As the old saying goes: "Men are afraid of entering the wrong industry, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man". This fully emphasizes the importance of a woman's choice of partner before marriage. If you are not careful, it may affect your happiness for a lifetime.
Even after you die, your loved ones may be treated unfairly. A recent incident at Google in the United States made netizens angry and emotional: What kind of husband can rush to remarry when his wife has just died, and even ruthlessly drive his deceased wife's parents out of the house?
Ms. Deng, an outstanding woman who graduated from Beijing Post and Telecom, worked in the United States with her college classmates. Their lives are sweet and enviable. Yu found a satisfying job in Silicon Valley, while Ms. Deng, although she was not satisfied with her initial job, chose to recuperate at home for a period of time before looking for it.
Over time, their lives have changed. Luckily, Ms. Deng became pregnant, and the arrival of this little life officially put their lives on track.
Yu is still struggling in Silicon Valley, his efforts have been rewarded, and his status in Silicon Valley has gradually improved. Together with Ms. Tang, he paints a blueprint for the future of life, and their lives are full of love, career, and the happiness of their children.
His professional status has steadily risen with his own efforts and the quiet support of his wife, and his annual salary has reached hundreds of thousands of dollars. Even though Ms. Deng no longer asks Ms. Deng to go out to work, she still wants to find a job because she wants to walk side by side with her husband.
When Ms. Deng was about to look for a job, an accident completely changed their lives, and Ms. Deng became pregnant again. This is good news, but it is also a bad thing. Ms. Deng once again gave up her ideals for the sake of her family and chose to take care of her two children at home, which became her "job".
As the two children grew up, Ms. Deng firmly chose to find a job and did not want to stay at home anymore, and Yu did not object. Although Ms. Deng has been out of the workplace for many years, her own excellence and the high degree of BUPT make the interviewees favor her.
In the end, after layers of selection, she was hired by Facebook, another major company in the United States. In her new company, Ms. Deng struggled to adapt to the high-intensity work environment, but since she hadn't been at work for a long time, the content she needed to learn was very complicated.
In her busy life, she often neglects to care for herself. However, when she started working for only a year, a sudden illness completely upended her fate and challenged the strong image of her husband Yu, a "good man".
In August 2020, Ms. Tang went to the office as usual, but because she did not eat breakfast, she felt sick to her stomach all morning. She thought it was because she didn't eat breakfast, so she didn't worry too much about it.
By the afternoon, however, the pain in her stomach had made it impossible for her to continue working. With the help of her colleagues, she came to the hospital for a check-up. Ms. Deng thought that it was just a few minor problems, and it would be cured with a simple **.
She didn't want to lose her job because of her health. However, after an afternoon of examinations, doctors confirmed her condition. However, the doctor did not tell her about her condition directly, but told the news to her husband Yu, who hurried in the afternoon.
It turned out that Ms. Deng had already been diagnosed with stomach cancer. When Yu heard the news, he couldn't accept it for a while. But in order not to let his wife think about it, he still told her the news.
During Ms. Deng's illness, her husband Yu always guarded her and took care of her. This made Ms. Deng feel extremely happy, and whenever she wanted to give up, Yu would encourage her: "Don't be afraid, dear.
As long as we work together, we will definitely be able to overcome the disease. Waiting for you, our family of four will go out on a trip together. "Although they fought the disease, the end result was not satisfactory.
In January 2021, Ms. Deng's condition deteriorated to the point where her life was threatened. When her parents in Xi'an, China, learned the news and immediately flew to the United States to take care of her.
Ms. Deng's parents, a pair of retired factory workers, spent their entire lives frugal and spent all their savings on their only daughter. After the United States, her parents began to take care of Ms. Deng.
Although Ms. Deng knew that her condition was serious, the last thing she could let go of was her two children.
Ms. Tang was deeply aware of the impermanence of life and decided to prepare a will in advance. After consulting with her parents, she intended to leave part of her property to her parents and the rest to her children. However, out of trust in their son-in-law and dependence on their own pension, her parents firmly rejected her proposal.
As a result, Ms. Deng left almost all of her assets to her children in her will, and only gave a small part to her husband. However, can her husband really take care of his parents?
This may have been an outcome that neither Ms. Tang nor her parents had anticipated.
At the end of his life, Yu asked his wife Ms. Deng if she had any regrets. She replied in the affirmative, she had no regrets about staying in this world. During this time of caring for Ms. Deng, her parents also felt the love of their son-in-law.
For the sake of his father-in-law and mother-in-law's health, he buys milk and vegetables for them from an organic supermarket. Even, with the help of his friends, he bought an Apple tablet to divert their attention.
If those things hadn't happened next, Yu's performance might have been praised by everyone. However, what happened later was a big surprise, and even the three things he bought became the "new standard for a good son-in-law", which also changed people's perception of him.
