Many children who come out of the countryside reach middle age and achieve nothing. The most important thing is to lose the motivation to fight and the courage to break through.
Because he has elderly parents and young children waiting to be fed, or maybe there will be more shackles of family affection.
In fact, for many poor students, from the beginning, it may be wrong.
Parents have failed to teach them the ability to earn a living and the rules of society since they were young, and they just blindly ask their children to read more books and get high grades.
Therefore, a batch of "rural problem-solvers" and "small-town problem-solvers" have been achieved. In the exam, they may be unbeatable, but they do not understand the cunning of human nature and the law of the development of things, and can only stumble into the cruel society by mistake, wasting a lot of time in vain.
A lot of times, they don't have time to think.
As a child, he was required to go to school; After graduating from university, he was asked to work; When they reach the age, they are required to marry; After starting a family, he was asked to have children.
By the time they were carried away by family affection, they had long forgotten their dreams. Looking back suddenly, halfway through my life, I have already lost a lot of precious things.
When they really understand some rules and want to rise up, they have to face the dilemma of "legal lockdowns and traditional fetters", and every step is a burden forward!
Many parents are also very good at hitting their children's self-confidence, not only in all kinds of beatings in learning, but also in all kinds of nagging after entering the society: settle down, don't do inaction struggle, it will only make you bruised.
Don't parents love their children? No, they love.
It's just that their vision pattern has created some inherent thoughts, and these negative thoughts have been passed down from generation to generation, poisoning future generations.
Therefore, parents are the ones who should improve and improve.
Especially when educating people, don't point fingers at will. If we are right, why struggle with life?
In the process of educating children, do not simply ask children to be "obedient". Teach them to "think for themselves".
Don't just say helplessly when your child needs help: "The way forward is up to you." ”
When he was old, he had to be morally kidnapped: "I can only rely on you for the elderly." ”
It is true that filial piety is a virtue, but in this fast-paced and stressful society, everyone is born tired. This tiredness accompanies a person for almost a lifetime.
All industries are rich in "volume kings". As parents, even if we can't be the best, we should try our best to avoid "over-disciplining" the next generation in the "law of the jungle". In the absence of a proper education, "respect" and "listening" may be better choices.