In our daily lives, we always meet people whose behavior, words and actions make us feel unhappy.
Maybe it's because of a conflict of interests, maybe it's because the scars of the past leave a bad impression, or maybe it's because of the unpleasant habits they have. Whenever we come into contact with such people, whether it's smelling their breath or hearing their voices, we develop a natural defensive response within us. Like a harsh noise, we instinctively cover our ears to try to stay away from the unpleasant feelings.
However, young people need to understand that this is a very irrational psychology. In order to avoid becoming hostile to others due to unwarranted "likes and dislikes", we need to learn how to build friendships with people we don't like, and even try to embrace former enemies. This is a kind of bearing, but also a kind of mind. Just like a big tree, it does not sway easily because of the wind, but stands firmly in place, befriending all kinds of people, and showing a broad mind.
If you mutter, "I'm never going to mingle with someone I don't like, you're losing my backbone." "Well, you might be preparing to suffer a big loss. Because your negative attitude will not only fail to ease the hostility of the other person within a certain range, but may exacerbate your antipathy towards the other person.
In fact, learning to make friends with people who don't like you is not as difficult as you think, your own thoughts are the most critical, and as long as you can overcome psychological barriers, there is nothing that cannot be done.
So, how do you deal with people you don't like?
1. Increase the chance of contact and be kind to the other party. Maybe you tried to escape from those people, but perhaps, with more contact, a little more understanding, your relationship will ease somewhat, and there will be a new turnaround.
2. Doing what you like is an effective strategy. Of course, doing what we like doesn't mean we have to give up our principles and bottom line. It's just a social strategy, we can put a little more thought into understanding the other person's preferences and interests, so that we can better communicate and communicate with him. At the same time, we should also be vigilant and avoid associating with bad people to ensure our own safety and interests.
3. Light the fire of the party and let the joyful atmosphere spread. When we all come together, let's be the smiling light that illuminates each other. Although it may not be easy to show laughter, as long as we are connected by our hearts, those humorous jokes will surely blow through each other's hearts like a spring breeze and bring endless joy.
4. When getting along with people we don't like, we should keep a proper distance and try not to show obvious disgust. A moderate distance can avoid unnecessary enemies.
5. When the relationship is deadlocked or deteriorated, we should be brave enough to show friendliness, and never hesitate because of temporary face or shyness. You must know that taking the initiative to show favor is the key to resolving contradictions and an ice-breaking move to break the deadlock.
6. Tolerance and tolerance are the most important. After all, even grass, trees, insects, and fish can perceive emotions, let alone people? As long as there are good thoughts in your heart, the other party will eventually turn around and welcome your kindness.
Therefore, only by mastering the art of getting along with people you don't like, can you be comfortable in various social situations and circle of friends, become the center of attention, and become a leader in the social field.
Remember, don't be a humble licker, and keep your dignity and worth.