In the adult world, there are few words that can easily describe the hardships and difficulties in between.
Just like Shen Fu's affectionate description in "Six Tales of Floating Life": "At dusk, I am willing to stand quietly with you and enjoy it, laughing gently in front of the stove, and asking about porridge can warm people's hearts." ”
The most enviable emotion is not the fierce and short beginning like a storm, but after a long period of lovesickness and painful struggle, a heart gradually becomes rock-solid, and finally sincerely sends out the words full of emotion: "It's good to know you!" This is the most beautiful gift in life. ”
The six ancient poems, like six mirrors, reflect the six different stages of the love process, each of which bears a deep emotional imprint.
As long as you have experienced these ups and downs, you will become the most precious and beautiful memory in this life.
The mountains have trees and branches, and the heart is pleasing to the king
Zhang Ailing once affectionately explained: "In the vast wasteland of time, in the flow of thousands of years, neither early nor late, meet at this moment." At that time, there was no need to say anything more than to whisper: 'Oh, so you're here.' This is the purest and most authentic form of love.
The germination of emotions is often unpredictable, and once affectionate, it is like a gentle breeze blowing, and a gripping story begins. The inexplicable throbbing in youth is just like the most dazzling scenery in the picture scroll of life.
Nalan Xingde sang in a low voice in his words: "If life is always as beautiful as it first sees, why does the autumn wind evoke the sorrow of painting fans?" "The moment of the first encounter seemed to bring together all the beauty and luck in the world, just to embrace the happiness of that moment.
Cangyang Gyatso said in profound Zen words: "Spend a happy time with a lover, don't ask about it or fate." "No matter how the journey of life goes, regret will always stop quietly in a corner. However, as long as we follow our hearts and live up to the years, it is enough.
Afraid of lovesickness, already lovesick, it is the turn of lovesickness and nowhere to say, a trace of the eyebrows
In Shen Congwen's book "I Like You", he affectionately depicts the moment of love: "Whenever I miss the person I love, the blood accelerates, and the whole body seems to be bathed in a torrent of cold and heat; When others mentioned this person's name, their hearts were intertwined with inexplicable panic and joy, as if the name carried indescribable power. ”
Love is like an elf, sometimes bringing subtle joy, sometimes making people fall into a whirlpool of confusion. We are always worried about whether we are not good enough to match the sparkling beauty of the other party. If you don't see him for a day, if you don't see him every other autumn or month, you are full of concern, not only worried about the trivialities of his daily life, but also concerned about whether his image in his heart is still as good as ever.
Every journey of affection and love will inevitably experience a number of twists and turns.
The deeper the love, the more intense the pain, the pain for the hardships he endured, the pain for his occasional negligence, and the pain for his powerlessness and helplessness in the face of love. However, it is this pain that gives us the power to perceive, and without pain, there is no source of motivation to move forward.
The same is true of a relationship, without this keen perception, it is like a blind man touching an elephant, and too subjective emotional investment will weaken our ability to distinguish between right and wrong.
The fragrance of plum blossoms comes from the bitter cold", when an emotion has been tormented repeatedly and finally falls silent, it can be said that it has put on a tough coat to resist wind and rain and meet challenges.
Once the sea was difficult to water, except for Wushan, it is not a cloud
Wei Cong, as Yuan Zhen's original partner, after his death, Yuan Zhi affectionately waved and wrote the poem that has been passed down through the ages: "Once the sea was difficult to water, except for Wushan is not a cloud." Take the second flower bush lazy review, half of the edge of the cultivation and half of the king. ”
People who have experienced the vast sea, in the face of any other waters, it is difficult to make waves in their hearts; Those who have experienced the magnificence of Wushan mist-shrouded in mist, the rest of the clouds in the world will be eclipsed. Walking among the flowers again, there is no trace of nostalgia in my heart, just because after you left, my heart is like water, quiet and deep.
In this world, everyone seems to have a fatalistic mission, that is, to find the other half of the self left behind in the previous life.
The true joy of the two is the deep fit and resonance between the souls, and no matter what kind of power, whether it is life or death, they cannot be separated.
Therefore, when you meet that sincere fate, you must cherish it, because a turn may be a lifetime of misses.
