xhs brushed up on a girl studying in Germany. Because he didn't want to return to China, he was blocked by his mother, and he said that he would break off the relationship. Bell just read the title and was ready to scold. After reading the full description and chat log, there is only silence. 
No wonder this mother was angry and said that she was going to break off the relationship. This daughter ......It's a bit hard to put into words. How much does it cost to study in Germany? I looked it up. Not counting the usual social entertainment, optical miscellaneous expenses and living expenses, it is normal to spend 100,000 to 200,000 yuan a year. 3 to 4 years for bachelor's degree and 2 years for master's degree. If the main post is a bachelor's and master's reading, it adds up to at least w go up. An only child who crossed the ocean to study abroad. Eat your parents, use your parents, your parents will see her for a month at most a year, and after graduation, she will say "I won't come back", what is this equivalent to? 
It is equal to white raising. Although the "parental unkindness theory" is popular now, everyone is advocating that raising children is not for the sake of return, and children cannot be tied to their side. The problem is that when you need financial support, you can enjoy the bottomless contribution of traditional parents with peace of mind; After graduation, if you want to be free and not be fettered, you want your parents to become Buddhas in an instant, and become enlightened parents in the new era who only give and do not ask for anything in return. I just want to enjoy the rights, I don't want to take on the obligations, otherwise I will post my mother on the Internet and let people scold me. Isn't it a little selfish? Will children be free to choose their lives when they grow up? Of course. The premise is to pay back the study abroad expenses that your parents spent on you first. While the waist is stiff, while sucking the blood of his parents with a shy face, his mother sent a bunch of angry and sad words, and he replied with a sentence of "I know" and didn't even answer**, and I didn't realize how much I hurt my parents' hearts when I posted**Mom, only when I said "I will be self-reliant in the future", my tone was full of regret. Even if the poor mother finally died and said that she would break off the relationship, she still paid her a one-year deposit - the German self-insurance gold standard in 2024 is 12,324 euros, equivalent to more than 90,000 yuan. This is what the poster said: "I envy my mother's friends, my mother never seems to understand me and won't let me choose my life freely." I don't understand that I still send you to study abroad, I can't see you a few times in a few years, and I spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on you; Don't let you choose your life freely, and then break off the relationship with sad and cruel words, and pay you a one-year deposit. You don't want this kind of mother, do you? It's better to put the salted fish and turn it out. I guarantee that the people queuing up to pay will be able to get from Beijing to Munich. 
Some children don't know how to teach, and the double standard is terrifyingly cold-blooded. I've heard similar examples around me a few years ago. My parents are an acquaintance, and my son has the opportunity to go to country M for further study after graduating from high school. Although his family is ordinary, both of them love their children very much, and they were quite productive when they were able to go abroad. Seeing that his son wanted to go, he sold a house in the family and sent him on the plane with the help of the whole family. You should be able to guess the results. It's been more than ten years, and they haven't seen their son again. During this period, parents can intermittently learn about the recent situation of their children through transoceanic ** - graduation, work, love, and marriage. The son never mentioned that he wanted to take them over to live, and the old couple hinted twice to no avail. I was probably distressed about the cost of the air ticket, and I was afraid of disturbing him, so I didn't go to visit my relatives in the end. 
However, although the child can't see it, the money still has to be given. After going abroad, his parents successively remitted him nearly 800,000 yuan, and the reason was nothing more than marriage and property, and human life. Every time the money is collected, the world evaporates. As they get older, their health deteriorates. Who cares? Who will take care of it? It is estimated that there are only nurses. Now when my parents talk about them, they say that they cry when they see people, and warn them not to send their children abroad: "I regret my bowels, and having a son is the same as not, there is no difference." Living abroad all year round is indeed basically equivalent to not having a life. 
What is the current situation of childcare in China? The status quo is that parents are hard. Why so many young people don't want children. Except that some of them were really hurt by their original family, and some of them really didn't like their children. Another part is that I really don't feel that I am up to the task. Don't you find that the general concept of parenting now is that the requirements for parents are higher than those of great men, and the requirements for children are lower than those of animals? From infancy, parents are expected to respond unconditionally to their children 24 hours a day. The child can let himself go, because when you let him into the world, you have an obligation to let him enjoy happiness unconditionally. If you don't have hundreds of thousands, you don't have children. If you can't afford a rich life, don't have children. If you don't want to peel your skin and pull your bones, you don't want to have children. Do you want to get it in return? You don't deserve to have children. Therefore, it is inevitable that they will raise selfish ghosts, and only talk about rights and obligations. Finally, I want to give this poster a popular science: The "traditional parents" you dislike, it is precisely because of their traditional concepts that they will raise the strength of the whole family to support a child. Otherwise, you can fulfill the maintenance obligations stipulated by the law after the age of 18, and you will not care whether you live or die. After all, if you don't return to China in the future, eighty percent of them can only give money, and they can't fulfill their obligation to take care of their parents. In addition to the financial responsibility of 20%-30% of your total monthly income, you also have the obligation to take care of your life and provide spiritual comfort, including medical expenses, nursing, housing arrangements, etc. It's not a sentence of "they don't let me choose my life freely" to commit the sin of abandonment with peace of mind. If you have backbone, don't use your parents' money to study abroad. If you want to be free, then support yourself and work to pay tuition and living expenses. is taking the money of his parents, and he is working in the family, and his waist is still so hard. Whoever gives you the courage is not sure that they love you. Any relationship is about equality and balance, and the same is true for the friendly workplace. Otherwise, as a parent, should you be born to be a big wrongdoer? 