Although Ms. Deng spent her last moments in illness, she was a strong woman who did not flinch until the last moment of her life. In May 2021, she left this world that was wonderful for her, but what happened next was very emotional.
On June 13, after the death of his wife, Ms. Deng, Yu received her death certificate from **. Seeing this death certificate, Yu was confused and didn't know where his future should go.
He remembered the words of his wife, Ms. Deng, before leaving, and hoped that he could find his other half to spend the rest of his life with him after his death, and did not want him to be alone for the rest of his life. The idea gave him the urge to find a new partner, even though it might draw criticism in China.
Soon after, Yu found a new love on the Internet, and decided to marry this woman on June 30. This is perhaps part of American culture, for whom finding a new partner is a normal way of life, not something to blame.
In China, however, such actions tend to provoke a backlash and criticism from the public.
Yu and Ms. Deng have been together for many years, but less than a week after Ms. Deng's death, he couldn't wait to marry someone else. However, Yu does not care about the eyes of the outside world, he thinks that Ms. Deng will agree to him to find a new partner before he dies, and he himself needs someone to accompany him.
He even revealed the news to Ms. Deng's parents, hoping to get their blessings. However, Ms. Tang's parents were very confused by his decision and had a heated argument with him for this reason.
Mom and Dad, I have good news for you, I have now found a new partner. Yu excitedly told Ms. Deng's parents that they were married and planned to bring them back soon for them to meet.
How nice it would be for us to live together as a family! Yu was looking forward to sharing his joy with Ms. Deng's parents. However, when Ms. Deng's father heard the news, he even suspected that he had misheard.
If you get married, don't recognize me as a father-in-law. After saying that, he left alone, and the negotiation was over.
Ms. Tang's mother eventually persuaded her husband to agree to let her son-in-law freely choose his marriage and not pursue the matter further. Although the parents were forced to accept this fact, they decided to leave the United States and return to Xi'an after their daughter's memorial chair was repaired, only to come back when they missed their grandson, so as not to be upset by seeing their son-in-law and new wife living together.
However, the next thing that happened completely chilled the hearts of the two old men. Yu claimed that before her death, his wife specifically requested that half of her ashes be buried in the Greater Bay Area and the other half to be brought back to her home country.
Ms. Deng's parents wanted to buy a decent cemetery for their daughter to bury her after learning that the local cemetery** was $3,000-20,000. However, Yu objected to this, which made the two old men feel very disappointed and sad.
But Yu, I heard that the cemetery ** is ridiculously high, and he thinks it's not worth it. So, he decided to bury Ms. Deng's ashes directly in the open space in front of their house.
Apart from Ms. Tang's name, there were no other signs on the tombstone, not even an epitaph. Ms. Deng's parents were very unhappy with this behavior. After all, their son-in-law has been working at Google for more than a decade, and his salary has reached about $300,000.
But he was reluctant to spend money on a $10,000 cemetery for his daughter. This situation will be a little difficult for anyone to accept. What is even more incomprehensible is that Ms. Deng's house is worth $4.5 million, plus $2 million in condolence money from her unit, and $50,000 in funeral expenses, which add up to enough to buy a good cemetery.
However, they only spent $10,000, which made Ms. Deng's parents very cold, they could never have imagined that their son-in-law would be such a person.
Ms. Deng's parents insisted that Yu buy a cemetery for Ms. Deng, but Yu refused and threatened to scatter half of Ms. Deng's ashes into the sea. In order to give their daughter a resting place, Ms. Deng's parents decided to choose a good cemetery for her as soon as possible after returning to Xi'an.
Yu's reluctance to pay for the cemetery made Ms. Deng's parents decide not to bother him anymore, and they decided to return to Xi'an.
Because of the epidemic, Ms. Deng's parents and Yu had a disagreement over the issue of a return ticket. Since the price of economy class has risen to $3,000, Ms. Deng's parents rushed to the United States after learning of their daughter's illness and are now penniless.
Therefore, they hope to get help from Yu to buy business class tickets for them, so as to reduce the physical burden of sitting in economy class for a long time on their old age.
However, Yu refused to bear this part of the cost, saying that if Ms. Deng's parents wanted to leave, he would pay for their economy class, and they would have to bear the cost of the upgrade.
Hearing Yu's statement, Ms. Deng's parents felt helpless and reflected on why their daughter chose such a husband.
Due to the impact of the new crown epidemic, the number of flights has been reduced, and the air tickets have **significantly**. As a result, Ms. Deng's parents decided to postpone their plans to return home and continue to stay at Yu's home.
They accept the fact that a new person has arrived in the home, and Yu and his new wife embark on their honeymoon journey, leaving two elderly people to take care of the children. After waiting for their daughter's memorial chair to be repaired, the two old men planned to return to their homeland.