I wish to win the hearts of one person, and the white heads are inseparable
The best picture of life is like this: choose a good person, live in the city of your choice, stroll leisurely between spring, summer, autumn and winter with the rhythm of three meals and four seasons, and weave a story of life quietly and happily.
However, life's journey is not always smooth, and it will also go through ups and downs.
Sometimes, a relationship is resilient in the initial stage of overcoming obstacles, but quietly shattered in ordinary days. The ideal love should be less desired, more determined to manage carefully, if you always be strict with each other at the beginning of love, it is easy to breed many contradictions and frictions.
Poetry and distant places are certainly yearning, but the trivial and everyday are the eternal themes of life. Comprehend the wisdom of tolerance, cultivate the power of understanding, give each other the space to grow and breathe, and only mutual respect and equal emotions can maintain a long-term harmony and balance.
Let yourself bloom to the fullest, and let others play their roles freely, just the right distance can often breed a different kind of beauty. When the other person grows in your respect and understanding, he will definitely be grateful and respectful of your open-mindedness.
The belt gradually widened and did not regret it, and it made people haggard for Yi
An ancient poem is affectionately chanted: "Don't forget the deep affection when you are separated, and cherish it, every step is precious." "Now that we have decided to weather the storm together, we should strengthen our faith when making a choice, and no longer hesitate to deviate from the common course.
To sow a seed of hope in the world of emotion, we need to patiently watch the process of its breaking through the soil and the first blooming of the buds, watering it with the rain of life in a timely manner, and gently straightening it in time when it is slightly tilted, and if necessary, with the help of external forces such as wooden sticks to support it for a period of time, until this tree of emotions is strong and upright, proudly independent.
Life is just like running one after another, no matter when and where, never forget the blazing dream and original intention when you set off.
In the same way, the journey of the relationship also needs to set clear goals, like setting up a beacon on a long runway. Only when the goal is clearly visible, the soul will not fall into confusion, but can always maintain that perseverance and tenacity in the process of chasing.
Hold the hand of the son, and grow old with the son
In a soulful song, he sings melodiously: "The most romantic situation I can conceive is to spend the years with you leisurely until you grow old together." ”
From the youth of the first bloom of green silk to the old age of silver hair, the two people who love each other have spent the vicissitudes of life side by side, sharing the sweetness and sourness, joys and sorrows of life. What sustains this emotion is not a momentary passion, but a long-lasting and firm waiting and companionship.
In this long journey of life, it is especially important to understand, tolerate, respect and let go, and do not need to be too entangled in right and wrong, after all, when right and wrong are clear, feelings can also be worn out.
There is a kind of love that is the most enviable, which seems to be ordinary on the surface, but in fact contains countless experiences of resisting the wind and waves together. Whenever life makes waves, there will always be someone who is the first to apologize frankly: "I'm sorry, I was wrong." The other person will follow closely behind, extending a warm hand: "Don't be afraid, I'm here." ”
I am willing to shield you from the wind and rain of the world, I am willing to wash your hands and make soup for you, and cook the fireworks of life.
The breath of fireworks in the world can best soothe the softness in the hearts of ordinary people. Ordinary life is an insurmountable and indispensable part of our lives.
Don't complain, don't deceive yourself, in the seemingly trivial but extremely real daily life, we stick to the determination to spend our lives together, so that this ordinary breeds extraordinary love power.
In Shu Ting's soulful poem "To the Oak Tree", she once poetically described: "Whenever a gust of wind passes leisurely, we all speak to each other in a unique way, but no one in this world can truly comprehend our silent and deep language." ”
The word "understand" is just like an invisible silk thread, connecting the magnificent chapters of all stages of love, from youth and ignorance to mature and rational, from hesitation and swaying to unswerving. It turns out that love, like a silent guardian, has always been quietly accompanying us on the edge of our lives.
Everyone in the world is full of lovesickness, but they are often trapped in it and are willing to bear this suffering. "Everyone in the world knows that lovesickness is bitter, but helpless but willing to be bitter lovesickness", this statement deeply expresses people's uncomplaining and unrepentant efforts when they are persistently pursuing true love.
When we stop in the wind and listen to the whispers of the wind, it seems that we can capture the whispers from the breeze, which is the most sincere outpouring in the depths of emotion, and it is also the sweetness and mellowness that can only be tasted after tempering.