Nowadays, marriage seems to have become a "business";
The house ticket and car on the bright side are the primary factors that many people consider when looking for a partner, and the other party's family, character and character, these relatively important and extremely important factors, are actually ignored by some people;
What makes people speechless is that a person's growth environment since childhood, as well as the way of doing things and the three views of parents, often have a far-reaching impact on their children, and are the key to their establishment of a harmonious and happy marriage, but they have become the "second choice" of others.
As a parent, be sure to tell your daughter that choosing a partner for marriage, a car and a house are only secondary, and the key depends on each other's parents;
When encountering the following three types of parents, there is a high probability that the children's marriage will be unhappy, don't believe it.
Without loving parents, it is difficult to raise a gentle, kind, loving and strong person.
A person who has never been loved since childhood will most likely not give love and understand love correctly in marriage;
If your daughter mentions her sweetheart to you, please tell her that she should carefully understand the man's family and her parents' daily attitude towards him.
Someone once said that in the process of a person's growth, how he views his parents can largely determine the future fate of the child;
If the man, when it comes to his parents, is full of resentment and pain, thinking that he has not been loved since he was a child, and his parents are not faithful to his marriage, and they still ignore and dislike him, ridicule and sarcasm, and beat or scold, then even if the daughter loves the man again, she must consider this marriage carefully;
In this world, there are indeed parents who know how to repent and reform, but more often are stubborn and obsessed parents;
They have caused great harm to their children, and affected their children's cognition of marriage and feelings, when their children start family life, there is a high probability that they will repeat the tragedy of the original family and make the marriage a mess;
In reality, many parents and children have a "pasty" relationship, entangled with each other, sticky and inseparable;
This relationship, if allowed to continue, will definitely affect the children's future married life;
For example, some parents are very controlling, like to mix with their sons' various decisions, do not consider their daughters-in-law's feelings, and use the way they treat their children, hold their sons in the palm of their hands, solve problems for him, refuse their sons to dominate their own lives, and refuse him to become mature;
Some parents, once their son rebels against him, thinks that it is his daughter-in-law's idea, usually does not listen to his son's advice, insists on going his own way, makes the family jump, and the relationship with the daughter-in-law is tense;
When you meet this kind of family, I advise you not to marry your daughter, otherwise she will live a life of grievance and depression and darkness;
If your husband doesn't give her strength, can't adjust, and can't stick to her own position, then your daughter's private space and autonomy will be "violated", and there is no freedom at all.
Everyone wants to live as well as possible, but the premise is that they must have a down-to-earth and hard-working character;
Some parents, raising their children themselves, expect him to give themselves super high returns;
When they were young, they cared little about their children, and even caused trouble everywhere, fulfilling their parents' responsibilities.
When they are old, they think that their children should take it for granted that they should meet all their needs, so they take what they want, and they live by asking for them all day long.
When you encounter this kind of shameless and despicable family, you don't want to marry your daughter, on the one hand, the other party's parents are a "troublemaker", and it is easy to give birth to various incidents after marriage, making it difficult for your in-laws to get along;
On the other hand, they are likely to involve their daughter-in-law, drag and entangle their daughter-in-law, bring trouble to their daughter-in-law's work and life, and make your daughter's small family uneasy.
Therefore, this kind of family without a down-to-earth character must be resolutely rejected.
In the matter of marriage, parents should give their daughters more valuable advice;
Remind them that marriage is not child's play, it requires a lot of determination, and it will also make a woman pay a high price;
Therefore, we must not only look at the other person's personal quality and three views, but also look at his parents and family.
Families who do not have the above three things should not marry them, otherwise they will regret it for the rest of their lives.
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