Stunned today.
It is a very beautiful solar term, it is the growth of all things, everything can be expected, it is the breaking of the ground after winter.
Today I would like to talk about some very personal feelings.
Let's talk about what I'm doing this month, from the Spring Festival to today, I'm mourning. Because the Spring Festival is a catastrophe for me, I don't want to read, I don't want to write, I don't even want to do anything. A few times I barely put pen to paper to write something, and it was not the previous state full of flow.
At first, I was anxious and tormented. One day I suddenly understood that I don't have to force my "chicken blood", and I don't have to force myself to be happy right away.
If you're not happy, give yourself permission to "wither" for a few days.
Wait for the sting, that's it.
the meaning of life
about life
perhaps in life,no one can
always be happy.
Sometimes, we experience something, or something that we have experienced, and it touches our hearts, and you suddenly become very sad, and in this state, people become very decadent, and they don't want to move forward, they don't want to work hard, because they suddenly don't know what the meaning of their efforts is.
This kind of mourning is very resistant. Because frustration in our education, decadence is not allowed. It couldn't be more wrong.
We began to force ourselves to shift, to adjust. And forgot to ask the inner self: What's wrong with you? Are you feeling better now?
If you are very sad, please take care of yourself, the self who is hiding in the corner and crying and is not seen by you.
Love yourself before you can start loving life again.
One day you will wake up to the fact that "mourning" is not meant to be resisted and forcibly transformed, but can be allowed. It is a knot in your heart that cannot be dissolved, a sorrow that cannot be washed away, you should not resist it, drive it away, in fact, you can't get rid of it.
Why don't you invite it in for a cup of tea?
the meaning of life
about life
perhaps in life,no one can
always be happy.
If you're unhappy, sad, sad, don't force yourself to be happy right away.
Emotions are something that everyone has, and every emotion is allowed. When you're not happy. There's no need to push yourself.
Give yourself permission to "wither" for a few days and give yourself a transition period to stay quiet.
Most people don't allow themselves to have negative emotions. Like we were taught from a young age, it's not right to lose your temper. When we grow up, we often suppress and control our emotions.
The Awakening of the Family says that many of us parents have one thing in common, which is a sense of shame.
If you observe, you will find that many parents of the post-80s generation always feel guilty and regretful after yelling at their children and scolding them, and feel annoyed by their actions just now.
Because we think that the self just now is the self with negative energy, the self controlled by negative emotions, which is not right.
It seems that this is a common problem for many post-80s parents. The situation of the post-90s and post-00s is slightly better, probably because of the educational influence of their parents, and they will pay more attention to their inner self.
Teacher Yang Dingyi saidit is ok。Everything is ok.
Everything can be said to yourself, it's okay, it's allowed, I'm good, I'm okay.
Hayao Miyazaki once said:
I've been in a bad state lately, I'm not interested in anything, I'm out of motivation, so I'll let myself adjust slowly. Let me ...... slowly, and then ......Live well again! ”
If you're not feeling good, give yourself permission to "wither" for a few days and be honest about your emotions.
Take care of your emotions so that you can have a good mood again.
the meaning of life
about life
perhaps in life,no one can
always be happy.
Allow yourself to wither and give yourself quiet space. When you're in a bad mood and don't want to do anything, don't do it, then spend a while quietly with yourself.
Our happiness is so cherished. But our unhappiness is just as worth cherishing.
It is the unfinished words in our hearts, and the words that no one can say.
Spend time with yourself. Then wait for everything to grow.
Just like a sting, the law of nature, everything will grow. There is winter, and there will be spring.
Always remember that Chen Haixian, the author of "The Great Me", said:
Change has its rhythm, just like you can't skip winter to experience spring, and if you rush to make yourself more positive and confident, you will break the rhythm of change.
Just as the winter of Xiaosuo is accumulating the power of spring, the confusion period is also accumulating the power of rebirth. ”
Life will always find a way out for itself, no matter how strong the resistance in front of it may seem.
Winter is long, and the shoots in spring will always come out, which is the original power of life.
Even if you want to be deep in the icy winter snow, whether you want to or not, life will usher in spring in its form.
Always. This is the sting, this is life.