The ancients said: "There is no way for good or evil, but people call themselves." ”A person's luck is not given by others, but created by oneself.
Many old people are clearly fed and clothed, and can walk like flying, but they live with a sad face, and it seems that the whole world owes him a lot.
In fact, when a person is 60 years old, he can retire as he wishes, which means that the hard days have come to an end and the good days have begun. Don't know too late and lose your happiness.
Generally speaking, if an old man does the following things, good luck will naturally come.
When talking: Don't complain.
As the saying goes, "A sigh of poverty for three years." ”When a person is always complaining about life, bad emotions breed. As a result, I can't eat well, I can't sleep, and I'm depressed.
An old neighbor of mine, two years after retirement, found that he had more than 20 yuan less per month than his old colleagues of the same age, so he went to his original unit every once in a while to find the "reason".
It turned out that the old neighbor had worked in several units, and one of them chose the lowest grade when paying pensions.
After the matter was clarified, it stands to reason that the knots in my heart were unraveled, but the old neighbor still complained. When I get together, I always complain to the people around me.
Twenty a month, two hundred a year, two thousand in ten years", the old neighbor's algorithm was correct, but because of this, he lost a priceless treasure - calmly.
In fact, society is really good. In cities large and small, there are buses, parks and gardens, all of which are open to the elderly for free; In many public places, there are slogans with the slogan "Seniors First"; The elderly who have difficulties in life can be helped; The elderly can live in nursing homes for free.
Why do we always not appreciate the society's care for the elderly, but always take all the care for granted?
The older you get, the more you have to learn to be grateful, not complaining. If you don't complain, your mood will be fine, and the people around you will smile at you.
When eating: Don't pick and choose.
It is written in "The Diet Recipe of Living with Rest": "Porridge and rice are the first things in the world to replenish people. ”With the development of the times, the standard of living has generally improved, and we no longer have to worry about food and clothing, but many old people are worried about what to eat.
There are also some old people who like to compare and hope that they can live like an emperor every day.
In fact, many old people have experienced the hard times of the fifties and sixties of the last century. At that time, every family was poor, and when there was no harvest, the family may have cut off the cooking smoke and did not know how to find food.
Compare the past with the present, and you will understand that the real good life is not about fine clothes and food, but - better than your past self.
What to eat, don't pick and choose, get used to coarse tea and light rice, and naturally feel luck and blessing.
When you are sick: do not lose your spirit.
Writer Ning Bai wrote such a story: When he was hospitalized, there was a grandfather Zhou in his sixties.
Grandpa Zhou was seriously ill and was very sad.
One day, Grandpa Zhou's parents walked to the ward and said, "Son, go home early." ”
Grandpa Zhou said, "It's soon, I'll be back in a few days." ”
At that moment, it was especially warm in the ward.
There is such a saying: "If you want to die, you must ask your parents if they agree." ”What could be better than living happily as a family? No matter how old you are or what kind of illness you have, don't be discouraged, you must know that when your spirit is good, your family will be at peace and there will be hope for life.
As an old man, his face is better, and he actively cooperates, and his children are relieved. On the other hand, it is doing what it can to help the family.
Illness is inevitable, but the most feared thing is heart disease. It is your responsibility, the hope of your parents, and the expectation of your children. Everyone's wishes come together, how can there be anything that can't survive?
When spending money: Don't be selfish.
Usually, when the elderly go out to buy things, they have to think about what their family else needs; When shopping for groceries, think about what flavors people like.
Learning to share money with your family is a way to pass on affection and love.
People who are really lucky will also take care of society.
According to the record of "Zizhi Tongjian", the minister of the Western Han Dynasty has been an official for many years, but he has not brought any benefits to his children, and everyone does not understand.
He said: "My money is all given by the emperor, so I am willing to share it with my fellow villagers and clansmen." If you give all your money to your children, they will breed laziness. Those who are small-minded will resent them. ”
In life, when the elderly are willing to help the people around them, the living environment will become warm, and an atmosphere of mutual help will be formed between people.
The old man is selfish, why should the young be generous? Don't get a lot of benefits just because you're older. We should thank young people for keeping peace, bringing peace, and promoting economic development.
When parenting: No preference for eccentricity.
There was a khan named Murong Achai, and he gave birth to twenty sons.
When he was very old, he called his sons and gave each of them an arrow in his hand. And let one of the sons break the arrow. Then he put all the arrows in the hand of one of his sons, and said:"If you are lonely, it is easy to break, and if you are many, you will be able to fight with one heart, and then you can protect the country and your family. ”
It is true that each child has his or her own strengths, and if everyone is united, the strengths will add up and become a huge fortress.
Many parents are accustomed to favoring a certain child, which leads to the family becoming a mess. Especially when the elderly distribute their property, they must be thoughtful.
As an elderly, speaking at home has weight, but it is even more important to respect the advice of your children and not be condescending.
In Sophie's World, it is written: "No one is born to be nice to anyone, so we must learn to be grateful." ”Elderly, you must always ask yourself, where does a happy life come from. It's not because you went to work and worked hard for many years that you deserve everything, but because times have changed, families have become harmonious, science and technology have progressed, and urban and rural infrastructure has improved.
You must understand that good luck does not come out of nowhere, but that others take care of you, and you take care of others, through mutual respect and love.
May you and I be grateful to the times, to our families, and to all the people around us.