What makes a person successful?
In the past, it was said that reading can change fate, but until now, studying and going to university is the only way out for children from poor families.
In fact, it's not just a poor family, even if it's a wealthy family, look at their children, they are all blessed with dazzling academic qualifications, and they are well-known universities abroad at every turn. Harvard, Cambridge, MIT, and so on, which were previously out of reach, now seem unsurprising.
But there is also a saying that "it is difficult to produce a noble son from a poor family", the specific reason is that if a person is poor and has no knowledge and does not know how to deal with people, that is to say, the IQ is high, but the emotional intelligence is a mess, then this person will not be able to get ahead in his life, and no matter how good he reads, it will be in vain.
The essence of the remarks is that if a person is born poor, if he does not know how to befriend the leader, it will be over, and if he is not dignified, it will be over.
As a person from an ordinary family, I was exposed to the idea of the supremacy of emotional intelligence when I was young, and my heart was crying.
Parents have no ability and no knowledge, what kind of emotional intelligence can they teach their children?
There are usually two kinds: one is to slap in with others, and the other is to solve it violently in anger.
Many parents who are not educated and incapable also like to instill in their children the idea of the supremacy of emotional intelligence, teach their children to figure out the thoughts of leaders and colleagues, and make more stutters, and it will be their turn to do good things.
How to speak so that others can listen to it comfortably and make others happy?
I've read a few books before, and when I read it, I felt that it was really the first thing, and it's no wonder that I've never made others happy, and it seems that I have a big problem!
But speaking is an art, and some people are born with a talent, and their small mouths are especially good at speaking, which is like smearing honey.
Of course, you can also practice a lot of practice and constantly train to break through yourself, such as being a salesman, a front desk, and how to gain experience after working for a long time.
The most worrying thing is that there is a little bit of technology in hand, and there is neither the talent for saying good things, nor the opportunity for a lot of practice.
What's worse is that the mind is sensitive and delicate, and he can't bear the frustration of interpersonal communication, and he is unwilling to contact the outside world after hitting a wall a few times, and then he completely becomes a low emotional intelligence.
Is it true that such a person has no interest in his life?
Before the age of thirty, I believed that EQ was higher than IQ, and those who could read did not make as much money as those who could talk.
After the age of 30, I believe that IQ is higher than EQ, and those so-called "high EQ" are actually very annoying.
I don't say this out of jealousy, but after people have a certain amount of experience, a lot of "high emotional intelligence" is not strange, hypocritical to the extreme, if you want to really do something, you must find a high IQ, you must beware of only saying beautiful things, popularity looks particularly good.
Professor Li Meijin once said that among the students she has led, those who revolve around her, especially those who can talk, she knows the thoughts of these smart children at a glance, but it is useless. What she admires most is those children who are down-to-earth and honest, and children with good intentions are more likely to be promising.
Many successful entrepreneurs have also expressed the opinion that recruiting young people will choose capable ones and try to avoid those who can say beautiful things.
The Hurun Wealth Rankings specialize in the study of why successful entrepreneurs can succeed and why others cannot. It turns out that the most basic thing that makes a person successful is the most basic character: integrity.
Regardless of how the economic model changes, integrity remains an essential quality for success.
In fact, since ancient times, kings have hated those ministers who talk sweetly and like to compliment them, such are generally traitorous ministers, and every generation of emperors has used the respect and cherishment of Wei Zheng, a minister who dares to put forward opinions, to warn themselves and flaunt themselves.
In the past, the literati pursued the courage to say things that the leaders didn't like to hear, but in today's society, they instead advocate saying what others like to hear, and dig out their minds to study how to be a traitor? Praise others, praise others, as long as others are happy, they dare to say anything, and they are embarrassed to say anything.
Is this a regression of personality?
In the era of feudal oppression and cruelty, how did it come to such an enlightened society now, but instead pursued to please him?
The so-called "high emotional intelligence" is actually a whitewashed sugar-coated cannonball, for the sake of profit, to make others feel that they are a good person, think about themselves when they are good, and say some hypocritical things.
Young people with no experience will believe that they are really being played around, and if people can't distinguish other people's minds when they reach middle age, and they are easily used by others, it is really sad.
It is only in middle age that people find that high emotional intelligence is the most annoying, every word said is really useful, it is a scene talk, and it is a waste of time to say and listen.
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