, which is the third point.
In less than 3 days, Yi Nengjing had already begun to "talk about marriage", which she had talked about after meeting Qin Hao.
She is tired of being in love, and she only longs for a stable home.
If you look at it from the perspective of the man's mother, when the son suddenly tells you that he is going to get married, the other person is 10 years older than him, divorced, and has a child, this situation can be very shocking to many mothers.
When faced with the above situation, Zhang Hong's reaction as a mother-in-law was unexpected, which surprised both Qin Hao and Yi Nengjing.
In Qin Hao's words, "I have great admiration for my mother."
After learning that Qin Hao and Yi Nengjing were in love, Zhang Hong did not cry and make a fuss, but educated Qin Hao very seriously.
In Zhang Hong's opinion, Yi Nengjing is 10 years older than her son, and she has experienced an unsuccessful marriage, which has made her suffer a lot as a woman.
Therefore, Zhang Hong confirmed Qin Hao's determination many times, if he really chose Yi Nengjing, he must take responsibility and not let Yi Nengjing get hurt again!
Yi Nengjing also sighed: "My mother-in-law is indeed a very wise elder. ”
When Yi Nengjing met Qin Hao's parents for the first time, she was not subjected to strict interrogation and censorship, nor was she met with an indifferent attitude.
Qin Hao's parents not only invited relatives and elders in the family to welcome Yi Nengjing together, but also prepared a table of sumptuous dishes to show their attention and affirmation of Yi Nengjing.
After the meal, Zhang Hong found Yi Nengjing and seriously expressed his concern about his son's shortcomings to her, especially mentioning that he was impatient, and hoped that Yi Nengjing would be more tolerant in the future.
When Yi Nengjing saw the attitude of the "future mother-in-law", she said that she cried at that time, because she never thought that she would enter the Qin family so smoothly.
Yi Nengjing and Yu Chengqing have been dating for 14 years before entering the marriage hall, but her mother-in-law has never approved of their marriage.
Qin Hao was even surprised afterwards, saying: "I didn't expect my mother to accept it so quickly, and I was even ready to fight a protracted battle." ”
Qin Hao later learned that the reason why his mother accepted this decision so quickly was because she really respected his choice and had confidence in his vision.
Secondly, Zhang Hong's sincerity towards Yi Nengjing is beyond doubt, he regards her as "his own person"!
At the wedding, we heard many mothers-in-law say that they would treat their daughter-in-law as their "daughter" in the future.
However, the reality is that some mothers-in-law have a hard time treating their daughters-in-law as "their own".
Since there will always be some mothers-in-law, they will regard their daughters-in-law as "imaginary enemies", and once they find that their sons and daughters-in-law have a good relationship, they will feel that their relatives have been taken away by "outsiders".
However, Zhang Hong has never encountered such a situation, and she once said: "Only by treating her daughter-in-law as her own person will she love your son as deeply as you do." ”
Because they knew that Yi Nengjing's original family was in difficulty, Qin Hao's parents gave her double care and love.
imitated Yi Nengjing's words: It seems that God has given me a pair of parents again, filling my previous regrets.
Knowing that Yi Nengjing's last marriage was deeply hurt, Qin Hao and his parents planned a romantic event for Yi Nengjing.
Yi Nengjing didn't expect that she was silent when she got married for the first time, but when she got married for the second time, she held a wedding in a wedding dress, showing her happiness to the world.
Qin Hao's mother is not only that, she also insisted on undergoing knee surgery at that time, just so that she can not use a wheelchair at the wedding of her son and daughter-in-law, so as not to leave any regrets in the wedding.
After Yi Nengjing got married, she began to fall into anxiety about childbirth.
In order to let Qin Hao personally feel the happiness of being a father, Yi Nengjing spared no effort to find a doctor and medicine, and has been trying hard to try various methods.
Yi Nengjing's anxious mood made Qin Hao not only persuade her to give up, but also her in-laws didn't care.
In the interview, Yi Nengjing said that her mother-in-law comforted her that they thought that it didn't matter if they had children or not, as long as she and Qin Hao could live happily together, the evaluation of the outside world did not matter.
Seeing this, I have to sigh, just with the practice of a mother-in-law like Zhang Hong "not forcing her daughter-in-law to have children", she should really be regarded as a person worthy of enjoying the Taimiao.
He knows how to handle things in a measured way and understands things.
As a mother-in-law, Zhang Hong's favorite feature of her daughter-in-law is her open-mindedness and open-mindedness.
Not only does she never interfere in the relationship between her son and daughter-in-law, but she is also willing to play the role of "glue" between them.
As a mother-in-law, Zhang Hong knows that Qin Hao is not a romantic person. In her heart, she longs to personally guide her son Kwa Yi Nengjing, because only when her daughter-in-law is happy, will her son be truly happy.
Zhang Hong kept an appropriate distance between Qin Hao and Yi Nengjing to avoid a verbal altercation with them.
He will neither help his son nor blindly favor Yi Nengjing, but chooses to give up the space to the younger couple and let them deal with the problem on their own.
According to Zhang Hong, as an elder, don't always interfere too much in the private affairs of young couples.
Zhang Hong's most precious wealth is that he regards Yi Nengjing as a family member, and he does not hesitate to be honest with her, without any barriers between them.
In "Do You Know", Minglan once said when persuading the lady of the "little grandfather": "Many times, the estrangement is caused by unsatisfactory words, as long as the words are spoken, the estrangement can be eliminated." ”
Mother-in-law Zhang Hong and daughter-in-law Yi Nengjing are the same, they talk to each other bluntly, and when they encounter problems, they say them directly without concealment, express their thoughts frankly, and don't mind even if they don't sound comfortable.
It may seem simple to say what you want, but it's not easy to actually execute it. It's fine when both parties are tolerant, but if one party lacks tolerance, they may choose to remain silent, but let emotions accumulate in their hearts, and resentment will breed over time.
Zhang Hong said that she regards us as her own parents, and we also regard her as our own children. As long as we can achieve this, we don't mind anything, because we know that we are all family.
Zhang Hong can support his daughter-in-law from a woman's perspective, which is the fourth point.
Qin Hao once revealed on the show that he used to have very traditional values, believing that men should be responsible for making money to support their families, while women should take care of their children at home.
However, Qin Hao's mother did not approve of this approach, and she told Qin Hao that women should also find their own value and not just be "bound" at home.
Qin Hao said that as he grew older, he was more able to understand his mother's mind and bearing.
Zhang Hong once said to Yi Nengjing that the most correct choice in a woman's life is not necessarily marriage, but to be herself.
Even now, Yi Nengjing still chooses to be herself, perhaps because of the support of her mother-in-law.
Singer Li Jian once said: A good marriage can make people feel "like a tiger with wings".
Seeing the current Qin Hao again, we deeply realize that a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will add luster to a man's career.
Thanks to the support and teaching of his mother Zhang Hong, as well as the great help of his wife Yi Nengjing, Qin Hao has been able to get to where he is today, so it is not surprising that he has succeeded.
He said that he was very lucky in his life, and it was like going home for a vacation after filming. He feels lucky to have the love of his parents and the love of his wife, and hopes that he will be so happy in the next life.
In addition to lamenting Qin Hao's successful career, seeing him like this.
He has an enlightened and happy family, which is the envy of us the most.
Maybe in the journey of life, we will not be as lucky as Qin Hao, so let's wish ourselves more optimism and open-mindedness.
May you and I be able to live an ordinary life, if we can't have great wealth and nobility, then we just want peace and smoothness.