** Minefield between couples: How many love taboos have you stepped on?
You don't understand me at all! Xiaoling's tears rolled in her eyes, this was the nth time she and her boyfriend Daqiang had quarreled over the same issue. In fact, many conflicts between couples stem from some seemingly inconspicuous, but in fact fatal love taboos.
Taboo 1: Lack of communication, speculation.
Xiaoling likes romance, while Daqiang is a pragmatist. When Xiaoling was looking forward to receiving a bouquet of flowers over the weekend, Daqiang thought that buying flowers was not as good as having a meal together with the two. What's the problem? Neither side clearly expressed their needs, but chose to secretly expect the other to "guess". Such communication barriers are very common among couples. Have you had a similar experience?
Taboo 2: Disrespecting the other person's personal space.
Everyone has their own little secrets and private spaces, even the closest couples. Daqiang sometimes feels upset when Xiaoling is checking his phone and feels that his privacy has been violated. On the contrary, Xiaoling also felt that Daqiang interfered too much in her life. This mutual sense of restraint and oppression often becomes the first bomb in the couple's relationship.
Taboo 3: Always turning over old accounts and unable to let go of the past.
You were the same last time! "Every time she argues, Xiaoling always brings up the mistakes Daqiang made in the past. And Daqiang will also retaliate with a tooth for a tooth and fight back against Xiaoling's past mistakes. Such a pattern of quarrels not only fails to solve the problem, but also deepens the rift between the two sides. Have you ever been in an argument where you uncontrollably turned over old scores?
Taboo 4: Emotional decision-making, impulsive breakup.
After a heated argument, Xiaoling proposed to break up in a fit of anger. She didn't really want to end the relationship, she just wanted to make Daqiang realize the seriousness of the problem in this way. However, such emotional decision-making often plunges both parties into deeper pain. Have you ever made a decision that you regretted on impulse?
As a counselor, I have witnessed too many couples who have broken these taboos and ended up parting ways. In fact, as long as both sides are aware of the existence of these problems and are willing to work together to change, many contradictions can be resolved.
So, have you and your significant other stepped on these love taboos? If so, sit down and talk to see if there's a solution. Remember, love is something that needs to be managed and maintained by both partners. Only mutual respect, understanding and tolerance can make the flower of love bloom more brilliantly.