Life is like a dream, and a bottle is still a river. This is a famous sentence by the Tang Dynasty poet Liu Xiyi, expressing his feelings and helplessness about life. Indeed, life is like a dream, you will wake up in the blink of an eye, leaving only some vague memories and endless regrets. The impermanence of life makes us have to face the reality of aging and make us think about how to spend our old age.
When people get old, what are they most afraid of? It's loneliness. Loneliness is an invisible killer that can make people lose their meaning and motivation in life, and make people fall into despair and depression. The movie "Father Trapped in Time" tells the story of an old man who suffers from Alzheimer's disease, gradually loses his cognition of time and space, and also loses his memory of himself and his family, and finally only loneliness and fear remain. This film makes us feel the helplessness and sadness of the elderly, and also makes us realize the importance of having a good relationship with the people around us. In life, no one can survive alone, we all need someone to accompany us, someone to care about, someone to support. Therefore, we need to learn to understand our children, although they may not be with us all the time, they also have their own lives and responsibilities, and they will also help and comfort us when we need them. We need to learn to communicate with our partners, they are our closest people and the people we are most likely to ignore, we need to spend more time with them, share each other's thoughts and feelings, and increase mutual understanding and trust. We must learn to cherish our relatives and friends, they are an important part of our lives, but also our spiritual sustenance and pillars, we should contact them more, participate in their activities more, and give them more care and help.
What is the reason why people are suffering when they live? It's because there is too much internal friction. Internal friction is an invisible consumption that can make people lose balance and harmony, and make people fall into tension and contradictions. The British playwright George Bernard Shaw once said: "Life should have three or seven points, three points are destined, and seven points depend on hard work." This sentence tells us that life is not completely determined by fate, nor is it completely controlled by oneself, but there must be certain trade-offs and balances. Therefore, we must learn to combine work and rest, work is for life, not for work, we must arrange our time and energy reasonably, do not overwork, do not be overly idle, and find a rhythm and way that suits us. We must learn to leave feelings blank, feelings are to enhance intimacy, not to possess each other, we must respect each other's personality and choices, do not interfere too much, do not rely too much, and find a distance and space suitable for each other. We must learn to eat in moderation, diet is to nourish the body, not to satisfy desires, we must pay attention to our eating habits and health conditions, do not be overly hungry, do not overeat, and find a nutrition and taste that suits us.
There is no eternal backing in life, this is a cruel truth, and it is also a fact that must be accepted. Life is a game, sometimes we have good luck, sometimes we have bad luck, sometimes we get help, sometimes we lose support. An example is Liu Chan during the Three Kingdoms period, who was originally a lucky man who inherited the inheritance of his father Liu Bei, owned the rivers and mountains of Shu Han, and enjoyed the glory of the emperor. However, he was also an unfortunate man, who encountered the death of Zhuge Liang, lost the wisdom of Shu Han, was attacked by Sima Zhao, abandoned the empire of Shu Han, and finally became a captive. This story allows us to see the impermanence and changes of life, and also makes us understand the necessity of relying on ourselves and living for ourselves. Therefore, we must learn to bear the burden, life cannot be smooth sailing, we will always encounter some difficulties and challenges, we must have the courage and confidence to face them, do not give up easily, do not easily ask for help, to find a suitable solution and coping with ourselves. We have to learn to bear the joy and suffering, life cannot be happy all the time, we will always experience some pain and loss, we must have strength and patience to bear it, do not grieve excessively, do not avoid excessively, and find a release and adjustment that suits us. We must learn to play bravely, life cannot always be stable, we will always face some choices and opportunities, we must have wisdom and determination to game, do not hesitate excessively, do not take excessive risks, to find a grasp and balance that suits us.
When people are old, these three "life-saving straws" are more important than savingsHave a good relationship with the people around you so that you are not lonely; There are three or seven points of wisdom, so that you do not suffer; Rely on yourself more, know how to live for yourself, and make yourself not helpless. These three life-saving straws are the guarantee and motivation of our later life, and the wealth and meaning of our life. From now on, let us hold these three life-saving straws in our hands, so that our old age will be more exciting, and our people's lives will be more valuable. I hope that everyone can have a happy old age and a good life.