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Recently, a wedding in Taiyuan, Shanxi Province, sparked a huge controversy. A woman broke the news on Weibo that she had given her classmate 500 yuan in 2017 for marriage, but when she got married, the classmate refused to attend the wedding on the pretext of pregnancy, and did not take the initiative to return the gift. So, the woman found out the screenshot of the transfer that year and decided to give a gift of 500 yuan. This incident has sparked widespread discussion and attention among netizens. Some people support the woman's behavior, arguing that since the other party has failed to fulfill her promise to attend the wedding, she should take the initiative to return the gift. Others disagree, arguing that it is a complex issue of family and friendship that should respect everyone's choices and values.
So, what role does Sui Li play in domestic culture? It is a way of expressing blessings and joy for those who give the gift, as well as a manifestation of tradition and etiquette. And for those who receive the gift, it is an important sign of receiving blessings and care. However, among relatives and friends, there are also some rules that are customary, so let's take a look at them.
Gifts are a form of communication of family and friendship, and the other party's heart and dedication should be respected. Whether it's a relative or a friend, the money given is usually carefully considered and measured. If we deliberately reduce the share of the gift money when returning the gift, or even do not give the gift in return, this is taking advantage of the other person, which will make the other person feel uncomfortable and disappointed. Therefore, when returning the gift, we should choose to give the same share, or even more appropriately, to show the importance and heart of the other party.
Gifts are a traditional culture and should not be used as a tool for comparison and showing off. When giving gifts, we must first consider our own financial situation and actual ability, and we should not bring financial burden to ourselves because of comparison. Especially for the gifts given to leaders and superiors, we should be consistent with our colleagues, not too flamboyant and unique, so as to avoid causing trouble and misunderstanding to ourselves.
Although most people have sincere feelings between relatives, it is inevitable to encounter some relatives whose relationship is not harmonious. In the face of such a situation, we have the right to refuse gifts to relatives who have bad intentions towards us or do not care about us. Gift-giving is about showing emotion and concern, not about socializing. In the face of such scheming relatives, we can maintain an independent position, adhere to sincere family affection, and not be swayed by them.
As a traditional culture, Suili carries the exchange of family affection and friendship, and has always occupied an important position in domestic wedding banquets, birthday banquets and other occasions. However, with the development and change of society, the meaning of Sui Li is also changing. Modern people's attitude towards Sui Li has gradually become rational and pragmatic, and more and more people have begun to think about and examine the true meaning of Sui Li.
In reality, we must admit that the obligations and pressures that come with gifts cannot be ignored. For gift givers, consider their financial situation and affordability, and not overspend and ruin their quality of life. For the recipient, it is necessary to respect and cherish every heart and blessing, and do not regard the gift as a standard to measure family affection and friendship.
At the same time, we also need to realize that friendship and affection are a gradual process and not achieved overnight. With the change of time and geography, the connection between us and our friends and classmates will gradually fade or even be broken. This does not mean that we are no longer important to each other, but that the vicissitudes and developments of our lives have changed our relationships. Therefore, when giving gifts and accompanying gifts, we should treat them rationally and respect each other's choices and decisions.
In general, the gift is a way to express blessing and concern, but it is not the only measure of family affection and friendship. When returning the gift, we should respect the other person's heart, do not take advantage of others, and do what we can. We have the right to refuse gifts to relatives who have bad intentions towards us or who do not care about us. The culture of Suili is not the same as the reality, and we need to look at and treat Suili according to our actual situation and attitude towards life.
In modern society, we must learn to face the culture of etiquette with a tolerant and rational attitude, and respect everyone's choices and values. Only in this way can we truly experience the true meaning of family and friendship and create more harmonious interpersonal relationships.
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