People are group animals, inseparable from socialization, people's life, success is also friends, defeat is also friends, the quality of friends can determine the direction of our life, people live a lifetime, we must know how to stop losses in time, treat those low-quality social circles, no harm decisively stay away. Only when you are truly away from these meaninglessness can you save a lot of time and do more meaningful and valuable things. Therefore, making friends should be rather lacking than excessive, not not cautious, really smart people, know how to take the initiative to give up those meaningless socialization, clean up the social circle on time.
The real bull is to see how many people you can attract. If you are not awesome yourself, it is useless to know more awesome people. People who have no use value for others, others will not put you at ease. And this kind of socialization can only make you more and more unconfident and unconfident. Your own level determines the level you are in. You can only be in the same circle with people on the same level forever. Instead of spending a lot of time making friends, it is better to work hard to improve yourself.
A really smart person, he will keep a relative distance from others, he does not need to deliberately stay away or get close, he just needs to be himself and strive to improve himself, the person who should be close to him will walk into you sooner or later. Sincerity is only given to those who are also sincere, and those who are hypocritical are not worthy. Human favor is unreliable, only cultivation and ability are reliable. The circle is not long-lasting, only knowledge and wisdom are long-lasting. It is better to improve your own strength if you are chasing the big names in the social circle.
We must remember that the most precious thing is time, and every job we do today is to exchange time for money and time for knowledge, so we must not waste other people's time casually, nor waste our own time. If you have time, try not to do those ineffective social interactions, you should study more, make your body and mind happy, and make your life richer, which will be more conducive to your growth.
All the beauty in the world is actually a sense of strangeness and remoteness. Therefore, the most beautiful distance in the world is in the place that will be reached but not yet reached. All the distances that exist are reasonable, we don't need to deliberately approach or walk away, just be ourselves, and we will get closer sooner or later. Smart people tend to rarely socialize, not because they don't like making friends, but because they have their own choices about their friends and don't waste time managing their networking. The wiser people are, the more they know how to set aside time for important people and things in their limited lives.
Socializing is a daily thing, some people expand their connections through socializing, and some people use socializing to connect people's hearts. Socializing has become the key to taking shortcuts, and I always think that if you socialize widely, you can achieve everything. But not everyone is social. Really smart people, never social. Because they know that their connections are not in others, but in themselves. Life is cruel and realistic, your abilities don't deserve to be had, and the connections you've worked so hard to manage have no value.
If you are so tired that you feel that I am not me anymore in order to maintain your relationships, you should review your attitude towards this relationship. Behind the superficial prosperity is excessive emptiness, and the complex social circle never brings value. And those so-called connections and friends are actually just a kind of psychological comfort to themselves. Rather than low-quality socializing, high-quality solitude is preferred. After all, life in the world is not only noisy, but also should have the realm of solitude.
Really smart people, away from garbage socializing, they believe that no one is better than themselves, they would rather be alone than participate in it, put their time and energy on useful things, and make themselves stronger in solitude. In fact, the biggest noble person in life is not others, but himself. He has excellent ability and ability, otherwise even if he knows more people, he will not get the slightest care and help. Only by strengthening oneself and making oneself worthy, can one become a noble person for others and meet a noble person who benefits oneself.
When you stand on the highest position, you can naturally see the most open view, and you don't need to cling to others. Life is short, and we don't need to be wronged to meet others. Don't waste your energy on meaningless things, cherish the present moment and focus on what you're good at. A good life is never supported by extensive social interactions, but created through one's own excellence. The real smart people have long given up the flashy social interactions, but continue to cultivate themselves in solitude, and then continue to grow.
A meaningful social circle is important, it is an asset for our life, and it is important to make friends who appreciate you deeply and will comfort you and help you when you are poor. Make friends with positive energy who will accompany you and encourage you when you are feeling down. Make friends who lead you the way, and will volunteer to be your stepping stone and take you through the mud and fog. Make friends who are willing to criticize you, and will always remind you and supervise you, so that you can always find your own shortcomings.
Making yourself a valuable person is the only prerequisite for high-quality socialization. When encountering something unsatisfactory, he is accustomed to complaining and complaining. They often think that everyone is against them. People who are full of negative energy will only be self-centered in doing things, like to avoid responsibility, and will only blame others when they encounter problems. Lack of self-reflection. The most important thing in a person's life is actually ourselves, and we must spend time alone to improve our abilities.
Life is not a one-man show, people are mutual. No one wants to be compatible all the time downward, and no one can be able to look up all the time. A good relationship is evenly matched, and people with the same frequency can come together. The rest of life is not long, it is better to please others than to be strong, and it cannot extend the length of life, but it can expand the width of life and increase the thickness of life. Don't waste time on irrelevant people, don't waste energy on meaningless things.