“The industry is good at diligence and frolic, and the line is successful in thinking and destroying” 。In learning, only those who are focused and diligent can achieve results. Today, with the development of the Internet and smart phones, the ocean of games is colorful and vivid simulation of reality, and it is still impossible to resist, and the sinking of children has become understandable.
My kids pick up their phones and play games first thing after school, and there's really nothing I can do! ”
Because of playing games, the child's grades have declined, and his eyesight is not good at a young age! ”
What should I do if my child is still addicted to video games? The more I forbid, the more the child won't listen, and there is simply no way to do it. ”
Why do children always hold their mobile phones and play non-stop, why can't adults listen to what they say for them? And what is the way to get children to get rid of their phones, look up at the world around them again, and spend more energy on learning?
First of all, be clear:
They are puzzled as to why parents who want to ban their children from playing games almost end up failing:I've already banned it, why doesn't it work?
One mother said that even if the child's mobile phone was confiscated, the child would secretly borrow the mobile phone from classmates to play; Because he was forbidden to play with his mobile phone, his own children even yelled at him and threw things.
A blanket ban only makes the child more resistantWhy is that?
In psychology there is an effect called ".Forbidden Fruit EffectThe more forbidden things are, the more people have to get their hands on them. This has to do with people's instinctive curiosity and rebellion. So, once banned from playing games, the parent's ban will be a booster to push the child into the game.
So,Instead of hating mobile games, it is better to really get to know your childto find the right solution to help your child quit internet addiction.
So, how to properly deal with the problem of children who love to play games?
1. Parents should set an example and create a good family environment
Parents are the best teachers for their children, and their behavior will have a subtle impact on their children.
If parents can fully understand the important influence of the words and deeds of their elders and the family environment on their children, I believe that every parent can understand what to do. If parents create an atmosphere of reading, children are also likely to make changes.
2. Don't ignore the importance of communication
Do you really know your child with your heart? Have you ever communicated patiently with your child?
Most of the reasons why a child is addicted to games are because he can get what he needs in real life but lacks in the game, perhaps the joy of success, or the power of self-confidence......
Parents may wish to be more patient, squat down, listen to their children's voices, and enter their children's inner world in effective communication and exchanges, and slowly find the root cause of the incident.
3. The cultivation of binding force is very important
The Internet is full of **, and it is easy for both adults and children to indulge in it. Therefore, this is an era of Internet application popularization, and the sooner children develop the ability of self-restraint, the more they can face the Internet calmly when they grow up.
Primary school is a key stage for children's self-restraint, and the cultivation of restraint requires the guidance of parents. Parents and children can negotiate rules that are mutually acceptable to both parents and children, and most importantly, clear rewards and punishments.
4. Expand the scope of interest and interact more with the outside world
Sports, making friends, outdoor activities, ......Are children's potential interests, children's nature is to love to play and move, interesting external activities can easily attract children, basketball, football, table tennis are a good way to exercise, and can make friends from it, parents may wish to gradually guide, cultivate children's contact with the outside world, so that children can naturally reduce the time to play games, to prevent children from indulging.
Have parents gotten the above methods? Parents who have mastered the right methods and delved into their children's hearts can save their children from the whirlpool of games.