The poem says: "Everyone in the world knows that the gods are good, but they can't forget their fame." ”
In the workplace, everyone wants to rise to the top; Outside the workplace, many people are envious of the workplace.
Since we can't get rid of worldly fame, we should learn some ways to chase fame, and not just envy and envy others.
Dale Carnegie, a master of relationships, once said, "Professional skills are hard skills, and communication skills that are good at interpersonal relationships are soft skills." ”Today, let's take a look at how to deal with workplace relationships and make your career smoother and smoother.
First, superiors and subordinates are dependent on each other.
The ancients said: "If the skin does not exist, the hair will be attached." ”If a superior loses the support of his subordinates, will he still be a superior? It's just a lonely ordinary person.
If a subordinate loses the appreciation of his superiors, then he will lose his position, even if he is only eight years old, he is useless, and it is no different from his bare hands.
There is such a story in Zizhi Tongjian: During the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, King Xuan of Chu appointed Zhao Xixi as the prime minister. Zhao Xixi tried his best to expand his power and did not allow others to speak to King Chu Xuan.
The minister Jiang Yi said to King Chu Xuan: "Someone raised a dog and blocked the door. Now, Zhao Xixian is like this, blocking me from coming to see you. ”
King Chu Xuan immediately realized his mistake and replied"I'm going to listen to both sides of the story. ”
When a superior can't hear the voice of a subordinate, it means that the superior is isolated, or the superior has become arbitrary and has isolated himself.
Further along, when King Chuzhuang was in office, Sun Shuao was enabled. So he had a lot of time to play, and there was prosperity everywhere. That's right"Uncle Sun Ao is working day and night, and he must not make a living. ”
A lone branch is not spring, but a hundred flowers are beautiful.A truly intelligent person, the higher the position, the more humble he is. He regards his subordinates, the people at the bottom, as his food and clothing.
If you know how to "attach to each other", you will not be biased against whom you deal with them, but will borrow the strengths of the other party to become a better version of yourself.
Second, within the circle, there is a relationship of mutual rendering.
The ancients said: "Those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black." ”
The workplace is a big collective, and if you stay for a long time, you will be assimilated. It is not common for people to be able to "stand out" all the time.
From a large collective, it can be divided into many "circles". Let's say there are hundreds of people in a unit, and they don't sit in the same room, but in many separate offices. An office is a circle. In addition, there are some people, for some kind of benefit, who form small circles alone.
There is such a description in Lü's Spring and Autumn Period: King Wu and Jiang Taigong and Zhou Gongdan established a circle and rendered each other, and they succeeded; King You of Zhou established a circle with Yu Gonggu and Gong Dun, but as a result, he lost the country and was ridiculed.
Therefore, the rendering should be scaled and just right.
Confucius received thousands of people, and the outstanding ones were Zigong, Zengzi, etc. Later, Wu Qi worshiped Zengzi as his teacher; Tian Zifang worships Zigong as a teacher. Children and grandchildren have been rendered by Confucius, so they are famous all over the world.
It can be seen that the influence between people is very large. In front of the circle, we must be good at choosing, which is wisdom and prospects; After joining the circle, you must grasp the scale and don't indulge in it.
There is a good saying: "An umbrella that does not belong to me would rather walk in the rain; If it doesn't belong to me, don't move your chopsticks. ”
Follow the right people, go the right way, and you will be able to flourish.
For example, a friend of mine, Koharu, works at a local auto parts factory. In the beginning, he was on the assembly line, doing the most ordinary work. After some time, he took the initiative to join the welder class and began to learn welding techniques. Three years later, he became a welder. After another five years, he left the auto parts factory, opened his own welding shop, and took two apprentices with a monthly income of more than 10,000 yuan.
From one circle, enter another, and learn the advantages of each circle. In this way, you can make yourself win step by step.
After many people join the circle, they just eat and drink, thinking that a certain boss in the circle will look up to themselves. In fact, to join the circle is to accept the rendering, and in the end, in order to make yourself more perfect, you have to rely on yourself.
Third, there is a relationship of mutual restraint between people and the system.
Many organizations have management challenges. It's not that their systems and rules are imperfect, it's that they're hard to enforce. Because everyone has been together for a long time, there will be feelings.
Because of the situation, it is impossible to punish employees who arrive late and leave early, and employees who do not complete their tasks on time can only be open.
Only by properly handling the relationship between people and the system will the system not become invalid.
In the Spring and Autumn Period of the Lü Family, it is recorded that the big men of the Mo family lived in the Qin State. His son did something illegal and should be punished with death. King Qin Hui said: "Ah, you are such a son, and you are not young. I won't deal with your son this time. ”
Belly rejected King Qin Hui's kindness and said, "Thank you for the gift, but I can't violate the rules of the Mo family, and I can't shield sinners." ”
If the Son of Heaven breaks the law and commits the same crime as the common people", if such a rule can be implemented smoothly, then you will take the initiative to restrain yourself and accept the supervision of your peers, so as to become a self-disciplined person.
Of course, you can also use the system to restrain the people around you, as long as the scale is appropriate, it is to cure the disease and save people. Those who are unwilling to restrain are not worthy of your association and high esteem.
Dale Carnegie once said, "Try to work comfortably, remembering that physical tension creates shoulder pain and mental fatigue." ”A good environment will allow you to follow the trend; A good relationship can add fuel to the fire.
In the workplace, everyone is focused on profits, so the competition is very strong. But you still have to make time to compete for "relationships" and let the people around you recommend you.
Of course, when you have a good relationship, you also have to be in a good way. The relationship is too good, and each other is uncomfortable.
To build a good relationship is not to be submissive, but to find a foothold and starting point in the crowd.