The modern concept of mate selection is the most popular girl, and the parents' pension is the key
"Door-to-door matching" is an ancient concept, in ancient times, before the matchmaker introduced the object, it was decided according to the financial resources and identity of both parties.
As long as these two items are satisfied, the matchmaker will come to discuss in detail in person.
Today's marriages are not much different from traditional blind dates, and they have become more brutal due to the flow of information.
In marriage and the marriage market, the needs of individuals are different, and this demand gradually shows the characteristics of "sex".
There is a kind of "three nos" woman, and it is also the most loved kind of woman at present, what kind of characteristics do they have?
The "three nos" are people who have no relatives, no brothers and sisters, no family baggage, and no bride price.
The so-called "six haves" refer to stable jobs, high wages, savings, real estate, high education, and handsomeness.
The other category is the same standard in terms of education and appearance, and the other is stature, talent, morality, and family background.
In addition, the amount of the parent's pension is also a major consideration.
The higher the pension, the less stressful the child's life will be, and the parents will have enough financial resources to support the child's family.
Many of the girls' parents are city workers and ** workers, and they have a pension of more than 5,000 yuan per month.
Now, many young people can't even get 5,000 yuan, and their lives are struggling.
Therefore, if your parents' pension is enough, you can also get some light.
"Brothers and sisters without relatives" is a special social phenomenon, and with the implementation of family planning, "one-child" has become the mainstream of society.
Most of the children are made up of cousins or cousins who have lost the company of their siblings as children.
If there are no siblings, it means that they will give all their affection and wealth to their children.
The family will also put all the resources into the children and give them the greatest support in their future studies, work and life.
But girls with siblings, especially siblings, are often treated unfairly in the family.
The husband of this kind of girl is often waved, and the family savings and belongings are often "missing", and it is finally found out that the wife has privately handed them over to her brother or mother.
They are all in pain, how can they bear the money they have saved with great difficulty, but they are robbed by their most trusted wife?
In addition, the "three nos" should also include "no burden", and "burden" is all the elements that hinder the development of life.
For example, illness, or family or one's own debts, or criminal records, or personality shortcomings.
No one wants their partner to be an intolerable shortcoming.
As for the "no bride price", it is much simpler, because neither party needs the man to pay a "bride price" or anything like that.
Men in this world are tormented by dowries, and many men are borrowed from the bank for dowry and are pregnant before marriage.
Many peasant parents have the idea of receiving a bride price, and regard their daughters as "China Merchants Bank", and they are willing to give up only if they have to pay a large sum of money.
* Some attempts have also been made to address the negative impact of the "dowry" on marital life.
For example, Jiangxi Province has set up a "Rural Dowry Management Working Group" to pilot rural households with very low or no dowry fees.
And try to provide favorable conditions for children's schooling by reducing the incentives of the bride price.
There are significant differences between these two "six haves", and the values they imply are not the same.
The former puts women on an equal footing with men, and women usually put the same conditions on men, and both expect the other half to be independent, intelligent, and capable.
The latter was deeply influenced by traditional women, who saw their wives as virtuous housewives, and their portraits were mostly shown as gentle and conservative, with quick hands and feet, and good looks.
But the latter is not harsh on his wife's financial conditions, as long as his wife can make money, and he must have a good family and be able to help his husband.
As for his wife, she is a full-time wife, she doesn't have to integrate into this world, and she has to rely on her husband's pocket money every day to live.
In this way, she will no longer have contact with the outside world and will be completely loyal to her husband.
The women in "IKEA" end up losing their individuality and contribution to their families.
She can be so-and-so's wife or so-and-so's mother, except for herself.
At the blind date, all the men and women are made a list for everyone to compare.
Anyone who can answer is qualified to communicate with him, and the whole process is clean and clean, without any superfluous details.
This way, used to choose one's partner, can be regarded as a kind of helplessness.
If two people have to think about what is at stake, then how can they be sure that two people can be together forever, whether they are poor or rich, sick or beautiful?
When a person no longer has any superiority, does weakness become an original sin? Even if he gave up on himself, wouldn't there be no reason?
Under the conditions of "three nos, six haves", women are no longer individual people, but randomly selected indexes.
Not only women, but also men will be eliminated by better men, and everyone will have to go through the process of the law of the jungle.
Without overwhelming strength, this feeling cannot be avoided.
Moreover, the "no-haves" rule applies only to women, which is a bit excessive.
There is also a type of woman called "Voldemort", who, although not doing well, provides funds for her brothers in the family, even after marriage.
This kind of woman is not able to protect herself, but also is not good for her husband's family, and it is natural to keep a distance from her.
Women, on the other hand, will choose to sacrifice themselves to help their peers, and in the final analysis, it is because of female prejudice.
From another point of view, if a man has an older brother and then a daughter, will the man also help his younger brother?
Even if both men and women have certain advantages, there will be a new round in the end, and no one dares to say that they will never be at a disadvantage.
The so-called 30 years in Hedong, 30 years in Hedong, 30 years in Hexi, people with unlimited scenery at this time may not be long before they become very miserable.
No one can guarantee that they will be above everyone, not even couples.
Parents will leave, and beautiful faces will age; In the current era of recession, many people will lose their jobs by middle age, and a decent job will not last long.
He only thought that his daughter's family had no younger siblings to drag him down, and when he needed her in the future, wouldn't he blame her for having no one in the family?
If you make a mistake in an investment, lose a lot of money, and the family goes bankrupt and is burdened with a large amount of debt, what will both parties do?
Nowadays, the proportion of divorce is getting higher and higher, and many people have long "disbelieved in love", thinking that only with an economic foundation can they live happily.
In fact, although the current concept of "conjugal freedom" is practiced, and the will of each other must be fully respected whether they are married or divorced, the termination of marriage through divorce is still the worst way.
First of all, according to the requirements of parents, marrying a person who is not suitable for you, all kinds of trivial things after marriage will slowly smooth out this shallow feeling, and the harm will be endless.
Besides, divorce is not something that can be done through a procedure, and you also need to consider the distribution of property and connections, and in case you have children, it will be even more difficult.
But this is not something that can be solved with money alone.
Marriage is not just a wedding, but the result of two people working together, and it is the result of two people working together.
When choosing a marriage partner, you should thoroughly investigate the information of both parties.
The first step is to judge whether a person is mature or not, and there are many factors in this regard, such as: to have a correct outlook on life and development, to have good work and life planning ability, and to have loyalty to marriage.
The second condition is that the person must have a good figure.
The so-called long-term illness becomes a doctor, although this sentence applies to parents, it also applies to couples.
If a person has been weak and sick until they get married, it is a great burden for the other party, not to mention that there are some strange diseases due to bad lifestyle habits.
Therefore, premarital testing is necessary, and the husband and wife should actively conduct physical examinations and communicate with each other to ensure the stability of the couple's relationship.
In addition, the family background of another person also greatly influenced him.
As the saying goes, "Home and everything prospers", although most families are currently three people, they will still be swayed by each other's family atmosphere.
The relationship between the respondents and their families is to see if they can learn to respect their elders, respect their partners, and love their juniors when they grow up.
In a family, this personality is very crucial.
"Nothing" is an unstable balance, and either party has the potential to lead to instability in the marriage, which makes vows built on various foundations ridiculous.
However, marriage is not a scale, one party is bigger than the other, and that party can be balanced.
In order to maintain the integrity and happiness of a family, couples often have to give and tolerate each other.
Although you can choose to divorce, if you want to marry someone, you still have to think about it, after all, this person is likely to be your lifelong partner.