Compared with the prevailing theory of lying flat, I have always emphasized that people must learn to endure hardships, and take the initiative to endure hardships.
Enduring hardship is a very important ability, if a person can't endure hardship, unless it is really a good life, so that you have no worries about food and clothing for the rest of your life, otherwise you must be miserable.
Why is it important to endure hardship?
Because enduring hardship itself is a scarce ability, it only appears in two kinds of people: one is the person who has to endure hardship when he dies, and the other is the person who is prepared for danger in times of peace.
Of course, there are two major prerequisites for enduring hardship that I advocate: one is not to endure useless suffering, and the other is that useful suffering must also be self-interested.
The former is because honing one's own suffering is a pure waste of time, and since I have to endure hardship, then why don't I suffer a hardship that can allow me to obtain emotional value or economic value by the way?
The latter is because, if enduring hardship cannot meet the requirements of self-interest, it is purely altruistic, and it cannot even allow me to embody social values and gain a sense of accomplishment from altruism, then I will not do it.
Moreover, the core purpose of enduring hardship is not to suffer more in the future.
To put it simply, in the case of a person's fixed fate, from the perspective of the whole life cycle, the suffering you suffer in the early stage can make you suffer less in the later stage than under the same conditions.
Why?
Because it is a very small number of people who suffer as soon as possible, and everyone will encounter choices in the process of growing up, most people must choose not to suffer at this time, so when you choose to endure hardship, due to the small number of competitors, even if you suffer hardship, you will suffer less than when everyone has to fight for their heads and blood in the later stage.
At that time, everyone will not only compete to endure hardship, but also eat ugly.
There are also some people who do not apply this rule.
This part of the people highlights a casual nature, if they can live well, they will live well, and if they can't live well, they won't live, and they can't stand a little grievance.
My attitude towards this part of the population is understanding, because human beings themselves are emotional animals.
But if your goal is to live better on the basis of the present, or to live a little longer, then it is very necessary to endure hardship.
In the case of exams, it is especially obvious that you will not suffer hardship.
Many times I find that many people don't compare with great people just because they are efficient at studying.
It is true that people with good talent are inherently efficient, coupled with the positive feedback that brings faster response speed, and the motivation is also more sufficient, which you are far from being able to match under the acceleration of the Matthew effect.
But you have to know that you are not meant to be compared to those people.
What you want to compare is this part of the people who are similar to you.
When facing the problems in life, you have to have such a thought, many people who are at the same level as you will retreat when they encounter this problem, so they will be on the same level as you; And once you are willing to endure hardship, then you can move up to the next class.
And the number of each class is greatly reduced.
In other words, as long as you are willing to endure hardship, you can eliminate a large part of your class at once.
At this time, someone said, then aren't there fewer and fewer people like you who are going to the back to suffer hardships and elimination, and the marginal benefit is getting lower and lower?
Wrong, it is precisely because there are fewer and fewer people behind you that your value will become higher and higher.
This is the so-called 28th law.
Although there are only two people in the back, they hold 80% of the wealth.
The further you go, each time you move up a class, the value you can create increases exponentially.
Finally, let's talk about the things to pay attention to when enduring hardship.
It is necessary to endure hardships while ensuring that you are healthy.
Physical health will greatly affect your work efficiency and mental health, even if a person has psychological problems, as long as his body is healthy, his psychology will quickly repair itself; And a person who is not in good health, even if he is mentally healthy, will soon begin to have all kinds of cranky thoughts and somatic reactions, and enter a vicious circle.
Ensure work and rest, ensure diet, and combine work and rest.
After that, endure more hardships.
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