2024 Chinese New Year Outlook In the new year, when you educate your children or help them with their homework, will you still drop your mobile phone, step on your children's watercolor pens, and smash things? In the new year, we must change ourselves, and change ourselves in order to change our children. Let's take a look at the following case.
Because my youngest daughter was grinding and chirping in her homework, and she had been distracted and didn't want to write, she deliberately couldn't clean up the watercolor pen, I shouted a few times and couldn't move, and threw the watercolor pen on the ground angrily, she still had to pick it up, I stepped on it with one foot, she cried and made a lot of noise, saying why did I step on it, I said I bought it for you, I wanted to step on it, but she didn't write her homework and cried for a night, I beat her, my eldest daughter accused me of saying that I shouldn't be like this, am I wrong? ”
Is the above case often played out among our parents? I think, first of all, I am one of them. But after I dropped my phone, I regretted it, and many things could never be recovered.
Many times we as parents sometimes find it difficult to control their emotions when their children make trouble, some drop mobile phones, some smash TVs, some smash toys, some hit children, some smash tables, chairs and benches, etc., this is actually to vent their own hatred in their hearts at that time, reluctant to hit children, they can only smash objects, we must find an outlet, I am the parent who dropped his mobile phone. Looking back, I could drop a dispensable thing, why should I drop my phone?
After calming down and thinking about it, I feel that as a parent, it is necessary to discipline my children, but sometimes we must pay attention to the ways and methods of discipline. Avoid negative psychological effects on children, such as you and me smashing mobile phones and stepping on daughters' watercolor pens may cause fear and helplessness to children.
How so? When I stomp your child's watercolor pencil to the ground, you may make her feel neglected or disrespected. In fact, the child is only interested in painting or watercolor pens at this time, and loves to draw, but if we destroy the child's things at will, she will feel disrespected and have no sense of existence in this home. But their parents treated them like treasures.
Secondly, we will make the child feel disgusted and rebellious, which will end up being more difficult to discipline. So what can we do and solve the problem, which is not too harmful to the child?
As parents, we try to avoid and refrain from using excessive behaviour to manage our children, but there are still some punishments, such as hand-spanking and spanking. But before we fight, we have to make him understand why we are punishing him. It is best to communicate with her in a didactic way to understand her thoughts and needs, and guide her to do this as you want. More often than not, we sea lions should respect the child's interests and hobbies and support his meaningful ideas, so as to establish a better parent-child relationship and contribute to the healthy growth of the child.
Things, if you don't drop it, you won't drop it, if you can't smash it, you won't smash it, and we must pay for it ourselves in the end, aren't we, parents?