In today's society, a thought-provoking phenomenon is that a large number of high-quality women are left, and a small number of high-quality men have become the object of coaxing. This phenomenon reveals a deeper problem: there are significant differences in the perceptions and expectations of men and women when it comes to marriage and mate selection.
In fact, many men tend to look down when choosing a partner, that is, they are more inclined to choose women who are not as qualified as themselves. For example, they are more inclined to be their partners with women with lower education than themselves, less capable than themselves, and even much inferior to themselves in terms of economy and career, perhaps because such women are easier to control and control, or because they enjoy this feeling of "winner".
In contrast, women's passivity in marriage and mate selection is more obvious, and they often set themselves below men, specifically looking for men who are stronger than themselves to marry themselves, as if this is the preferred choice, but in fact, excellent men generally do not choose those excellent women to be their partners, so women's waiting and fantasy either cannot be realized, or those women who are not good enough are picked up by men, and excellent women are left with such an embarrassing fact.
From this point of view, the phenomenon of quality women being left behind and quality men in short supply is not just because they have unrealistic expectations for marriage. The deeper reason is that they are still influenced by traditional ideas. In the traditional concept of male aesthetics, weak women are often the ideal choice, and those who are weaker than themselves are more likely to be favored by them; In the concept of many women, they firmly believe that as long as they are weak enough, they will one day wait for the wishful husband in their hearts, and as long as they are weak enough, men will love themselves more.
However, there is actually a big problem with this old concept, the root of this problem is that the two sexes are more inclined to be unequal to each other in the matching of mate selection and marriage, and will not really take care of each other's cooperation, but show a male supremacy of the concept of mate selection, under the influence of the concept of male supremacy, excellent women can not be recognized, excellent women are difficult to be on an equal footing with men in ability, talent, thought, and wisdom, which will cause all men to always tend to look down for their partners, And will not find a real partner who matches themselves or in the sense of equality, the most fundamental reason why leftover women are left is rooted in the influence of this concept of male supremacy, because men are supreme, men will not look for those women who are stronger than themselves, women will not find those who are the same as themselves or inferior to themselves, they have never been able to break through this bottleneck, due to the inertia of male supremacy ideology, in the hearts of men and women can not really recognize themselves and each other. Understand what gender equality and reciprocity of love are.
In modern society, men and women should be more equal and respect each other's differences. Men should learn to appreciate women's independence and talent, not just their appearance and weakness; Women should also break free from the shackles of tradition and be brave enough to pursue their dreams and happiness. Only in this way can we build a more harmonious and equal marriage relationship.