Not long ago, I received a private message from a female reader who confided in me about her first attempt in the emotional world, but unfortunately encountered the deception of a scumbag. She was originally a pure-minded, innocent girl, but she lost her way in the rapid development of a man. She thought that the two parties had crossed the line between lovers and that they should naturally come together, but she was shocked when she saw the so-called "boyfriend" holding hands with another woman in the social circle.
She couldn't bear this betrayal, and asked him privately through WeChat, but got an indifferent response: "Everything before was consensual, I never forced you to do anything, and I didn't say that we were boyfriend and girlfriend, you thought too much about yourself." It wasn't until that moment that she suddenly woke up.
This story deeply saddened me, and at the same time reminded us that women need to be more vigilant in the emotional world, keep their eyes open, and avoid being confused by the "sweet trap" of scumbags. So, how do we see through the true face of a scumbag?
1. Scumbags are the easiest to deceive those simple-minded girls
This simplicity has nothing to do with age, but with inner maturity. Some girls appear to be mature at a young age, while others, despite their age, are still innocent and full of kindness towards everyone. In particular, girls who have been living in a school environment whose world is filled with parents, teachers and classmates, have little contact with the complexities and chaos of society, and thus believe that everyone around them is good and has not encountered evil people or bad things. This long-term way of thinking allows them to maintain an innocent and kind heart, but it has also become an entry point for scumbags to use.
Scumbags are well versed in female psychology, and they know how to confuse simple-minded girls through various means. They may use gentle words and thoughtful actions to win the girl's trust and make the girl mistakenly believe that they really care about themselves. However, once the girl is caught in it, the scumbags will gradually begin to reveal their true colors, leaving the girl in a painful situation.
Second, the experience of scumbags is usually richer, whether it is emotional or social experience
Their methods confuse you so much that you forget who you are. They are like traps wrapped in gentle disguises, with handsome appearances, those who are simple-minded. They are well aware of girls' desires and weaknesses, and will use all kinds of sweet words to coax girls and make them give everything for them. Even while cheating on you, they will hug you tightly and show extreme concern and nervousness, making you mistakenly think that he really cares about you.
However, after a long time, their true colors will be revealed. They may become callous, lose their concern for you, or even turn to the next target. They are good at using all kinds of means to manipulate women, making women give everything for them but are not willing to take any responsibility. Therefore, women must be vigilant when dealing with men, not to be confused by their appearance and words, and to see their true colors.
3. The scumbag is always greedy and insufficient, always looking for the next target
They will not settle for a stable relationship and are always looking for better opportunities and more suitable goals. They may engage with multiple female **s at the same time, playing with feelings to satisfy their vanity and possessiveness. When women find out about their behavior, they often use all kinds of excuses to prevaricate and perfunctory, so that women can't see the truth.
Therefore, women must be vigilant when dealing with men, and not be confused by their rhetoric. Pay attention to their behavior and attitude for signs of misconduct. If they are found to have behaved unfaithfully, take decisive steps to protect their rights and dignity.
Fourth, the scumbag will pretend to be pitiful
They may claim that they are introverted and not good at communicating, or that they have been hurt and need to be rescued. This so-called introversion and hurt is just a cunning tactic they hide to gain sympathy and trust from women. Women must keep a clear head when faced with this situation and not be fooled by their pitiful appearance. To get to the bottom of what they really are like and see if they really have a place where they need to be saved. At the same time, we should also be wary of their possible inferiority complex and desire to control to avoid being manipulated by them.
Fifth, the scumbag will also use manipulation methods
They may criticize women for being bad and bad, making women start to doubt themselves and even feel inferior, feeling that they are not worthy of him. This behavior may stem from the scumbag's own inferiority complex, and they control the other person by attacking the other person's self-confidence. Someone who truly loves you will be extra careful, with love in their eyes, and will never dare to accuse you of any shortcomings. Therefore, women must remain confident and independent when facing this situation, and not be easily influenced by their criticism. Believe in your own worth and charisma, and don't be easily manipulated by them.
Sixth, scumbags are good at using cold violence
They may treat women by being cold, neglecting, not responding, etc., making women helpless and miserable. This kind of cold violence may be deliberately used to force women to break up and thus reduce their feelings of guilt and responsibility. Women must remain calm and rational when faced with this situation and not be intimidated by their cold violence. Adhere to your own principles and bottom line, and don't be easily swayed by them.
7. Scumbags are good at using cold violence to force girls to propose to break up, so that they will not become the ruthless party
They are good at blaming the woman for the breakup and making the woman bear all the responsibility and pain. This behavior may be deliberate by them in order to protect their image and interests. Therefore, women must keep a clear head when facing a breakup and not be fooled by their rhetoric. We must know the truth and protect our rights and dignity.
8. Scumbags are always able to seamlessly transfer to a new relationship
This usually means that they have been ambiguously prepared before, and the new love may not know that the scumbag has a girlfriend. This seamless behavior may be a habitual behavior of theirs, used to satisfy their vanity and possessiveness. Therefore, women must be vigilant and rational when facing this situation. To understand the true face and motives of scumbags, don't be easily fooled by their rhetoric.
9. Scumbags like to cast a wide net
They may register accounts on various social platforms to keep in touch and have relationships with multiple women. This behavior may be deliberately done by them to satisfy their vanity and possessiveness. Therefore, women must be vigilant and rational when facing this situation. To understand the true face and motives of scumbags, don't be easily fooled by their rhetoric. At the same time, protect your privacy and security from being taken advantage of by them.
To sum up, women need to be more vigilant and rational in the emotional world. To get to the bottom of what men really are and what motivates them, don't be fooled by their looks and words. At the same time, you must also protect your rights and dignity to avoid being deceived and hurt by scumbags.
Only in this way can we remain awake and autonomous in the emotional world and find happiness that truly belongs to us.