- ReadMiss Pear gets along with herself
Over the years, "anxiety" has been flying all over the sky.
I, who have always been a Buddha, have also been involved in it without defense, like a Pandora's box that has been opened, and I and anxiety are already inseparable from Meng and Meng BuOut of focusIt's hard to tell.
As soon as I got this book "Miss Pear Gets Along with Myself", I was deeply moved by the sentence on the cover of the book: Life has nothing to do with others, it is a self-to-self redemption.
This sentence can't help but remind me".most"Talented woman" Yang Jiang said: "If you have a mess in the first half of your life, then you will have to live in the second half of your life."Reshuffle the cards, get back to your original self, don't be afraid, the money is gone, you can earn it again, your friends are gone, you can make it again, your marriage is gone, you can get married again, remember, you don't lack anything, all you lack is the courage to start over. ”
The protagonist of this book, Pear, in the first half of her life, is walkingAt the end of the year, there was a major change: being laid off and losing the work that he didn't love but had been working hard for; The grandmother who brought me up from childhood is away forever; Parted ways with her boyfriend of two years.
It can be said that this is the darkest moment of her life, and for Pear, life is too tiring, so she wants to escape. That's why she made a promiseBirthday wishes: disappear in place.
However, in this sassy world, those who want to escape againNot onlyPear? It's just that you can escape to **? So, how can we be self-sufficient and consistent in the rest of our lives?
First, we should know ourselves.
For a long time, when we introduce ourselves, we always like to use labels to express ourselves, such as physical characteristics, professional achievements, personal preferences, etc., but we almost do not observe or listen to our own spiritual world, so even if we have some decency in the eyes of others, we still feel unhappy.
We often fall into self-torture because, within our body, there live two selves, one who wants to escape and the other who wants to surrender. We are also like grass on the wall, dancing from side to side in terms of self-affirmation and self-exploration.
We don't really know ourselves. In this book, the authorBorrow the wise man of Buddha Islandof YatuMouth summaryDao: People are too heavy on dogs, so they are not happy, and people always measure their own value by other people's opinions, so they are called all day long.
Second, people should be self-confident and trust themselves.
Jeremy Bentham said: Nature puts human beings under the control of both pain and pleasure, it dictates what we should do, and determines what we should do.
Miss Pear obeyed her mother's admonition and chose to goblueartThe company went to work and gave up doing itBest friend RakhiPartner of the boxing gym. BecauseblueartcompanyThe row of surfaces withThe high salary given is enough to make the mother proud, so that she will not be shy in the comparison, in short, it is to like all the benefits except for the work I don't like.
In the final analysis, it is because she is not confident enough to believe that she can get the desired reward by doing the job she likes after refusing to be paid a high salary**.
Eventually, the pears are inblueartAfter a period of hard work, the experience of almost humiliation, coupled with the wise man Yatu's point, finally made her wake upSelf-confidence is a right that cannot be taken away from a person.
The pears are summarized like this:
The right to assertivenessI have that rightTherefore, it is impossible to resist ** and mistakenly enterblueartThe company, in fact, was a mistake made by Pears when choosing. Naturally, pears have the right to make mistakes, and they have the right to wake up. That's self-confidence. 3. Don't torture yourself with things that have disappearedThe right to say "I don't know".
The right to say "no".
There is a right to choose and it can be expressed
There is a right to express feelings
Have the power to make decisions and be responsible for the results
Change the mind
Have the right to schedule my time
The right to make mistakes.
As Immanuel Kant said, "To be angry is to punish oneself for the mistakes of others."
The ex-boyfriend used the way of getting engaged to Riko's old enemy to let Riko know that she was out of the game after two years of love; In order to prepare a wedding room for her younger brother, her mother ignored Lizi's feelings and left her grandmother to the house where Lizi lived**. This is simply a disaster, so that the pear is like falling into a black hole, unwilling, resentful, once out of control, the pear even longs to be devoured, become a part of the black hole, and then cruelly participate in devouring everything.
Pear came to Buddha Island again, and she said aggrievedly to Yatu: I don't hate myself for not owning oneHate to haveof the ...... was taken away
But is it really what you have that is taken away? Red Cat MarcoJust hit the nail on the head and tell Pear: your ex-boyfriend and rival have long since disappeared from your world, and you are now tormenting yourself for something that has disappeared.
I can't help but think of such a sentence: Life is a passerby, why botherQianqianKnot. What you have lost has never really belonged to you, so you don't have to regret it, let alone recover it.
Indeed, to let go of others is to let go of oneself.
Conclusion
This is an allegorical body that heals itself**, the plot is full of ups and downs, similar to "Mr. ** Sees a Psychiatrist".The content is not only relevant to the reader's psychologyIt is also a reminder to readers that in the increasingly competitive social environment, what do people have to do to get rid of the mental internal friction that makes people tired and unstoppable, so as to find a way to get along with yourselfGain a self-confidence againRelaxationof life.
Author of this bookWhiteTurnA writer who expands his life with words, he is good at surviving in secular society, but prefers to live in the spiritual worldVocal OncePublished works"Exceptional".
I believe that after reading this book, it will not be difficult for you, dearUnderstand the true meaning of the following sentence
"People always have to swallow some grievancesThen wipe away your tears without saying a word and continue to walk forwardThe price of growth,It's to lose the way it wasNo one can be as blank as a blank slate without a storyIn fact, sooner or later you will understandIn addition to life and death, people are bornEverything else is just abrasions.
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