Is suffering education still relevant? Do you have to endure the hardships of life if you don't suffer from studying?
Nowadays, many traditional parents believe that children should endure social aggression and learn to endure hardships in order to get ahead in the future, just like they did when they were children. But today's children live in a different era, and now there is nothing to be fed and unable to find a job, so children do not have to suffer in the process of growing up.
Some parents will think that their children's hardships are not for their parents, but so that parents can continue to polish their children's hearts and let their children have the spirit of perseverance. Parents who pursue this concept should know that the most important thing for hard-working education is to meet two basic conditions, if these two basic conditions are not met, then the child is likely to bear a lot of psychological pressure in the future.
First of all, the first basic condition is that the child must participate voluntarily. Many parents let their children endure hardship, that is, let their children do it in their own learning process, so let their children bear more learning pressure than others when they are very young, and let their children take on excessive learning tasks, which will only make children more disgusted with learning and parents.
When educating children to endure hardship, parents should pay attention to whether the child is willing to endure this hardship, and the premise should be whether the child will voluntarily endure this part of the hardship because he is interested in this matter, rather than being forced by the parents.
For example, if a child loves to play basketball, you should support their hobby and give them a chance to develop their interest. In the process of developing a hobby of basketball, children will definitely go through a lot of hardships and are likely to suffer some setbacks.
Parents should not let their children give up easily, do not feel sorry for their children, let their children understand the hardships of learning and hobbies, and let their children grow up in the grinding.
Secondly, in the process of learning to endure hardships, we must have the company and comfort of our parents. It is okay for parents to have difficulty in teaching, but in the process of education, parents must give a certain amount of companionship. There is a world of difference between a child who grows up with a father and a child who grows up without a father. When a child encounters setbacks, the father's presence not only boosts the child's motivation but also motivates the child to face the setback more courageously.
Parents should give their children some comfort when they are struggling or failing. In the process of growing up, children lack the love of their parents, not material satisfaction. Only the approval and comfort of parents can truly ** the child's heart.
Parents must not be stingy with their own comfort, often comforting children can not only help to enter the child's inner world, let children open their hearts to their parents, but also let children enhance their self-confidence, knowing that their parents will always be their spiritual pillars, so that they can pursue their ideals more courageously and confidently in their studies and later life.
To educate children about hardships, we must find the right way and understand the essentials, so as to exercise children's willpower and cultivate children's perseverance. If you blindly let your child endure hardship, it will put your child under great pressure from an early age, which is not conducive to your child's physical and mental development.