Let's talk about homely things, because of an "uninvited guest" who arrived at home at 6 o'clock tonight. At the time, I was writing in the back room, and my husband was also in the back room. The father-in-law accompanied the baby to play games in another room, the grandfather watched TV alone in the living room, and the mother-in-law was busy with dinner in the kitchen with the door closed.
Suddenly, there was a violent sound, because firecrackers were going off outside, and I didn't take it seriously. Grandpa didn't hear it behind his ears. Later, the mobile phone at home rang suddenly, and the father-in-law went to answer the phone, opened the door and broke in an aunt. This aunt is from the same community. It's not common, but I often run to my in-laws' house. Often uninvited.
Last year, when I first met this aunt, I was shocked by her tiger spirit. We were having dinner at home when she knocked on the door and came in. At that time, I didn't know what the reason was, so I bought a bag of delicious food, and insisted on giving my baby 100 yuan. Sent a few bowls. After saying a few words, I was leaving. I'm a little confused. The mother-in-law said that it was from the same community.
Due to her insistence, her mother-in-law ended up leaving only a bag of bread. Later, another time, it happened that we were having dinner when we came over. The in-laws hurriedly added a pair of chopsticks. It's just that the aunt eats slowly, and she is a little embarrassed in the end, because she often chats with her grandfather and grandfather, and the two old men have to accompany her at the dining table to finish eating.
My husband doesn't like this aunt very much. The reason is that she doesn't understand etiquette, and she doesn't understand boundaries when interacting with people. She was a few years older than my mother-in-law, but she called my grandfather big brother. We don't know whether to call grandma or auntie. Second, never say hello when doing things. I don't know what to say.
Like the last time, she came over. It happened that my husband and I were planning to go to the hospital. My husband opened the door, and before she finished speaking, she stepped into the foyer**. She asked my in-laws, my husband said that he took the baby out to play, and asked my husband if he was going out, and my husband said yes, we are going to the hospital. Did she say there was no one at home? My husband said that there was no one, and they all went out.
She asked her grandfather again if he was at home? My husband remembered that his grandfather seemed to be at home, and said that he seemed to be at home. She went inside, and I was changing into my clothes in the room near the foyer, when I saw a man peeking in, and I was shocked. Luckily, it's all gone. Then she went to the innermost room, which was grandpa's room. Grandpa heard the voice and greeted him.
On the way to the hospital, my husband was very angry. said how could there be such a person who did not understand etiquette. Others were wearing shoes outside, and she was standing in someone else's house talking to someone. I still don't understand what people mean.
I advised him that his aunt might be less educated and didn't understand these things. These are the neighborhood interactions between her and her mother-in-law and great-grandfather, and we can't interfere. Besides, it's not old.
As a result, I came at 6 o'clock in the evening on the first day of the Lunar New Year, and when I knocked on the door, my grandfather didn't hear it, and called my mother-in-law's mobile phone. My father-in-law picked it up**. As soon as you enter the door, you have a loud voice, and you have to give it to your child with a red envelope in your hand.
The in-laws must not be able to accept it, she said that she prepared three. In addition to the children, there are also red envelopes from grandpa and grandpa. My mother-in-law said it wouldn't be even worse. There is no such way as to give. You call my dad big brother, how can you give a red envelope to my eldest brother. Children too, can't be accepted.
Mother-in-law said very clearly, let's walk around, money can't be collected, after receiving this gift, everyone is tired, and it slowly turns sour. The friendship will not last long, and we will have to go through the water. If you don't wrap red envelopes, it won't affect our chat.
Auntie said, I just think we can talk, this is affection. My mother-in-law said that if you accept affection, you can't accept red envelopes. Our gentleman's friendship is as light as water. Auntie finally stopped stuffing red envelopes.
Later, I sat down to chat and learned that my aunt had not returned to Beijing for the New Year for three years. This year, the children came to see it. I went out again this morning and didn't come back for dinner in the evening. She's free.
My mother-in-law said that the family is busy during the Chinese New Year, and our neighbors can see each other at any time, so we are not in a hurry. Later, the family had to eat, because our dinner was very simple, that is, bean buns + porridge + dried radish, and my mother-in-law did not leave her to eat.
After leaving, my mother-in-law said that people would laugh when they saw the food we ate on the first day of the new year, and it was all vegetarian. Two plates of dried radish, two plates of mixed vegetables, and one of the meat is not. How can this keep people to eat?
Later, I learned that this aunt didn't seem to have a good relationship with her wife. When you buy vegetables, you buy your own food, and when you walk the bend, you also walk your own way, never together.
This year the children came, and it was a joy to hear her high voice. It's just that I didn't see anyone all day, and I didn't come back to eat at night.
While I was washing the dishes, I told my mother-in-law that I knew why that aunt liked to run to our house. Because I'm so lonely, I want to find someone to talk to. If you and your grandfather can listen to her, she will be happy.
Sometimes I can't help but think that in fact, the life of the elderly is quite lonely in old age. You see that he is smiling and smiling all day, or he is silent as if nothing is wrong, in fact, I hope you can listen to her, or talk to her.
Nowadays, many families live under the same roof, with familiar strangers. Three meals a day, hee-hee-ha, what are you thinking, why are you happy, why are you sad, disappointed, many people don't care anymore.
Going home to accompany your parents, or playing ** New Year's greetings have become a routine, a simple New Year's Day, some household routines are not nagging, a ** past, there is no difference between playing or not fighting.
Spending time with parents is sometimes like spending time with children, requiring high-quality companionship.
Parents are the aging children, and they need you to accompany them, help them re-learn, and regain some functions and abilities. So, be a child, be patient.
pls: This year, I was shocked by a **, and I was also moved by a comment. He said he saw the hard work behind it.