Bi Shumin wrote in "The Seven Colors of Happiness":
Women should not put their life's happiness on the selection of men before marriage, thinking that choice is everything. It's frustrating to have a bad start, but the season is still long, and as long as you win the game, you'll be a good player.Whether in love or marriage, a woman's pursuit of happiness is always full of expectations and longing.
However, feelings require the other party's willingness, and if you want to hold a man's heart firmly in her hands, a woman must learn to "pretend". 
Pretending to be weak arouses a man's desire to protectIn "Ode to Joy", Qu Xiaoxuan and Zhao Qiping's first encounter was because she sprained her foot and went to the hospital. Because of love at first sight with Zhao Qiping, in order to attract the attention of the male god, Qu Xiaoxuan began to "pretend" to be weak. Although the injury on her foot was just an ordinary sprain, she still pretended to be pitiful, and shouted at Zhao Qiping, which successfully inspired Zhao Qiping's pity, and she got Zhao Qiping's contact as soon as she made a move. After the relationship between the two was established, Qu Xiaoxuan often coquetted Zhao Qiping with a woman's weakness, and Zhao Qiping happened to be quite useful for this. Even if he sometimes knew that Qu Xiaoxuan was making trouble unreasonably, Zhao Qiping couldn't be fierce to her. Zhang Ailing once said
"A woman who is good at bowing her head is a powerful woman, and the stronger the woman, the more powerful she is to show weakness. ”In the eyes of men, a woman's weakness often has an irresistible charm.
When a woman shows her weak side in front of him, his heart becomes soft. In order to win the affection of a man, learning to "pretend" to be weak in front of him is a key step. 
Pretend to be confused and don't worry about menOne day, my friend Xiaomei, who I hadn't been in touch with for more than a year, asked me to go shopping together. Since she got married and had children, it has always been difficult to meet her every time, either because the children are sick or her husband has to work overtime. This time, after chatting with her, I found out that she had learned to "pretend to be confused" in front of her husband. In the past, in Xiaomei's family, she was responsible for housework and taking care of the children, and her husband was responsible for raising the family and making money. At the beginning, her husband would often help, but Xiaomei always thought that he was not doing well, either the table was not cleaned, or the water filled with milk powder was too cold......Over time, her husband simply became the shopkeeper and left everything at home to her. This made Xiaomei accumulate a lot of grievances, and the couple often quarreled over trivial matters. After a serious illness, Xiaomei's thinking began to change. She no longer holds her husband to high standards and is no longer too critical of his shortcomings. Now, when her husband is upset and wants to drink two drinks, she will sit down with him and listen to him, instead of nagging and persuading him to quit drinking as before. The relationship between the two has obviously improved, and the laughter of chatting often echoes in the home, and the relationship has become more and more intimate. In marriage, there is no need to argue too much about right and wrong, what is needed is mutual understanding and tolerance. Zhang Ailing once said:
A woman who is too sober will not be happy, either she is really confused or she pretends to be confused.In fact, between husband and wife, the most rare thing is to be confused and not to be too careful, so as to make the relationship between each other more harmonious.
Many things don't have to be sober and confused all the time to make the marriage last longer and happier. 
Writer Mader said:
"What really drives love is not strong love, but trivial time. ”There is no perfect love, let alone a perfect marriage. Details can defeat love, but they can also achieve happiness.
If a woman wants to live a truly happy and comfortable life, she must learn to "pretend." pretending to be weak in front of men arouses men's desire to protect; Pretend to be confused in front of trivial things and don't worry about men. The more women who know how to "pretend", whether in love or marriage, will live happier and happier lives.