The wisdom of the ancient Chinese is very admirableTaoism says "to overcome rigidity with softness", Confucianism says "benevolence-based", and Buddhism says "saving a life is better than creating a seven-level floating slaughter".
People who can go to the top will undoubtedly feel lonely on the road to success, and people will undoubtedly feel helpless in their hearts when facing a desperate situation.
People in despair, will think".Life and death are fateful, and wealth is in the skyI think everything is predestined, and God deliberately arranged so many setbacks.
But most people don't know that the next sentence of this sentence is more exciting, this sentence is just throwing bricks, and the next sentence is the introduction of jade. So what's the next sentence? Let's solve this mystery.
The dew is white from tonight, and the moon is the hometown of Ming。Everyone has a hometown in their hearts that they can't go back to.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a person named Sima Niu, who was originally from the Song Kingdom, because his younger brother Huan Wei followed others to rebel against the monarch of the Song State, and later failed to rebel, and Huan Wei was killed.
Sima Niu and his family were affected by his younger brother, and Sima Niu's other family members died and scattered. Only he escaped to the country of Lu by chance, and by chance worshiped Confucius as a teacher.
For a long time, he followed other brothers and sisters to listen to Confucius's lectures, and watched the others listen to Confucius's lectures with great vigour, and answered the questions raised by Confucius fluently, and the atmosphere was harmonious. Sima Niu felt very miserable and humble. Joy is someone else's, but loneliness is his.
He often complained about the injustice of fate, obviously he was born in a noble family before, and he had no worries about food and clothing, but unfortunately he was affected by his younger brother and lost everything in an instant.
finally came to the country of Lu and met **, but found that he was inferior to other brothers in terms of virtue and talent. As a result, he often felt sorry for himself and was depressed.
His heart is chaotic, he can't see the road ahead, he knows that he can't stay here forever, but he doesn't know where to go in the future.
Once, they got together to talk about what they had learned. Sima Niu felt that he was far away in another country, and he had no brothers who could live his life together, and he felt that he was just a rootless duckweed, drifting with the water. Senior brother Zixia listened to his feelings, which were diametrically opposed to his thoughts.
Zixia said: "Business is heard, 'life and death have fate, wealth is in the sky'"., Zixia believes that although life is wonderful, there are some accidents and setbacks that people really don't want to meet, and people's poverty and wealth seem to be destined.
Sima Niu listened to Zixia's words and thought it deeply, and felt that he would never have a time to make a comeback, and he would not have friends who were willing to make friends with him.
Zi Xia hurriedly stopped Sima Niu's thoughts, it turned out that Zi Xia's words were only half said just now, and the other half had not had time to say it. So what is the other half?
Immediately afterwards, Zixia said again:"A gentleman is respectful and respectful, courteous and courteous, and all brothers are brothers in the four seas. Why should a gentleman have no brothers? ”
Zixia said that as long as a person treats things seriously, treats others humbly and not arrogantly, and does not violate etiquette, then why worry that there are no real friends in the world?
Zixia is very right, if a person is unreliable, always very rude to others, and often does things that violate others' bottom line, who will become friends with such a person? The exchange was very pleasant, and Sima Niu smiled for the first time since he apprenticed to Confucius.
After Zixia's enlightenment and persuasion, Sima Niu's mood was also much soothed, and he was not thinking about some pessimistic and negative things. Since then, he has actively asked Confucius for teaching, and his relationship with his brothers has become closer and closer, and he no longer feels that he is alone.
Flowers that have withstood the wind and rain will still stand proudly in the world will be more beautiful. People can't always be the most comfortable environment like the flowers in the greenhouse. People can accept poverty when they were young, and after unremitting efforts, they will become rich and rich, and they cannot easily accept the sense of disparity between the original wealth and wealth and the later fall of the family.
If a person is always self-deprecating and takes a negative attitude towards everything, naturally, others will not make friends with a person who is often full of negative energy.
But if a person is moderately confident in himself, he is also generous in his life, and he always thinks about things in a positive way and does them positively. Naturally, there will be some people full of positive energy around him.
When people are doing things, courage is also very important, because some things are too difficult, or people think that it is impossible to achieve at all, often at this time, there is only one step away from doing it, and you only need to add a little more courage to succeed.
When everyone else is undecided, you just need to stay steadfast and the thing will work. People will be firm in their determination to continue to move forward in the applause of others, but they will also doubt their own judgment and become trapped in their own hearts when no one supports them, resulting in nothing.
Sima Niu felt lonely and had no friends. In fact, he always thinks about the tragic experiences of the past, refuses to let go of his misfortunes, and does not actively look for the next goal, trapped in the past and the present. A lot of things aren't as bad as they seem. He only saw the glamour of others, but he did not see the hard work and efforts behind others.
Sima Niu's ** Confucius, who has taught countless students in his life, will not treat his students differently because of their different identities and statuses.
He took Sima Niu in, perhaps to pity him for his tragic experience, and also hoped that Sima Niu would recover his spirit and vitality after a period of cultivation.
But people can't always think of relying on others to help themselves, people should be like grass, with the tenacious vitality of wildfires that can't be burned and reborn by the spring breeze.
If you feel that your life is not satisfactory, go to see the people whose lives are even more miserable, some people have lost the land they depend on because of natural disasters, and some people have had to flee their hometowns and wander away from other countries because of wars.
There are also people who are hungry, and walk dozens of kilometers under the scorching sun to get a little food, is he not diligent, no, because they have a perennial drought there and no harvest, he still has a family to feed, as long as he can get a little food, their family can survive a day, as for tomorrow, he will find another way to survive.
Sometimes what he has may be beyond the reach of others, Sima Niu's life has changed dramatically because of being affected by others, which is an accident, and he is very pitiful.
But can he live a lifetime on the pity and charity of others, which is obviously unrealistic, so what to do? There is only one way in front of him, that is, to become strong in his heart, and then find a way to make a living, to expel the obstacles in his heart as soon as possible, and he can survive independently, so why worry about not having real friends by his side.