On the road of life, we are all looking for a deep connection with others, looking for the feelings that can make our hearts move and make us feel understood. However, some people always seem to be stuck in an unhealthy cycle of feelings, and they repeatedly get stuck in painful relationships from which they can't help themselves. So, what exactly causes them to fall into this cycle?
First, we need to recognize that everyone has their own emotional needs and attachment patterns. These patterns and needs tend to form in our early lives, such as interactions with parents during childhood. If we don't get enough love and security early on, we may develop an emotional pattern of dependence on others that can lead us into unhealthy relationships as adults.
Second, some people may lack self-awareness and emotion management skills. They may not be clear about their needs and boundaries, and they may not be able to express their feelings effectively. This can lead them to become overly dependent on each other in the relationship or even sacrifice their own needs to meet each other. Such unbalanced relationships often lead to bitterness and dissatisfaction.
Finally, social and cultural factors may also play a role. In some social and cultural contexts, we may be taught to be dependent on others, or to think that love should be painful and sacrificed. This perception may make us lack the awareness and ability to protect ourselves in the face of unhealthy relationships. To break this unhealthy cycle of feelings, we need to first recognize our emotional needs and attachment patterns, learn to protect ourselves and express our feelings. At the same time, we need to change outdated and unhealthy notions that healthy relationships should be based on equality, respect and mutual support. Only in this way can we get out of the unhealthy cycle of feelings and find happiness that truly belongs to us.