Holding banquets and giving out red envelopes, and the bad habits of the New Year make young people

Mondo Social Updated on 2024-02-18

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When the Spring Festival comes, everyone's mood is always happy, many wanderers outside the Spring Festival when they try their best to buy high-speed rail tickets or prepare a car to drive home, who can hinder the heart of the Chinese nation's reunion? But do you feel that many people are in a good mood when they mention returning to their hometowns, but they always feel that there are all kinds of sweet burdens, so that some people are a little afraid of returning to their hometowns, why?

The cost of a trip back to your hometown is too high, let's be honest, if you spend it on transportation expenses, on preparing gifts for your parents, and on sharing New Year's goods when you are reunited, everyone can basically understand this, after all, you spend such money once a year, and the consumption power during the Spring Festival is the most prosperous. But we have a lot of other expenses that make us very uncomfortable and unhappy but you have to spend money.

For example, a few days ago there was a very interesting news, there was a farmer in Bijie, Guizhou Province was feasting guests, the kitchen was full of plates and bowls, there were a large number of freshly made delicacies were ready to be served out, at this time, suddenly from the outside a group of people, this group of people later we learned that they were all leading cadres in the local town, and there seemed to be a deputy mayor to lead the team, people dressed neatly in clothes with work cards into the kitchen, and couldn't help but say that everyone took out a bag of salty salt from their pockets, Then pour the whole bag of salt over the freshly made dish.

Before the host could stop it, they poured all the salt, of course, all the delicacies just made could not be eaten, and many people were stunned at the time, what is this for, is this a bandit? People don't rob, they just don't let you eat this meal, and everyone has a work card, and they are all official people, and later there is an explanation that the local government does not allow the villagers to do a big job, but there are many farmers who just don't listen, so the working group is forced to take extreme measures. Tell you not to let you do it, you have to do it, just I sprinkled all the salt on your diet, I see what you can do, so the banquet that was originally very good can't be eaten.

Of course, after this incident came out, the impact was very bad, these people are too unparticular about working methods, you are really smearing the party and **, no matter how reasonable you are, no matter how much you think your behavior is right, I have never seen your behavior as a bandit. And some people say that the whole country is cracking down on food waste, and we have passed relevant laws, and even some bakeries that can't sell bread after 8 p.m. are not allowed to be thrown away, and whoever throws it will be fined. Some chili sauce manufacturers have not finished the chili raw materials and threw them away as waste, and they were also fined, because we have an anti-food waste law, and as a result, you staff sprinkled all the food that people had just made with salt and couldn't eat it, which is not only a loss of money, but also what do the people think of our leading cadres?

On the surface, it seems to be a one-size-fits-all approach, and I told you that you are not allowed to hold banquets, and you prefer to do it, so I will sprinkle salt so that you can't eat it, but you are just a kind of lazy political behavior, don't you know how to do ideological and political work? Can't you do it in some other way to make people not feast? So these people have also been disciplined, but on the other hand, we can understand why they did it, why? Because some places hold all kinds of banquets to tell the truth, especially at the bottom of the year, there are too many large banquets when many wanderers return to their hometowns.

We often talk about the importance of rural people, what do we mean? That is, you have to go to the banquet when the Zhang family marries a daughter-in-law, and you have to go to the banquet when the son of the Li family is admitted to university, and the main purpose of the banquet in each family is not only to publicize that my family has a great event, but also to make money, which is not the same as in the city. In some cities, when you get married, to be honest, the host family may lose money, why? Some five-star hotel wedding banquets cost 8,000 to 10,000 yuan for a table, you come to attend someone's wedding, and give a gift of 5,811,000, to be honest, your two money is enough for the luncheon, and that person has a lot of emcee, wedding team, ceremonial camera, etc., so weddings in many big cities often can't make money.

But it's different in the countryside, anyway, the price of food in the countryside is low, the food is not expensive, and there are flowing water seats in some places, which is enough to reach thirty or fifty per capita, and one or two hundred is good, but if you go to catch a gift, you can't take one hundred or two hundred, so there are many people who borrow all kinds of banquets to collect money. Let's be honest, who doesn't have a few happy events in his life that he wants to share with his relatives and friends, you say that if you get married and have children, and your children are admitted to college, we can understand that you hold a banquet, but some places are exaggerated to what state? The child shaves his head to hold a banquet, the old sow gives birth to a banquet, and some people hold a banquet more than a dozen times a year. Isn't it just to make money? Therefore, the more thick-skinned people are, the more they hold more banquets, and then make a lot of money, of course, they can't make a lot of money, but their behavior makes those who pay the gift money very unhappy.

