We chase dramas, watch a drama and change a boyfriend.
And the heroine of the drama that Xiaomei is going to talk about today, changing a boyfriend in one episode, the speed is comparable to riding a rocket.
Scumbag? Hate to marry a girl?
Not really.
Behind each of her loves, there are wonderful and rich stories.
There's so much to talk about
"Mina, the avatar has changed again? 》
Mina, a female classmate with a story. Her parents divorced early when she was a child, and her mother favored her older sister with excellent grades. Such a family environment naturally also had a certain impact on Mina's concept of love. Lacking enough attention and warmth, she always felt that she was not worthy of love. In search of recognition, she became a "heavy old good person" patient. 
If you don't know how to refuse, you will only blindly wronged yourself and please others. More extreme manifestations are,Mina has always been reluctant to come and go with those who have a crush on her。For example, Mina's first love. The two met after a class reunion and then happened to be waiting at the same bus stop. The other party has a cheerful, gentle and considerate personality, Mina was unconsciously attracted to him, and it didn't take long for the two to fall in love. 
The second term is also the same. The other party is a movie creator, and because he works in the same theater as Mina, he invited Mina to watch a movie together. After a few beers, the slightly drunk two couldn't help but kiss each other. Then the two established a relationship. 
The same is true for the third term. The other party is in a study group with Mina, because they study together every day and build a relationship. Then, the other party lent Mina the notes he had put together. Just a slight gesture made Mina fall in love ......
In this way, in just seven episodes, Mina has a total of five relationships in the play. But the path of each relationship is extremely similar. Because Mina's means of maintaining her feelings is just to blindly please each other. For example, on a date with her first love, even if she wore ill-fitting shoes and wore blood, Mina didn't say a word. When she was cared for by the other party, Mina still felt guilty, and always felt that she had caused trouble to the other party. 
Another example is the work that the boyfriend of the movie creator likes, but she can't appreciate it at all. But he has always catered to the other party's tastes, forcing himself to accept and appreciate. At an event, my boyfriend chatted with other girls very closely. Mina, who was left to dry, felt very uncomfortable. But in order not to spoil the atmosphere, Mina can only force a smile and swallow all the grievances in her stomach. 
There is also a boyfriend, who is not satisfied with Mina's education and figure. Mina overdraws her strength every day, waking up early every day to go to work after her English class. I can't wait to eat it in one go. 
But it's a pity that even if Mina works so hard, the results of every relationship are unsatisfactory. The first love suddenly announced that he was going to serve in the military, and the two drifted apart. The shoes that were intimately given to Mina were also found to be high imitations afterwards. 
The movie creator's boyfriend cheated and was caught by Mina. Not only did he not apologize at all, but he also threw the "pot" to Mina. said that Mina did not understand his creation, so he sought another "muse". 
and the boyfriend who constantly pushes Mina to improve. As long as Mina doesn't meet his expectations, she will turn her face when she says it. If Mina doesn't continue to be obedient and change according to his request, the relationship will end.
Crippled emotional experiences like this abound in this drama. Mina scum? To outsiders, this is indeed the case, because Mina has almost no "window period". The boyfriends are one after another, and the avatars are constantly changing with the fluctuations of emotions.
But is Mina happy? Not really. If you look closely, you will find that every one of her experiences is hurt, and every ex is not small. But there have been exceptions. Years later, Mina and her first love are reunited. The two soon rekindled their love and were even ready to get married directly.
But on the eve of the wedding, the first love changed. After a drunken experience, her first love confesses to Mina that she doesn't like her. It was only because his father was seriously ill that he wanted to marry Mina because he wanted to do his filial piety. He wasn't sure if Mina really wanted to marry him. Because Mina never knew how to refuse, he couldn't confirm whether Mina really wanted to marry or was habitually pandering.
And what about Mina? I thought this was the closest I got to "true love". Who would have thought that in the end there would be nothing.
Mina's constant lowering of herself may be difficult for normal people to understand. But for a people-pleasing personality, it is actually very difficult to reject others or express one's thoughts honestly. It's like Mina is glamorous on the surface, but she is always an insecure "child" on the inside. Since childhood, Mina has not been a person to be taken seriously. My sister excelled in her grades, so my mother focused all her attention on her. When her sister was taking pictures in school, Xiao Meina desperately wanted to be in the mirror, but was ruthlessly pushed away by her mother. When she graduated, she didn't have such treatment as her sister.
Then my mother went to Seoul to work, and she also chose to take her sister away. Leave Mina at her grandmother's house. Her mother discussed how to take her sister away secretly after Mina fell asleep, but she didn't know that Mina had already heard her mother's plan in a half-asleep dream. What is unattainable in youth will eventually be trapped in his life. Therefore, when she grew up, Mina has not been able to get out of that shadow. After waking up, the panic and loneliness of no one around her always accompanied her.
It's not so much that she is constantly in love to seek recognition, but that she is always looking for a "place". With no place for her in her family of origin, she craves self-affirmation and fulfillment through intimate relationships with others. We all know that love is not a constant concept, but a dynamic process. The so-called run-in of love is when two people find a state of coexistence that makes each other comfortable. But this does not mean that you can blindly seek perfection and constantly lower your posture.
Because once you put yourself in the position of "victim", this relationship is no longer equal. Unequal love is barely maintained, and only yourself is hurt. Fortunately, after a series of emotional changes, Mina finally recognized her limitations and no longer embarrassed herself. She picked up her wish to study abroad many years ago. Instead of pleasing others, she finally began to pay attention to herself and accompany herself.
The fear of being abandoned since childhood also began to disappear the moment she decided to love herself. Love has the power to break people's hearts, but it can also make people find a better version of themselves through it. Only when we find our true selves will we understand that love is just a small episode of life, and we are the protagonists of life. It's never a relationship or someone that determines how wonderful your life is. It's yourself who has always been by your side.