My name is Chen Mei, I am 53 years old and I am a retired worker. I once had a short marriage that ended early because of a personality incompatibility. After the divorce, I raised my daughter alone, and although it was hard, I came through it strongly. Now that my daughter is married, I am also starting to think about my old age.
Recently, I attended a blind date event and met a 58-year-old man named Liu Zhiqiang. Zhiqiang is a retired teacher who looks polite. The first time we met was in a café and the setting was quite elegant.
After sitting down, Zhiqiang took the initiative to open the topic: "Ms. Chen, I heard that you are a retired employee, what do you like to do?" "I replied that I like to travel, watch movies and cook. Zhiqiang smiled and said: "These hobbies are very good, travel can broaden your horizons, watching movies can enrich your heart, and cooking can enjoy the beauty of life." ”
We had a great chat and seemed to have a lot in common. Zhiqiang told me that he likes to read, write calligraphy and raise flowers, and these hobbies also make me think that he is a person with a love of life.
After chatting for a while, Zhiqiang suddenly said, "Ms. Chen, I think there is something inappropriate between us. "I was taken aback and didn't know what was going on. Zhiqiang continued: "You are a mature woman with your own independent life and values, and I am just an ordinary old man who cannot meet your needs. ”
I was a little confused and asked him what he meant. Zhiqiang explained: "What you need is not an old partner, but a partner who can pursue a higher level of life with you. And I can't live up to your requirements. ”
I felt a little uncomfortable after listening to it, and felt that Zhiqiang was too self-righteous. I said, "Mr. Liu, I just want to find a partner who can support each other and live together, and I don't need to pursue any high-level life." ”
Zhiqiang shook his head and said, "I didn't mean that. There is a generation gap between us, and you are not a young girl, we can take our time, but we can't be as headstrong as a little girl. ”
After hearing this, I became angry: "Mr. Liu, I am not a little girl, but please don't use the standards of a little girl to demand me." We are all adults and should have our own judgments and choices. ”
With that, I picked up my bag and prepared to leave. Zhiqiang didn't keep me, just said "goodbye".
I was disappointed by this blind date. I think Zhiqiang is too conceited and rigid, and I didn't really understand me and came to conclusions. Maybe what we need is more time and opportunities to get to know each other. But at least for now, it seems that the fate between me and Zhiqiang has not yet arrived.
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