Hayao Miyazaki once said, "What determines our lives is sometimes not our ability, but our choice." ”The prosperity will eventually fade, and all that remains is ordinary life.
Ignorant people blindly move forward, and wise people advance and retreat in an orderly manner.
Choose the right opportunity and retreat, not to be weak and incompetent, but to protect oneself wisely, and to retreat as advance.
At the end of the Qin Dynasty, there was a man named Chen Ying in Dongyang County, who was sympathetic to the people and was loved.
At that time, the local people were oppressed and it was difficult to survive, so thousands of young people gathered together, harmed the county order, and then elected Chen Ying as the leader. Soon, the ranks of the uprising expanded to more than 20,000 people.
Chen Ying's mother said: "For many years, there has not been a big name in the Chen family, and now you are suddenly famous, I'm afraid it's not a good thing." You'd better back down, the uprising is successful, you can be a marquis, the uprising fails, and there is still a chance to escape
Chen Ying listened to his mother's words and attributed the rebel army to Xiang Liang.
Later, Qin died, Han Xing. Chen Ying was named the Marquis of Tangyi, and his descendants have married the royal family four times, showing his dignity.
"Han Feizi: Lonely Anger" wrote: "A wise man must be far-sighted and discerning. ”If a person wants to be long-lasting, then he can see everything from the beginning, and with every step, he can design things that are ten steps awayNo matter what happens to you in the future, you can deal with it easily.
Merit: It can go up, and it can go down.
The ancients said: "The end of the high, the bow is hidden; The rabbit dies, the dog cooks. ”During the Spring and Autumn Period, Wu Zixu was the elder of the Three Dynasties of Wu and was in the Xiangguo.
After Fucha succeeded to the throne, Wu Zixu and him had a difference of opinion - whether to destroy the Yue Kingdom immediately or not, each has his own opinion. In addition, some ministers made an obstacle from this, and in front of their husbands, they accused Wu Zixu of sending his son to Qi State, and there were signs of treason.
In addition, Wu Zixu suggested getting rid of the beautiful Xi Shi of Yue Guo around Fucha, which made Fucha very difficult.
The official level crushed people to death", Wu Zixu was loyal, but he offended his superiors, and finally committed suicide.
At the same time, Wu Zixu's friend and opponent Fan Li assisted Yue Guo to become the overlord, and then retired in time, and lived a peaceful life for the rest of the year.
There is a word called "retirement". If you can advance and retreat, you are a big husband.
The merit is great, it is an honor, and it will also be like a very tall tree, destined to withstand greater wind and rain, and if the wind is particularly strong, it will break at the waist.Returning home with honor is the best way. If you can't completely get rid of your reputation and status, then you should take the initiative to retreat, hide yourself among the masses, and seek benefits for the masses as ordinary people.
If you forget about merit and don't care about status, your body will become short, and the masses around you will become your "armor and shield".
Love: Wait until the scenery is seen through, and you can also see the fine water.
Loving someone always starts with a bang.
For example, when a man meets someone he likes, he should send her a lot of roses to create a special romance on Valentine's Day. Birthday gifts will also be carefully selected to reflect their creativity.
After a woman falls in love with someone, she will imagine the beauty of holding hands countless times, will talk a lot of nonsense, and chat anytime and anywhere. The phone was always open, chatting until late at night, and I was reluctant to put it down.
Later, two people who fell in love with each other held a grand wedding and announced to the world how happy they were.
Love mentor Tu Lei said: "A woman is a princess for one day, a queen for ten months, and a lifetime of hard work." ”After getting married, the banquet was dispersed, everything returned to a calm state, and even a sentence of "I love you" seemed redundant. Women have become "yellow-faced women" in seconds, and men have also become the pillars of the family, tired and out of breath.
I don't know when the quarrel began, and the fatigue of the marriage became more and more serious.
When people reach a certain age, they will understand that the so-called "respecting each other as guests" is actually learning to bow their heads, no longer care about the other party's faults, and do not expect any surprises.
The best love is actually getting along from the beginning, the husband and wife have passed through the stormy waves together, and then enjoy the long stream of water together.
When you are sad, you can cry loudly, then wash your face, try to squeeze out a smile, continue to love someone, and make three meals a day.
Bow your head, be wronged, bear it, and start again and again.
Wisdom: can speak into chapters, but also can be silent and confused.
In the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a time when Confucius was particularly troubled. He found that the people around him began to drift away. When he walked somewhere, everyone else avoided as soon as possible, as if they didn't want to meet and say hello.
Confucius asked, what's going on?
* Say, "Because when you meet people, you have too many rules." ”
After that, Confucius was very kind to whoever he met; With **, you can also sit on a stool.
Confucius found that he was more liked by everyone.
A scholar often flaunts his literary brilliance and speaks honestly, but in fact, he is belittling those who have no literary brilliance, or he is not self-conscious, and he praises himself. Such behavior is disgusting.
Interpersonal communication is not so cumbersome, and emotional communication requires a little "inaction" method.
A person's talent must always do something for others and help others answer questions in order to reflect the value. If you just make yourself more noble and speak more levelly, your talent will be in vain, and it is just "selling fame and reputation".
Therefore, when learning knowledge, you should think about what the goal of learning is, whether you can persist in learning for the rest of your life, and humbly ask others for advice.
Don't, because you read too much, you turn yourself into a pedantic scholar.
In "Persuasion and Forbearance", it is written: "Reach the foresight of people and do not compete with things." Regard the profit as the dirt of dung, and regard the power as the lightness of the feathers. ”We should be open-minded, have foresight, and do not argue with others about interests and reputation, regard interests as dung, and power as feathers.
Life is a life, grass and trees are autumn. When you reach the ultimate position, you will develop in the opposite direction, it is better to take the initiative to turn around and take a step back to open the sky.
Smart people, who are long-termists, designed the "way home" from the very beginning.