When a person lacks assertiveness in both relationships and workThen he must be led by the nose by others, because no matter what happens, he can't make a final judgment.
When he needs to make up his mind, he also hesitates, looking forward and backward, it can be said that it is difficult for such a person to achieve great things.
In the relationship, in the process of two people getting along, they also need to have assertiveness, take a very small thing as an example, two people are ready to go out to play, and they encounter some problems on the way out to play, how to solve them is the best.
At this time, the person who lacks assertiveness will pin everything on the other party, and he will not be able to objectively analyze the matter, let alone make a final judgment.
In his opinion, both options are appropriate, or rather,He had no idea what the consequences of his choice would beAt this time, the other party will make the final decision straightforwardly.
Then when the other party makes a decision, he must follow the other party, in other wordsThose who have an opinion will take the initiative
It's like a steering wheel, a person who can make up his mind quickly, he can hold the steering wheel in his hand, and if he wants to go, it's all his business.
Lacking in assertiveness, we can only sit aroundObey his commandsAt first, you may think that it is not a big deal, between two people, there must always be one party to make a decision.
But later, as time goes by, two people will inevitably stumble in the process of getting along, and when the contradiction arises, both of them fall into a cold war, and then we will feel that the other party has changed their minds.
But we have long been accustomed to relying on each other, when we encounter big and small problems in life, the other party will solve them for us, and we are also used to asking him what he thinks.
In the end, after this series of things, we can't help but go to each other to reconcileGradually, we began to be inseparable from himAs long as there is a conflict, he will no longer take the initiative to coax us as he did at the beginning.
This is what I said, the initiative is in his hands, we become very passive, then this relationship, we will maintain a very tired relationship.
I think it's normal to start a relationship, basically everyone goes through it, but even with each otherWe should also keep our own ideas and opinions
Remember not to be led by the other party's nose, just imagine how tiring it would be to ask for the other person's opinion or idea on everything.
Only when we have made up our minds ourselves, the other party will not dare to move easily, and some people may feel that if they really love someone, they will not care about this.
If it is true love, it should be unconditional to help each other, and there is no passivity and initiative.
But I would like to say that this is not the case at allGetting along with each other is one thing to love and not to loveThe rest is another matter.
Just like two couples who love each other very much, when it comes to the end, they will definitely meet their parents to discuss marriage, at this time, if one party lacks assertiveness, then the other party will take advantage of thisStart creating favorable conditions for yourself,Let the other party choose to believe in themselves unconditionally and follow themselves.
You must know that people are selfish, in many cases they will take the lead in thinking about themselves, when we rely on each other for everything, the life of the past will not be easy, this marriage will slowly become unbalanced, and eventually there will be more and more contradictionsThe relationship between two people will also slowly break down
In addition, we should have our own opinions in our work, and in contemporary society, the workplace is becoming more and more complexIn fact, the complicated world is not the workplace at allIt's the human heart
When we deal with colleagues, we often have to pay more attention, because as long as we work, there will be competition, and everyone wants to compete for good conditions for themselves.
If at this time, we don't even have an opinion, and we will ask the people around us for the first timeThen from the beginning we lost
If the other party is really good to us, he will naturally not harm us, but he also does not want our ability to surpass him, so no matter what, we are subservient to them.
In the long run, this job will become more and more difficult for us, watching everyone around us start to get promoted and raisedWe may even begin to doubt ourselves
In fact, there is no need for this at all, there is no absolute right or wrong in many things, when making a certain decision, we might as well be bold and have the courage to try.
When making a decision, don't think too much, the more you think about it, the more you doubt yourself, and in the end, you can't even make a judgment about something the size of an ant, and it is difficult for such a person to survive in the workplace.
If we want to be better and betterThen we might as well fundamentally change ourselvesNo matter how big or small, we should no longer rely on others, nor should we form a habit of asking for others' opinions.
As long as you make up your mind boldly, don't worry about what will happen next, after all, no one is perfect, everyone will make mistakes, we must tolerate our own mistakesAlso consider the consequences of making a decision
Only by having an opinion can we have a good life