Yesterday the child said me, do you still love me, I said love, I just don't love you as a child, who do you love, she said that you said yesterday that I am not worthy of love, that moment really hit me.
School started, the child's holiday homework was completed in a mess, and it felt like it was fooled, and then when I came back from school at night, I also played first, playing with my mobile phone, and I called her several times and was perfunctory.
The key is that the attitude is not good, so that I finally speak it is difficult to listen, I now reflect on myself, at that time most of my words were rhetorical questions and ridicule her, so that she said that you just want to hit me, you just see that I can't beat you, you treat me like this, I was so angry that I hit her hard, but she was more stubborn, and kept outputting that I bullied her, and in my heart, I thought I was good for her, she didn't know how to be grateful, and she looked like it should be, and what was even more hateful was to talk back, I was so angry that I didn't want to do it anymore because of her words, after all, force would only show my incompetence, so I said "You are not worthy of love".
In fact, after saying that, I sighed in my heart, thinking that this was not good, very bad, and I was a little expecting the child to be bad, but for the sake of face, I didn't apologize or anything like that, I just turned around and left her, and her later performance also made me think that she might not take this matter seriously, so I was a little uneasy and a little relieved.
I didn't expect that last night, there was a similar problem of not studying well, I can be regarded as growing, every time I am angry and coax myself to coax her again, and then she is happy to do her homework again.
Then I was in the process of coaxing her, she asked me this sentence, I was blindfolded at the time, and replied, it was my mother's mistake, of course my mother loves you, and you also deserve to be loved.
But afterwards I was thinking about this, for the child, after I finished saying that, maybe she didn't care, but she must have been very, very sad in her heart, so she was also reconciling with herself, fighting me in her own way, if I hadn't reconciled with her, hadn't coaxed her, maybe she would never have asked this sentence, and then it might have become a knot in her heart.
I just want to say that there really isn't so much right or wrong for the child, she will feel it when she loves her, don't easily say the words that make her child miserable, the damage is formed in a little bit of accumulation.
Communicate in a timely manner, find the crux of the problem as soon as possible, be a loving parent with your child, and bless every child with a loving family.