I have participated in your family three banquets this year, and I have rushed to the three banquets, so I have to find a reason to hold a banquet and collect my gift money, so the wind of this banquet in some rural areas cannot be stopped at all. There is a college student who returned to his hometown for the New Year and said that he ate 10 times a day, which sounds ridiculous, but think about it, many families especially use this time to do it, because often at this time the village is the most people, especially if they haven't seen each other for a year, our family has a big happy event and you said that you were invited, are you embarrassed not to come? Many grassroots workers know that this is not right, and there are orders from above that we should not do it in a big way, and the leading cadres must set an example and not allow their own families to do a big job, but you can't stand the people's customs and customs.

And we really don't have rigid provisions, for example, you are not allowed to kill people and set fires, and if you commit a crime, the police will look at you and you will go to jail, but we really don't have such a clear legal provision that says that I can't hold a banquet for a certain person, and I can't collect money for a banquet. Although there are many village rules and regulations with such clauses, these are soft and not rigid, and some places even introduce such rules, saying that farmers want to hold a banquet, you must report and must report, and if you don't report, you will not be allowed to do it, and everyone will be accused of saying that your law enforcement is too inhumane? When there is a happy event in someone's family, how can you invite relatives and friends to hold a three-table banquet and it is not allowed? So it's really hard to carry out this work, so much so that there is such a bad law enforcement behavior as sprinkling salt on people's meals.

But their way is wrong, but I think their starting point is still good, it is true that the rural areas themselves are not rich, and it is a waste to hold a large number of banquets in a short period of time, and the people who participate in the banquets have to pay a lot of money, which increases the burden of everyone's life. And the host's family seems to have made a lot of money by holding a banquet, but you don't forget that the gift money you collect will have to be returned in the future, and you will basically have to pay back as much as you collect, in other words, you don't take advantage of it, but the endless banquet will cause a huge waste.

And what bothers many young people is not only the problem of banquets, but also the problem of New Year's money, some young people who have married and had children often feel that it costs too much to go home, why? Usually, when I go home, I can go to see my relatives around me to bring a box of snacks and two bottles of wine, but during the Spring Festival, every family has children, and you have to give New Year's money when you see children. Especially after many of our places have become rich, to be honest, this New Year's money is more and more, in the early years I remember to give a 10 yuan 20 yuan, now there are some places where you can't take out too much, one family gives so much, what do you do if you see 3 families, 5 families, 8 families, 10 children?

Especially if you come back from a big city and people also give you children, then do you have to give more to others, and the accumulated New Year's money will become a burden, not only young people feel that this is a burden, but also the elderly in rural areas actually feel that it is a burden. Do you think which elderly person does not have 3 or 5 grandmen and daughters, then you have to give a sum of money when people come to visit the New Year, and it is not good to give less, so that on the eve of the Spring Festival, some places ** made suggestions that our New Year's money, can this custom be canceled, otherwise it will indeed become a burden for many people.

It's a good wish for the elders to give the juniors a little money, I don't think this problem is big, but the key is that the thickness of our red envelopes has become thicker and thicker over the years, resulting in many people being overwhelmed, so every time I talk about this matter, I especially respect Cantonese people. Cantonese people not only give red envelopes during the New Year, but also give a large area to not only see their loved ones, not only to see the children of good friends, basically with the young people you know who are not married.

But there is no pressure on Cantonese people to give this red envelope, why? Very small, you can pack 1 yuan you can pack 5 yuan, at most 10 yuan 20 yuan, no one package more than 50, so you are sending 100 1 yuan red envelopes, to be honest you don't have any pressure, and the person who received the red envelope, people don't feel that I collect the New Year's money just to calculate how much money there is, I make a small fortune, the so-called courtesy is light and affectionate, I think I got the best demonstration in Guangdong.

Elders give unmarried young people and children a red envelope, you don't care if it is 1 piece or 5 pieces of bread, this is a blessing to you, even the eighth day of the first month, the boss of Guangdong enterprises have to stand at the door to give red envelopes to employees one by one, of course, this red envelope is not big, maybe there are 10 yuan inside, money is not important, the important thing is that this is an expression of wishes. The new year is coming, and the new struggle is about to begin, so give you a red envelope to let you please a good fortune, I think this is the original function of the red envelope New Year's money.

So I really suggest that at least during the Spring Festival this year, we can carry out certain reforms in these two aspects, don't hold so many banquets, don't just arrange a banquet to collect people's gift money, and also reduce the thickness of the red envelope for the New Year, so that everyone should not have so much psychological burden when giving and receiving red envelopes. How we hope that everyone will be very happy and full of joy when talking about the trip back to their hometown during the Spring Festival in the future, instead of wanting to go home for reunion on the one hand, and always feeling too stressed to return to their hometown on the other hand.

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