For several years in a row, towards the end of the year, I went back and forth between being very excited and extremely depressed. Excitement and depression are both due to going home, but the specifics are different. It's normal to be excited when I go home, but I'm depressed because I'm back at my parents' house, not my own.
One day when I was a child, everyone gathered around to discuss how to arrange the rooms in the newly built house, and they happened to be standing in front of the door of the east room, which had not yet decided what to place. I excitedly asked, "Can I live alone in this room?" Dad jokingly replied, "You think it's so beautiful." Sensitively, I stopped talking and hid to the side. Since then, even though there are several empty rooms in the house, I have never asked to live alone. A bed, a quilt, it doesn't matter.
A few years ago, the family rebuilt a small two-story building. In addition to my brother's room on the second floor, I was given a room on the first floor, with a new bed, an air conditioner, and I moved from east to west and settled down. My father said that it was left to me, even if I got married in the future, it would be mine to come back. But the land I want is not my own room, but my own house.
Later, I worked hard and just wanted to buy a small house, no matter how small it was. Then you will see a lot of information about single girls buying houses, and you will also see a lot of analysis of why the proportion of single women buying houses is increasing. Rising incomes, for investment, buying pre-marital property for themselves, etc., are indeed the reasons and reasons why single women choose to buy a house. But in addition to these factors, the most essential reason is to want a "sense of security".
Women are inherently more aware of the need for external security than men, so they are more risk-conscious and more inclined to avoid risks seen by others when making decisions. Buying a house is also to avoid possible risks.
A house gives us a place to shelter from the wind and rain. These are the things that a house can give us a sense of physical security, which is of course the most superficial. Some people may say that you can rent a house, you can also live in your parents' house, and you can buy a house with your husband or live in your husband's house after getting married, which is also the same shelter from the wind and rain. A single woman who wants to buy a house will list a long list of answers: rent, the landlord can kick you out at any time; The house you get married to you may also be lost because of the termination of your marriage; Living in your parents' house can be ...... of conflict with your siblingsAnd a house that you own your own ownership will never have these problems.
There are more and more women who are single and marry later, the divorce rate remains high, and the original family and marriage can bring less and less security to women. So what to do? Single women have to give themselves a sense of security, and the house can provide us with a sense of security that will never be abandoned.