In the past, when the atmosphere was awkward, Jia Ling would definitely jump out and tell a joke, but now it won't.
Recently, Jia Ling, the director of the movie "Hot and Hot", expressed her inner feelings and changes in an interview. She admits that in the past, she always used to make people laugh, but now she is no longer reckless, but pays more attention to personal feelings. She said that after filming "Hot and Hot", she realized that people should love themselves first. When she felt embarrassed, she used to use humorous jokes to defuse the embarrassment, but now she is more willing to listen to her inner feelings and no longer force herself to make people happy.
Jia Ling admitted that obesity has had a huge impact on her life, and she felt inferior to herself by making a funny appearance like a clown, and she once felt that she could only gain a sense of existence through self-deprecation. But now, she has learned to love herself and no longer pursues acting on the spot.
Jia Ling no longer takes pleasure in making people laugh, and some people mistakenly think that she has become unhappy. However, in fact, now is her happiest moment. She learned to let go of her pretense and be brave enough to be her true self. In the movie, the audience can see the shadow of director Jia Ling himself through the life process of the protagonist Le Ying. For Jia Ling, she hopes to be in a comfortable state and no longer wronged herself to please others.
Everyone has their own characteristics, and sometimes we unconsciously cater to others in order to have fun in life. But this pursuit of perfection does not necessarily represent the true self. Jia Ling's experience tells us that only with our own strength and self-confidence can we be the most comfortable version of ourselves. We don't have to worry too much about other people's opinions, and we should spend our time and energy on things that interest us.
All the while, we are so used to pleasing others that we neglect our own needs. However, as we grow older, we gradually learn how to let go of things that don't suit us and refuse the demands of others. Learning to say "no" to yourself and respecting your inner feelings is the real wisdom to do. We will no longer please others against our will, and we will enjoy more freedom and happiness. I hope we can all learn from Jia Ling's freedom and self-love, and live a more comfortable and happier life.