At the end of the year, when it comes to maintaining relationships, why are your relationships getting worse and worse?
Interpersonal relationships are a profound discipline that requires us to manage and maintain them with our hearts. However, some people find themselves in a worse situation, why?
First of all, don't try to please others. Not only does pleasing others appear low-value, but the act is often seen as hypocritical and contrived. In interpersonal interactions, we should maintain our independence and individuality and not easily pander to the expectations of others.
Second, don't lower your posture in interpersonal interactions. Human nature is to be strong, and if you show a low profile, others may really think that you are less valuable than them. Therefore, we should be ourselves, not humble, and maintain self-confidence and self-esteem.
In addition, we need to understand one thing: our dignity and principled bottom line are more important than being liked. They are the foundation of who we are as an independent, whole human being, inviolable. If we abandon these principles in order to please others, we lose ourselves and become weak.
It is also very important to constantly seek self-improvement. It is only when we go from being weak to being tough, from pleasing others to being self-centered, that our sense of self is gradually built and developed. This will make us more and more confident and charismatic, and our relationships will become more harmonious.
In addition, we cannot be easily called upon or controlled. Some people will take advantage of our kind and helpful character to manipulate us. If we don't refuse their requests, they will become more and more over-the-top and treat us like rotten good people. Therefore, we need to learn to say no, and be resolute and decisive.
In interpersonal communication, we need to pay attention to our attitude and strength. Cowardly people tend to be despised and ostracized. We should show a tough attitude and great strength so that we can stay out of harm.
How to say no to someone is also an art. We can find all kinds of excuses to refuse other people's requests, and the tone should be resolute and concise, and not distracted. At the same time, we can also follow the principle of value exchange, and if someone asks us for help, we should also ask them for help. This is not rude and does not disadvantage yourself.
In interpersonal interactions, people will constantly test your bottom line. They will observe your words and actions to understand what kind of person you are. Therefore, we might as well raise our bottom line a little higher and resolutely fight back against those who touch our bottom line.
Finally, it is very important to show the value to others. Whether it's social status, achievements, or potential, we can impress others. The foundation of interpersonal relationships starts with being accepted and recognized by the other person, and when we can provide the best value, we can attract more people to connect with us.