Recently, I found myself in a state of exhaustion and lack of motivation.
* The root cause of this lies in our working environment: a large open-plan office with a lot of noise and people from various departments. If you can't manage your attention effectively, you can easily be drawn by the noise around you, resulting in frequent interruptions to work, unnecessary consumption of time and energy, and significant reduction in work efficiency.
At the end of the day, I often find that my plan is not completed, and the tasks accumulate to the next day, which invisibly increases my stress.
As time went on, my mood became more and more irritable and my mood gradually decreased.
Luckily, I have a strong sense of self-awareness. Once I realized that my state was abnormal, I began to seriously reflect and adjust, starting from 3 aspects to reduce unnecessary internal friction and effectively protect my energy.
1. Be silent and silent
We often hear that "the environment shapes people", and if we can't be aware of the impact of the environment on us in time, we are like a frog that is slowly boiled, facing a crisis without realizing it.
After realizing the difficulties caused by the office environment, I began to take steps to adjust my behavior patterns.
The initial change was to reduce conversations as much as possible.
When people around me are discussing something, I try to curb my curiosity and avoid inadvertently listening or joining the discussion.
I understand that once you're involved in a conversation, you tend to get bogged down in endless exchanges.
I try not to participate in discussions unless they are directly related to my work.
Keeping my attention focused is extremely important to me.
By remaining silent, my mind becomes calmer, my brain is no longer distracted by things that are not related to work, and my energy is conserved more efficiently.
Once you are able to calm down and focus on your work, you will find that your worries and conflicts are greatly reduced, and your work efficiency will naturally increase significantly.
As Ernest Hemingway said, "It took us two years to learn to speak, but it took sixty years to learn to shut up." ”
This quote profoundly shows the importance and difficulty of learning to remain silent.
2. Shielding and filtering information
In order to prevent the unnecessary loss of one's own energy, an important strategy is to filter out information that is not relevant to oneself.
In this age of information overflow, we are often overwhelmed by endless amounts of information.
Many times, when you are going to complete a task, but you are distracted by constantly browsing social ** or **, and as a result, the task is delayed, and you feel busy and anxious instead.
Liu Tong once mentioned: "If you invest your time in **, your achievements will be in **."
The variety of information in our phones often inadvertently occupies our attention.
Nowadays, most of the content we are exposed to is carefully selected and pushed by algorithms.
The most effective way to protect your energy is to reduce the use of your mobile phone and be clear about your goals and directions, rather than being manipulated by algorithms.
I once looked at my WeChat group and found that I actually participated in more than 50 group chats. If you have to check these groups every day, it's easy to waste an hour or two.
So, I decided to organize WeChat and only keep the group chats that are really important to me, and only review the necessary information.
John B. Goodenough, who won the 2019 Nobel Prize in Chemistry at the age of 97, has not much secret to his success, the key lies in his concentration and ability to eliminate all external distractions.
Since the age of 50, he has been focusing on the research of lithium-ion batteries, and has continued to explore in depth, and after 40 years of focus and hard work, he finally achieved outstanding results.
3. Do not intervene in the cause and effect of others
The key point is to learn not to interfere with the causal cycle of others, including those closest to us.
A friend of mine shared her own experience of her brother who was in debt due to online loans, and she tried to help pay off some of the debt, but the problem was not fundamentally solved. She worries about it every day and is depressed.
As a highly sensitive person, she also feels fear, sadness, and anger because of the unfortunate events she reported.
I myself used to be the type of person who loved to worry about it, and I often felt heavy and uncomfortable with my life because of it.
But I have come to realize that everyone has their own destiny, and that today's suffering is the result of the accumulation of factors from the past.
Each of us comes into this world with our own tasks to complete.
Learn to let go of the mentality of always wanting to help others, respect the life trajectory of others, avoid easily intervening in the causal relationship of others, and bear the fate of others, which will only consume your own energy in the end.
After all, in this complex world, being able to understand yourself and live your life to the best is already an extremely difficult and proud thing.