I talked to several people about the definition of "new woman" at a time, and I always thought that "new woman" was a synonym for "a woman who can be more free to be herself", but a man who participated in the discussion gave an anxious answer: the family is well organized, the way of parenting is profound, the work is excellent, the economy is independent, can easily cope with the big and small things in life, and the makeup is exquisite and the demeanor is elegant.
Not only was this answer not accepted by the women present, but even the other men who participated in the discussion said that they were not very acceptable, after all, as a human being, whether it is a man or a woman, it is enough to show off if you can do one of them.
On another occasion when talking about the definition of "new woman", one woman gave the definition of "being like Chizuruko Ueno" who bravely faced the oppression and discrimination against women in a patriarchal society, and did not become a machine for marriage and childbearing.
How to say it, I haven't read Chizuruko Ueno's books, but I know that many girls are impressed by her philosophy, and I don't know if "girls choose to refuse marriage and childbearing to remain independent" is her philosophy, after all, she herself has a husband named Sekawa Daikichi.
It is not only women in reality who are defined by various "new", but also characters in film and television dramas. For example, "crazy criticism of beauties", women not only want to be beautiful, but also to be double business**, and not to be crazy and not to survive. Of course, various types of "big heroines" are indispensable, who may be in power, may kill all sides, and may be in the workplace ......In short, the setting of the characters makes people very cool when chasing dramas, but it also makes the reality more pale.
Each of us is the protagonist of our own life, but the reality is that we don't always get the leading role. We can't be like Zhen Huan, who left Ganlu Temple, taking the script of the favorite concubine, step by step, and becoming the master of the harem. There are too many entrants, and there is only one Zhen Huan, even if you are the only protagonist in your life, if necessary, you must find a suitable supporting role position for yourself in the system you are in, so that you can be stable for a long time. But if you happen to become "the queen and An Lingrong who are against the palace everywhere" in the eyes of "Zhen Huan", there seems to be no better way than to change places.
The reality may just be bland, without a single piece of chicken feathers, but it is lined with chicken bits and pieces by the new heroine. once met a girl who didn't dare to watch Korean dramas, just because from the heroine to the supporting actress in the play, she was useless in terms of appearance. It is estimated that this sense of contrast will also make it difficult for her to accept the current domestic dramas, all kinds of female characters in domestic dramas, from ancient puppets to modern times, whether it is a good person or a bad person, there is at least one place that can make the reality of us more bleak.
In psychology, gaze refers to the method of carrying the operation of power and the entanglement of desires and the consciousness of identity. There is a subject and an object, but none of them is the real superior. Even if many people see the unreasonable portrayal of women by gaze, they cannot ignore the stereotypical portrayal of men by gaze.
In the Spring Festival Gala sketch, a man is always afraid of his wife, even if he is a high-powered successful man outside, he has to live in cringe when he comes home, and occasionally he is forced to be reluctant to be stubborn, and there is definitely another hidden story behind it.
We all know that this is not the case, and even among the authors who wrote these works, not all of them have such family structures. But can only have such male characters on the stage, does it count as a relationship between the sexes, or an unreasonable gaze on men? Or is it a deceptive, generalized gaze?
Or, only such a typical will be "safe" - comedic sense is safe, the audience is safe, and female viewers feel safe when they watch it. It's hard to imagine what comedic effect a husband full of traditional machismo ideas will have on the stage yelling at his wife, and it will be too difficult for the creator, and even the ending may be very fixed "persuade to leave and not persuade peace". This is too unsuitable for the general public.
Compared with female characters, it is easy to find common labels, and the labels of male characters in film and television dramas will be distinct. For example, Lei Jiayin and Bai Ke played the "wretched waste" in their roles, Wu Jing, Jason Stanford, etc. interpret the tough guy style, as well as greasy middle-aged, uncle circle, milk dog, Puxin man, gentleman's hand and other ......The requirements are less than those of the female characters, but each one looks dry and flat, ignoring the multifaceted nature of who they are born with.
The difference is that compared with the frustration of female characters against reality, in some modern dramas, male characters are more helpless in projecting reality. Han Ming in "Article 20" used to be a young man with strong blood, but the responsibility of supporting his family must make him a sleek, sophisticated, and person who gave up his original bottom line in order to "stabilize".
It's hard to imagine what the plot would be like if it was Han Ming who resigned and stayed at home for the sake of his son's study, and Li Maojuan was the one who worked hard outside? It's certainly theatrical, but it's not realistic, and it can even dominate the original theme of the movie.
For people of other ages, there is also a labeled gaze. Young people must like to go crazy, like rock 'n' roll, like two-dimensional, and don't look reliable; The old man must first be disrespectful to the old, and then become someone who understands his children, with a more unified sense of prejudice and persuasion.
As I write this, I am constantly analyzing my own feelings and feeling the other effects of the irrational gaze on my life that I once overlooked. I've found that out of all the irrational gazes, women are more pressure-oriented, and men are more understanding-oriented. For example, in the relationship between the sexes that everyone pays more attention to, men who can tolerate women's sloppiness mean that they have three positive views and good men, but women who tolerate men's sloppiness are not even worth discussing.
The above views are only my views at this stage and do not represent immutability. But I always hope that no matter whether it is a woman, a man, an old man or a child, in the rest of his life, he will not be swayed by the unreasonable gaze in the name of "new".
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