My name is Zhang Ya, I am 28 years old this year, and I am an ordinary white-collar worker working hard in a big city. My family is very traditional, my parents are both teachers, and I was instilled with the idea of "starting a family" from a young age. However, now that I am at the pinnacle of my career, my love life is still blank.
Every time I go home, my biggest fear is facing the care of my family. They always asked me in a slightly reproachful tone: "Xiaoya, why haven't you found a partner yet?" Look at Xiao Wang next door, other children can make soy sauce. "I knew they were doing it for my good, but the care was overwhelmingly stressful.
When I went home this time, I thought I was ready to deal with all kinds of "torture". However, when my mother asked me about my relationship again, I still couldn't hold back my tears. I told her, "Mom, it's not that I don't want to look for it, it's that I really haven't found the right person." ”
My mother didn't seem to understand my predicament, she sighed and said, "You are not ugly and have a stable job, how can you not find a partner?" "I knew she was comforting me, but that comfort made me even more sad. Because I know that being single is not because I am not good enough, but because I have encountered too many helplessness and choices.
In a big city, I'm busy working every day and have little time to meet new people. Even if I sometimes want to go to some social events, I always miss them for various reasons. I knew I had to take the initiative to change the situation, but the fear and laziness in my heart kept me in the same place.
I've also met some nice people, but I always haven't been able to get together for various reasons. Sometimes I wonder if I'm too picky. But every time I think about this question, I tell myself, "I'm not picky, I just want to find someone who really fits me." ”
I know that my family has high expectations for me, and they want me to find a good home soon. But I also hope that they can understand that emotional matters are not so simple. I need time to find the right person, and I need the courage to face the uncertainty of the future.
During this Spring Festival holiday, I decided to let go of all my stress and worries and spend time with my family. I know they're doing it for my good, and I'm going to try to find the answer that satisfies everyone. But I hope to get more understanding and support in this process.
Being single doesn't mean I'm unhappy, and it doesn't mean I'm incomplete. I have my own work and life, as well as my own dreams and pursuits. I believe that as long as I keep going, I will meet the right person one day. And in the process, I will cherish my single life even more, and I will be more courageous to face the challenges of the future.