Not long ago, Dong Yuhui and Andy Lau combined for a live broadcast with the theme of "Understanding is the antidote to life". I have to say that this sentence is too good, not only for husband and wife, friends, workplace relationships, but also especially for family education.
After a child has psychological problems, the first reaction of many parents is often to make judgments and give methods. But this is most likely not what the child wants. When a child tells his parents about his problems, or presents them to his parents, the first thing he wants from his parents is not the method, but the understanding:1Do you understand how he feels right now? 2.Do you understand how his problem came about? and 3What do you think of him now?
If parents are able to:1Put yourself in the shoes of a deep understanding of the child's stress, pain, grievances and other feelings, 2Understand the causes and consequences of your child's problems, especially being able to recognize your own responsibility for causing your child's psychological problems, 3Therefore, he does not blame, does not get angry, does not complain, still thinks he is a good child, can still see his strengths, strengths, and efforts, and gives him full understanding, tolerance, and trust.
If parents can do this, the child's problems may have been solved for the most part: his stress will be relieved by understanding, and his heart will gain great courage and strength from understanding. He doesn't need your guidance, he doesn't need you to urge, he will use his own strength, his own way, his own pace to solve the problem. Parents just need warm companionship and a helping hand when necessary.
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