In this complex world, we often talk about liking and loving, as if the two are just a thought. However, when we think deeply, we will find that liking and loving are very different feelings. Like, maybe it's just a momentary good feeling, a momentary impulse, and love is a deep emotion, and it is the persistence of only one person in the eyes and heart.
The emotion of liking is often expressed in a shallow affection for someone, or an attraction to their appearance. Maybe it's because I see your beauty and my heart is moved for a moment; Or maybe you're attracted to a unique good in you, find that person interesting, and want to get to know them better. When you like it, it often doesn't interfere with liking other people, and your mind can still wander between multiple objects.
Love, on the other hand, is a completely different experience. In the world of love, there is only one person in the heart of the eye, no matter what their shortcomings, can be accepted and still deeply liked. Even if you see the most unsightly side of the other person, the love is still the same, because the other person is a unique existence in the heart. Love is the total acceptance of a person, as long as you are there, he will not be able to see others.
The way adults express their liking is often more complex. In this society, money seems to have become a means of direct expression of feelings. Giving benefits became a way to express like. We've all grown up and can't compete like kids to spend money on toys or respond to messages faster than anyone else. However, not everyone is willing to pay too much material price for the person they like, because love trampled on by money is all too common.
When a man likes you, the most direct way to express it may be to give you benefits. However, why are some men reluctant to spend money even if they like you? There may be three reasons.
First of all, he may be a stingy ghost. Some men are not willing to spend too much money in the process of pursuing a woman, they think that they can charm the other person with their eloquence, and if a woman is not fooled, he will turn to the next target. This petty attitude may be a sign that he likes you less.
Secondly, how much he likes you also affects his efforts. If he only likes a quarter of you, he may only be willing to spend a small amount of money, such as watching movies and drinking milk tea; But if you like it halfway, they may invite you to dinner. With a liking level of more than 90%, he is willing to meet all your needs for you. Also, if he's not sure how far your relationship can go, he may have a grain of salt about money.
Finally, he may be worried about being taken advantage of. In today's society, there are many people who gain wealth by falling in love. Some men are not really stingy, but are thinking about the feasibility of a future relationship. Once he is sure that you are the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with, he will become more generous because you are already his girlfriend-to-be and will no longer care about his family.
Talking about money is often a sensitive topic when it comes to falling in love, but money has become one of the criteria for measuring true and false love. If both guys are nice to you, and one of them is generous and the other is stingy, then it is likely that the former genuinely likes you more. His willingness to share his most precious things makes his "I love you" even more convincing.
In the ocean of feelings, liking and loving may be two states that each of us will experience. Understanding these differences may lead to a clearer picture of genuine feelings. Whether it is like or love, it is a beautiful emotion, and people who really know how to cherish and experience can find their own happiness in the long river of feelings.