In the small river of Shandong's hometown, you can often see an old couple, fishing and chatting slowly. The two old men are already seventy or eighty years old, but they are still inseparable and gracious. The people in the village say that this is a match made in heaven!
I especially envy them, this kind of old husband and wife is really rare. Don't talk about my parents, I've been married for ten years, and my relationship has long been as light as boiled water, if it weren't for the fact that we still have a child, we would have divorced a long time ago. So I asked my grandmother curiously: Grandma, why are you and grandpa so affectionate? Over the years, the relationship has not only not faded, but has gotten better and better.
Grandma said with a smile: "We have a good relationship, the key is because we established a deep emotional foundation when we were young. To be precise, it is because your grandmother was willing to pay unconditionally for your grandfather when she was young, which made us happy in the second half of our lives. ”
Well? This made me curious: "Grandma, what are you willing to do for grandpa unconditionally?" ”
There are three main things. First, surprise him. I worked that year, and although the salary was not high, I would remember to buy a small gift for my grandfather on a special day. Birthday, Valentine's Day, every time grandpa will be happy like a child! At that moment, I felt that all my hard work was worth it, because I could make him so happy. ”
Wow, I can't do that! On my husband's birthday and wedding anniversary, I won't even say a word of blessing. ”
The second thing is that I am willing to spend time with him. At that time, your grandfather was short-tempered and under a lot of work pressure, and often called ** in the middle of the night to let me go. I had to go to work the next day, but I always rushed to it. Supporting him in his most vulnerable moments made your grandpa feel very secure. ”
I can't do that! My husband hit ** in the middle of the night, and I hung him directly. ”
The third thing is to give him spiritual support. Your grandfather's career was not going well at that time, and he often had low self-esteem and depression. I'll just hug him and say, no matter what the outside says, you'll always be the best person in my eyes. Then I will list all his good things to him ... It gave him back his confidence and reinvigorated himself. ”
Hehe, my husband complained to me, and I just sent him away with a sentence of 'you can solve it yourself'. ”
Grandma sighed and said, "I know, young people nowadays are very fast-paced,"Special days are also gradually forgotten. But I still want to say that loving someone is like planting land, you can cultivate it with a lot of effort in the early stage, and you can harvest it in the later stage. If you are unwilling to give time and care at the beginning, when you are old, the field of feelings will be wasted, and there will be a good harvest and good fruit? ”
I felt like I had been struck by lightning, and my grandmother's words woke me up. It turns out that the root cause of my discord with my husband is that I ignore the three elements of love. Maybe it's not too late to remedy, I'm going to give my husband another chance!
So, I began to consciously invest time, energy, and money in my husband. I gave him a tie on Valentine's Day, bought a watch for his birthday, and went to pick him up from work every day... Every time my husband has a happy and grateful expression on his face, I feel extremely happy and satisfied!
As the days went by, my husband changed. He began to take the initiative to help me with the housework, and often checked the strategies and took me out to play. Our relationship is gradually heating up, just like going back to when we were in love!
Now that I'm old, I'm dependent on my husband. The happiest thing every day is to go fishing with my husband to the river, chatting with each other. Whenever I look at my husband's side face and get distracted, he will also turn his head to look at me tenderly. This sweetness is exchanged for three things, giving, time and dependence. This is a choice I would give again without hesitation!