The drama "Thirty Only" has recently become popular on the Internet, telling the different situations of three girls facing the life node of approaching "thirty years old". What touched me the most was the story of the heroine Gu Jia and Zhong Xiaoqin's parents.
Gu Jia is a strong woman with a successful career, living in a 30 million mansion, but her father is in a nursing home. Zhong Xiaoqin is only a small clerk with a monthly salary of 8,000, but her father can spend his old age at home. After retirement, the pension fate of the two parents is so different, in fact, the key lies in wealth - wealth.
Gu Jia has a high salary and no mortgage pressure, and she doesn't feel sorry for money when she sends her father to a high-end nursing home. But this luxurious environment does not make up for the distance between father and daughter. The father said to his daughter, "I only wish you could come home often", and all that remained in his heart was loneliness and loneliness.
And Zhong Xiaoqin's monthly salary is not high, but she has been taught strictly since she was a child and is filial to her parents. Although he didn't earn much every month, he would set aside a small amount of money to go home to his father to dispense medicine. Although the father who retired at home was in poor condition, he had the company and care of his daughter, and he was happy and satisfied in his old age.
From this comparison, we can see that the environment for the elderly is not as important as the care of children. Parents work hard all their lives, and all they look forward to is that their children often come home to see them and have fun with them. If a child is career-minded and does not hesitate to send his parents to a nursing home in exchange for his own success, then what is the point of this success?
After people reach middle age, whether they have a successful career or are poor, what parents care about most is whether their children still remember to go home. No amount of money can make up for the lack of companionship. So, while your parents are still alive, cherish every day you spend with them. I hope that while you are pursuing your career, you will not forget that you still have parents at home who are waiting for you to come home.
Next, I would like to delve into this topic from several aspects:
1. The "pension dilemma" of successful children
People like Gu Jia who have a successful career are often more likely to send their parents to nursing homes. There are several reasons for this:
Busy with a career and don't have time to take care of your parents.
The work pressure and time challenges that successful people face are unimaginable to the average person. To cope with work, you need to work overtime and stay up late, and you also have to socialize customers in your spare time. This intensity of work leaves successful people with little time to take care of their elderly parents.
The place of work is far from where the parents live.
Many successful people may work far from their parents' hometowns. For example, Gu Jia needs to travel frequently to other cities, and she has no time to go home to visit her parents on weekends.
There is a generation gap in the concept of life.
Successful people pursue rationality, efficiency, and perfectionism. The parents are more traditional and conservative, and it is difficult for the two generations to get along.
The financial conditions allow for admission to a senior nursing home.
Successful people have sufficient financial ability to provide their parents with the best quality pension services, so that their parents can eat well and live well, which has also become their most direct choice.
2. The "filial piety protection" of ordinary children
Relatively speaking, ordinary children such as Zhong Xiaoqin prefer to let their parents care for the elderly at home. This is mainly based on:
The working hours are relatively autonomous, and there is time to take care of them.
The work of ordinary children is not as busy and intense as that of successful people, and they have more time to spend with their parents and help them with some daily tasks.
The place of life is close to that of the parents, and the conditions are available to return home.
Many ordinary children work and live not far from their parents' homes, and can often return to their hometowns to visit. For example, Tian Liang lives in the same community as his father and can take care of him at any time.
The concept is more traditional, and filial piety to parents is the primary obligation.
Most ordinary people have a more traditional family concept, believing that filial piety to their parents and making them happy is their child's duty. This is also an important reason why they are reluctant to send their parents to nursing homes.
The economic conditions are limited, and you can only choose to care for the elderly at home.
Ordinary children are financially constrained and cannot afford the expensive cost of nursing homes, so they can only let their parents continue to live in their familiar homes and take care of their parents as much as they can.
3. The quality of life in retirement depends on money and companionship.
Whether it is Gu Jia or Zhong Xiaoqin, the retirement life status of the parents seems to be positively correlated with the economic conditions of their daughters. But what really affects the happiness of the elderly is the company of their children.
Money provides material security.
Sufficient pension allows the elderly to have no worries about food and clothing, and they can enjoy high-quality medical care and service facilities when they live in a high-end nursing home. This provides a solid material foundation for old age.
Companionship satisfies emotional needs.
However, material things can never replace the companionship and comfort of children. Playmates, talking, walking, night talking......What the elderly really need is these daily companionship and communication.
One cannot be the other.
Therefore, the pension must take into account both material life and spiritual life. Financial worries are important, but the companionship of children is the key to the happiness of the elderly. Without one of the two, it is difficult for the elderly to feel happy and satisfied.
To sum up, the two parent stories in "Thirty Only" reflect the different choices of children with different economic conditions on the issue of pension. But no matter what, children should always remember that parents always care most about your company, not money.
What do you think about this? If you were faced with the same choice, what would you do? We look forward to discussing with you.