When Yu returned home from his honeymoon trip, Ms. Deng's parents decided to negotiate with him one last time about returning to China and the placement of their daughter's ashes, as well as considering the issue of pension in the future.
Ms. Tang's father said they hoped to return to their home country as soon as possible and hoped to negotiate on airfares and cemeteries. He also mentioned that regarding their pension problem, they hope that Yu can support them through indirect payment.
However, in the end, Yu was only willing to pay $3,000 for the plane and hoped to support them through indirect payment. However, Ms. Deng's parents were adamantly opposed to this practice because they feared that if they could not receive the money when they returned to their home country, there might be unsolvable problems later on.
Therefore, there was a quarrel between the two sides on this issue. Ms. Deng's father even picked up things around him to "threaten" Yu.
Because of the illusion of death threats, Yu called the police and asked the police to expel the two elderly people. If they were evicted, they would not be able to see their grandson, and the neighbors advised Yu not to do so.
But he insisted on his opinion, and asked the police to bring out evidence of Ms. Deng's father's death threats and asked them to move out of his home within a month. As a result, Ms. Deng's parents were forced to move out and faced difficulties in a foreign country with difficulties and language barriers.
Fortunately, they met Ms. Deng's former friend and told her what Yu had done. Ms. Deng's friend was very shocked, and he didn't expect that there would be such a person as Yu in the world.
Ms. Deng reported Yu's disrespectful behavior to her parents on social **, which attracted the attention and condemnation of the majority of netizens. In order to help Ms. Deng's parents return to China as soon as possible, everyone spontaneously organized donations and raised 1The $80,000 donation was used to buy tickets for them to return home.
Yu posted a statement on the Internet, saying that his behavior was the wish of Ms. Deng and her children, and justified his behavior in handling the relationship with Ms. Deng's parents, packaging himself as a "bullied" person, and even using the epidemic as an excuse to shirk responsibility.
Regarding Yu's remarks, many netizens did not buy it and condemned his behavior.
Yu said in public that he would take the 1The $80,000 donation was given to Ms. Deng's parents. However, surprisingly, he also told his children that Ms. Deng's parents were here to grab money, which led the children to misunderstand their grandparents.
Today, Ms. Deng's parents not only have nowhere to live, but also face the dilemma of estrangement from their daughter. The incident sparked widespread attention online, with many netizens expressing outrage at the behavior.
Some netizens revealed that when Ms. Deng was still alive, Yu invited relevant staff of American nationality to come to his home and changed his wife to American nationality.
He apparently hoped to use the laws of the United States to leave the inheritance in the United States after the death of his wife, and eventually end up in his own pocket. In addition, it was revealed that in Ms. Deng's will, she left 40% of her property to her children and 20% to her husband.
This news makes people feel even more disgusted by Yu's behavior.
Ms. Tang thought her husband would take good care of her parents and children, but it backfired. According to the investigation, they own six properties in the United States, all of which have now become Yu's private property.
It is sad that this man, who owns six properties in the United States, has left his ex-father-in-law and mother-in-law on the streets. This irresponsible behavior has sparked public outrage.
Some netizens broke the news, accusing Yu of starting to find a new wife for his son a long time ago, and his parents, as interviewers, were looking forward to Ms. Deng's death so that their son could get married again.
This not only made domestic netizens angry, but also made local netizens in the United States begin to condemn this "negative man". Therefore, many netizens have gone to Google's official website to report.
In order not to be fired by Google, Yu first sued Google in court on the grounds that Google leaked secrets.
Despite the flood of comments on the Internet, Ms. Deng's husband has chosen to ignore it and no longer respond. And the most distressing thing is that Ms. Deng's parents are still displaced on the streets of the United States, because of the epidemic, the air ticket is expensive, and they cannot afford it, so they can only hope to return to China after the epidemic has passed.
Looking at the whole thing, you will find that the money that actually went to Ms. Deng's parents was only tens of thousands of dollars. Yu's behavior of getting married quickly after his wife's death has changed people's perception of him.
If he could treat Ms. Deng's parents well, maybe he would not be condemned by so many netizens, but his behavior is really unacceptable. A good marriage and love should support each other in the face of difficulties, rather than flying separately in the face of difficulties.
Marriage is a testimony of love, and widowhood is also a heavy blow. However, Yu's operation raises questions about the authenticity of the online comments. The death of a pet can also make people sad, but he uses this behavior to deny the sincerity of marriage.
When women dedicate themselves to their families, they must have their own value and dignity and leave a way out for themselves and their families. Although the road may be narrow, it can at least give parents a place to stay.
As bystanders, we are dissatisfied and indignant at his actions, but from a legal point of view, we cannot restrain the minds of individuals. As long as he does not break the law, all weddings and funerals are his own free choice.