Social life is inseparable from the "bureau", the wine party, the dinner party, the tea party, and the game game.
"Bureau" is actually a circle, through various bureaus, to know all kinds of people;
Even in the game, meet a noble friend on the stage!
When others have the heart to invite you, if you answer "I have something", it is extremely blunt and perfunctory;
Without explanation, it will be embarrassing.
People with high emotional intelligence usually don't say these three words, but skillfully refuse.
01. Make good use of euphemistic language
Directly use "I have something" to reject the other party, if the other party values you more, most of them will get to the bottom of it.
It is better to be generous and sincere, and tell the other party your unspeakable secrets, such as "I am not feeling well", such as "I promised others to pay an agreement", etc., to express your embarrassment, so that the other party can understand.
02. Communicate in advance to avoid misunderstandings
Sometimes, we have to work overtime, and we are really busy on weekdays.
At this time, if we can't go to other people's drinking parties, we can talk about our own arrangements in advance, or say our unfinished business, communicate well, and avoid misunderstandings.
After all, no wine or dinner can delay our own work.
03. Honest and polite expression
If you clearly know what the reason for the opponent's game is, and you are very resistant to it.
You can be honest with each other, thank them for the invitation, and explain why you can't leave.
Or tell the other party, what you say in your heart, why don't you want to go, trust your friends, and won't be difficult!
04. Use other plans as an excuse
In fact, in interpersonal communication, we often use other plans as an excuse to reject each other politely.
For example, I already have some arrangements, for example, I have made an appointment with my friend before.
We can't be dishonest people, so generously saying the plan, not only will it not hurt people, but it will gain goodwill!
05. Alternative suggestions have been made to maintain the relationship
I can't really be there this time, but I'm looking forward to the next meeting. ”
Then say that the meal is very distinctive, choose a location, and then invite the other party.
This not only reflects your own politeness, but also reflects the importance you value him.
Refuse the other party's invitation, and the next time you invite him, but if you use this excuse to refuse, you must really fulfill your promise!
06. Keep a smile and a friendly attitude
Even if there are people you don't like in the opponent's game, don't show disgust, don't put negative emotions on your face, and let others easily pick out the mistakes.
With a smile on your face, you can say your own arrangement, there is really no way to agree to the other party's invitation, your words are real, your attitude is sincere, and you can help you gain trust.
Speaking is a science
If it is too straightforward, it may cause misunderstanding among others;
Only by being tactful can you win the favor of others!
Of course, if you want to interact with each other often
Don't always say no to others, either.
The art of learning a language
polite and sincere refusal;
The language is euphemistic, expressing an embarrassed refusal.
It's better than you just saying "I have something".
Be much more comfortable
It is also good for the maintenance of relationships!