As the old saying goes, if you don't take those little troubles to heart, you will forget today's things tomorrow, and such people will live easily.
Just like Du Fu said, "It will be the top of the mountain, and you can see the mountains at a glance." "If you stand high and see far, those little things will naturally seem unimportant.
Forgetfulness is the ability to focus on the more important things without worrying about the small things.
It's like picking the key points, you can't remember everything, so only remember the important ones, and "forget about the rest".
People who really know how to live, they know what to remember and what to forget.
They are less gregarious because they pay more attention to their quality of life and are not bound by small things;
Forgetfulness is because they know how to let go and live in the moment. This is the true wisdom of life.
Sometimes you can live more freely by being alone, and you don't always have to worry about what others think and think.
Take my colleague Lao Wang, for example, he is a maverick.
I don't huddle with my colleagues to keep warm at work, and I don't drink and chat with everyone after work.
At first, everyone thought he was weird, but after a long time, everyone found that although Lao Wang was not very gregarious, he did a very good job, and he still had a lot of hobbies in private, and he lived a very fulfilling life.
Moreover, being unsociable has made him have a lot less right and wrong, and he is in a good mood every day.
The kind of person who always wants to fit in with the group and looks at other people's faces everywhere.
For example, some people are always thinking about how to please their colleagues, but as a result, they are not only tired half to death, but also often talked about behind their backs because of trivial things, and they are very tired.
In this society, you can't please everyone, there are always people pointing fingers at you.
If you are always worried about other people's opinions, then you will always live in other people's evaluations, and you may never be able to do what you want to do.
So, have your own ideas and positions, and don't always have to cater to others.
As long as you are happy and principled, it is the best way to live.
Like Lao Wang, although he is not social, he lives an extraordinarily wonderful life because he has his own attitude and principles towards life.
Life is to have your own personality and your own pursuits, so that you can live a more meaningful and comfortable life.
We will always meet all kinds of people and all kinds of things in our lives.
If we remember everything too clearly and can't let go of it in our hearts, then we won't be tired to death.
Li Chong, a famous minister of the Northern Wei Dynasty, was far-sighted, talented, generous, and good at leading troops to fight.
In Yangzhou, he has done a total of ten years of assassination history, and often raises thousands of strong men.
When he left Yangzhou, his subordinates were packing and loading their belongings, but at this time, someone reminded him, saying: "In the ten years you have been in Yangzhou, there are some gentry who are dissatisfied with you, why don't you send them to prison and sentence them before leaving?" When you were there, they were all so noisy, and when you left, wouldn't they make Yangzhou even more chaotic? ”
After Li Chong heard this, he laughed and said: "How can there be anyone in the world who is not said, and how can there be people in the world who are not talkative?" If anyone says a word about me, I will put people in prison, then in the past ten years, wouldn't Yangzhou be treated as a prison state every day? The crowd was puzzled;
Waiting for the car to go to the city gate, I saw that there were many scholars in the countryside to see each other, but there were gentry and others next to them, the city guards were afraid that the gentry would be unfavorable to Li Chong, and wanted to drive the arrest, Li Chong hurriedly stopped him, saying: "I'm leaving, they won't be dissatisfied with me anymore, there is no need for this";
When the carriage and horses traveled to the gentry, but they didn't want to, the gentry and others kept loudly, and said: "Although the decree of Lord Assassin Shi is not favorable to us, Lord Assassin Shi is dedicated to the people and magnanimous, please continue to stay in Yangzhou."
Li Chong sat in the car and sighed to the crowd outside the car: "See, if I don't forget, these gentry may assassinate me today, instead of keeping me."
In life, learn to let go, forget those unpleasantness, and be good to yourself and others.
Don't keep remembering who treats you badly and who says you are nothing, that will only make you very tired and easy to lose friends.
Learn to be generous and be good at forgetting, so that you can not only make your mood more comfortable, but also make the people around you feel your tolerance and generosity, and naturally more people will be willing to become friends with you.
Like Li Chong, even if the decree is not favorable to some people, because of his magnanimity, he has won the respect and love of more people.
Life is to learn to "be good at forgetting, be generous and have good popularity", so that you can live a more relaxed and happy life, and the relationship will be more harmonious.
Autumn leaves, know when to let go, so that the tree can survive the winter more healthily and welcome the new life of spring.
This is the beauty of forgetfulness.
Don't put your unhappiness at ease. It's like cleaning up old clothes, leaving what you need, and "forgetting about the rest" to make life easier.
Some people are obsessed with a little thing, like carrying a heavy burden, and they are tired no matter how they walk. And the other person chooses to let go, and the pace is much easier.
It's like a snowflake in winter, it's cold, but it's beautiful.
Forgetfulness makes the unpleasantness of life like snowflakes, falling, melting, and finally turning into spring water, nourishing the earth.
Pay attention to me, let the rhythm of words compose the music of life;
"Nightingales leap in the moonlight, their feathers shimmering with silver. Its singing voice was like a wonderful **, which touched my soul deeply. "