When their children grow up and begin to have their own thoughts and choices, many parents often feel powerless and helpless. From primary school to university graduation, the cost of educating their children is not only money, but also time and effort. According to expert statistics, the average cost of raising a child until graduation is as high as 680,000 yuan, a figure that shocks many people. Although the conditions of each family are different, parents are trying to provide better educational resources for their children, hoping that they will be able to receive a broader perspective and resources abroad. However, the complaints of international students such as "I don't want to return to China and be blocked by my mother" have made the expectations of many parents come to naught.
The love that parents have for their children is deep, and they need to pay not only a lot of money, but also effort and time. Whether in education, life or growth, parents are silently paying for their children. However, as their children grow up** and they begin to have their own thoughts and choices, parents' expectations may diverge from reality. Some children still "gnaw at the old" when they grow up, while others choose to go to other places to seek broader development. An international student posted a complaint on the Internet about "not wanting to return to China and being blocked by his mother", which carries the expectations of parents and the pain of children's choices.
Expansion: In the process of children's growth, parents not only need to bear the material costs, but also invest in spirit and time. They are silently giving, hoping that their children can thrive and have a better future. However, with the passage of time and the maturity of the child's mind, a generation gap began to appear between parents and children. Some children choose to rely on their parents to continue to "gnaw at the old", while others leave their hometowns and pursue their dreams. This kind of misalignment between children and parents often leads to contradictions and conflicts. A complaint from an international student highlights the collision between parents' expectations and children's persistence.
A female student studying abroad posted a chat between herself and her mother on the Internet, which sparked a heated discussion. The girl was the only child in the family and went to study abroad with the support of her parents. However, after graduation, she was reluctant to return to China, preferring to stay and settle abroad. The two sides disagreed, her parents wanted her to return to China for development, and the girl was emotional, and even put forward the idea of "breaking off the relationship". She believes that parents do not understand her, and only by obeying their parents' arrangements is a "good child". In this case, there is an irreconcilable contradiction between the parents' expectations and the children's choices.
Expanded: An only child studying abroad has a disagreement with her family. After graduating, she decided to stay abroad instead of returning to China, as her parents had hoped. This sparked a heated argument with the parents and even led to an increase in conflict. The girl thinks that her parents cannot understand her choices, and she wants to be able to make decisions about her own future, rather than being dependent on her parents' expectations. This disagreement between parents and children highlights the difficulty of reconciling independent choices with family expectations.
Netizens have heated discussions about the chat records between international students and their parents. Although in the chat, the mother did not force her daughter to return to China, but communicated with each other intellectually and emotionally. However, in the eyes of girls, there is a clear gap between their parents' expectations and their own choices. She felt "constrained" by her parents, who could not understand her choice, and even had the urge to "break off the relationship". This situation has led people to think about how to solve the dilemma of collision of ideas and communication between parents and children.
Expanded: Netizens had a heated discussion about the plight of international students in communicating with their parents. In the chat log, the mother did not force her daughter to return to China, but tried to communicate with reason and emotion. However, girls feel constrained by their parents' expectations, think that their parents cannot understand their choices, and even have the idea of "disowning their parents". This kind of conflict and communication dilemma between parents and children has triggered deep thinking about communication, respect and understanding.
In the contradictions and collisions between parents and international students, there are not only the efforts and expectations of parents, but also the choice and independence of international students. Understanding and communication are the keys to resolving this conflict, and both parties need to respect each other's choices and listen to each other's voices. A child's independence is part of a child's natural development, and parents should respect their child's choices, understand and support them. International students should cherish the expectations of their parents, return to their original hearts, clarify their responsibilities and missions, and make wise plans for their future. Only through sincere communication and mutual understanding can the relationship between parents and children be more harmonious and stable.