Everyone has their own secrets, but did you know that there are some secrets that cannot be spoken?
We all know that keeping secrets is a virtue and a wisdom. If you want others to keep your secret, you should first keep it yourself. Because once you tell your secrets, you lose control and you don't know what's going to happen. Some secrets, if spoken, will not only not benefit you, but will bring you trouble and even harm. Today, I want to tell you, no matter how good your relationship with people is, don't reveal your three secrets, it's not good for you!
The first secret is the scandal of your past. Everyone has their own past, maybe some of the past is glorious, maybe some of the past is dark, maybe some of the past is helpless. In any case, your past is your history, a testimony to your growth, and a part of your life. However, you should not tell others about your past, especially your ugly things, and you should keep your mouth shut. Why? Let me tell you a story.
Xiao Ming stole money from his neighbor's house when he was a child, and when his father found out, he beat him severely and asked him to apologize to the neighbor. Xiao Ming felt very embarrassed and regretted, and never dared to do such a thing again. When he grew up, Xiao Ming became a successful lawyer, he had his own firm, his own house, his own car, his life was very happy, and his career was bright. However, he did not dare to tell anyone about his past for fear of being exposed and losing his credibility and dignity. He could only silently thank his father in his heart for his teachings, which set him on the right path.
You see, Xiao Ming's past is a secret for him, an ugly secret. What do you think will happen if he tells this secret? Maybe some will understand him, maybe some will forgive him, maybe some will praise him. But maybe some will laugh at him, maybe some will despise him, maybe some will take advantage of him. Human nature is not only a good side, when you unreservedly and discuss, it is difficult to guarantee that others will not have any "crooked thoughts", especially some of your own previous "ugly things", once you say it, it is easy to be used by people with bad intentions as an attack on your **, become your weakness. Your reputation, your status, your wealth, your happiness can all be threatened. Are you willing to take the risk?
Therefore, knowing how to avoid the edge and be good to oneself is also a kind of wisdom in the world. Don't easily expose your weaknesses, don't talk about your past at will, and learn to hide your clumsiness, so that you can live in this world more easily. As the ancients said: "If a person is not a sage, who can be without fault?" After that, it can be changed, and it is very good. "Your past, whether good or bad, is your wealth, your motivation, and your lesson. You don't need to account to anyone, you just need to be responsible for yourself and work hard for the future.
The second secret is your ambition. Everyone has their own dreams, maybe some dreams are great, maybe some dreams are ordinary, maybe some dreams are peculiar. No matter what, your dreams are your goal, the direction you pursue, and the meaning of your life. However, you should not tell others about your dreams, especially your ambitions, and you should keep your mouth shut. Why? Let me tell you a story.
Xiaohong has had a dream since she was a child, that is, to become a writer, she works hard every day, her writing is very good, her imagination is rich, and her works are very interesting. She hopes that one day she will publish her own book, so that more people can see her voice and her name will remain in history. However, she did not dare to tell anyone about her dreams because she was afraid of being ridiculed and undermining her confidence. She can only pray silently in her heart to make her dream come true.
You see, Xiaohong's dream is one of her secrets, a beautiful secret. What do you think will happen if she tells this secret? Maybe some will support her, maybe some will encourage her, maybe some will help her. But maybe some will be jealous of her, maybe some will laugh at her, maybe some will hinder her. Human nature is not only evil, when you hang your dreams high, it is difficult to guarantee that others will not have any "evil thoughts", especially some of your own "aspirations", once spoken, it is easy for people who do not understand to use it as a ridicule and become an obstacle to you. Your confidence, your motivation, your creativity, can all be affected by this. Are you willing to take the risk?
Therefore, keep your dreams and learn to work hard quietly to amaze everyone. Because only those who are as low-key as water can have the last laugh and become the real winners. is like the king of Chuzhuang during the Warring States Period, when he first succeeded to the throne, he drank and had fun all day long, ignoring the government and politics. In the eyes of outsiders, he is a mediocre demon king. Only he knows that he wants to "make a splash if he doesn't make a hit".